Izindaba ezingalindelekile zokungathembeki komngane wakho womshado zingenza owesifazane okhohlisayo abe ukucindezeleka noma amqhube ezenzweni ezingenangqondo. Indlela yokusinda ekukhonjweni komuntu othandekayo - ukweluleka iseluleko se-psychologist. Kodwa-ke, kufanele kukhunjulwe ukuthi izenzo zezinguquko "ezinzima" nezingaguquki zihlukile.
Indlela yokusinda ukukhashelwa komyeni wakhe - iseluleko somqondo wezengqondo
Izindaba ezingalindelekile zokuhlubuka, ziwela phansi njenge "iqhwa ekhanda," izazi zengqondo zihumusha ngokuthi "zibukhali." Ulwazi olushintshayo "ushintsho olunzima" luholela kumuntu esimweni esingaphezu kokucindezeleka: ubuchopho bakhe bukhungathekile ngokushesha imicabango nemizwelo ehlukahlukene. Ukubuhlungu kwengqondo obukhali kungabangela umonakalo omkhulu ohlelweni lwezinzwa, ngakho okokuqala kudingekile ukuba "uqale kabusha". Phuma ku-stupor, uphonsa okungahambi kahle nokucindezeleka kuzosiza:
- umsebenzi wemoto - ogijima, oweqa;
- ukushaya amakhishi noma izitsha;
- ukukhala;
- khala.
Izazi zengqondo azicebisi ukuba zivimbele ngokwabo futhi zigcine ubuhlungu ngokwabo - lokhu kugcwele izifo ezimbi, hhayi kuphela isimiso sezinzwa, kodwa futhi se-somatic.
Isinyathelo esilandelayo sowesifazane okhohlisayo ukuzitholela umsebenzi ukuze agcwalise ukungabi nalutho okwakhiwe. Uma ungasayidingi konke kusihlwa nangezimpelasonto ukuzinikela ekuphekeni, ekuhlanjeni nasekuseni, ungafunda ulimi lwangaphandle, uqale ukuya ejimini futhi uvame ukungena emvelweni.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yisiphi isinqumo esizokwenziwa - ukuhlukanisa nomthengisi noma cha, owesifazane kudingeka asebenze yena ngokwakhe. Futhi lokhu akufanele kube ukuzithiba ukuze uzizwe "uhluphekile futhi ungajabuli", umgomo oyinhloko - ukuthola amaphuzu okuthuthukiswa, wenze ukuphila kwakho kujabulise ngisho nalapho kwenzeka isehlukaniso.
Indlela yokusinda ukungathembeki okuqhubekayo komyeni wakhe - iseluleko somqondo wezengqondo
Ngokuvamile - okungavamile - ukungathembeki komyeni wakhe kubangela nokulimala okukhulu kwengqondo yowesifazane. Kukholelwa kakhulu ukuthi uma oshade naye ehlushwa i-adventure "engakwesokunxele", khona-ke uyamfanisa. Kodwa-ke, ngokuvamile umndeni onjalo ugcinwa ndawonye yizingane nezimali. Isimo sinzima kakhulu uma umfazi ethanda ngobuqotho umyeni ongathembeki.
Owesifazane, uma ethatha isinqumo sokuhlala nomyeni ohambayo, kufanele anciphise ukuthembela ngokomzwelo nangokwenyama kumuntu. Ukuzimela ngokwengeziwe, ukuzimela nokwanelisayo owesifazane kuyoba, ukucindezeleka okuncane uzothola. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kungenzeka ukuthi umlingani "ovuselelwe" uzophinde athole ukunakwa komyeni wakhe. Futhi uma lokhu kungenzeki, omunye umuntu angase avele endleleni yowesifazane, ozoyithanda.