Ngezinye izikhathi owesifazane angacabange ukuthi indlela yakhe yokuhawukela ihlobene kanjani naye. Phakathi kosuku lokuqala kanye nesimemezelo sothando, njengoba umthetho, isikhathi esiningi kufanele sidlule. Kuthiwani uma ukubekezela kuphelile futhi indoda ithanda ukuyiqonda kanjani, nini kubaluleke kangaka? Ake sihlele ngokuhlelekile.
Ngokuqinile ngamaphuzu
Abesifazane ngezinye izikhathi babonisa isibindi kanye nesinyathelo sokuqashelwa ngemizwa. Kodwa ngaphambi kokutshela umfana noma indoda ngothando lwakhe, ngifuna ukuqonda ukuthi uyayithanda futhi. Emva kwakho konke, sonke, indlela eyodwa noma enye, sibalo kanye nethemba lokuphindaphindiwe.
Ukuthi indoda idonselwa kuwe kuphela ngamazwi wezocansi, izothi lezi zibonakaliso ezilandelayo:
- akavame ukucabangisisa ngebhizinisi lakho nemicabango yakho, ekhetha ngokushesha ukuba "wehlele ebhizinisini";
- uyasuka ekuxazululeni izinkinga zakho, akanikeli usizo kanye nosizo;
- awuvamile ukuya noma kuphi, isibonelo, kumabhayisikobho noma kuqembu. Ngokuyinhloko, uchitha isikhathi noma omunye wakho ekhaya, noma egumbini lehhotela;
- akafuni ukukhuluma nawe ngezinto ezinzulu, izindaba zakhe, umndeni wakhe kanye nezingane;
- intuition ikutshela ukuthi lobu buhlobo busekelwe kuphela ocansini.
Kubuye kwenzeke ukuthi indoda ikubona njengomngane, umngane, kodwa akukho lutho. Akafuni ukucasula isihawu sakho esicacile kuye, ngakho uzama ukuziphatha kahle. Amantombazane amaningi aphikisana nalokhu cishe ngesiphakamiso sokuqala kwesandla nenhliziyo. Akudingekile ukondla izinkolelo, uma:
- akazethuli kwabanye njengentombi yakhe;
- engxoxweni nawe, uvame ukukhuluma ngendlela enenhlanhla ngayo nomngane onjalo;
- unikeza uthando ngezeluleko ngamanye amadoda, uzama ukukujwayela nabangane bakhe;
- sebenzisa isikhathi ndawonye uma ungumqashi wale holide ehlangene;
- wenza okuthile lapho kwenzeka ukuthi uthembisa ukuthi uzokwenza.
Ukubusa jikelele
Ukuqonda ukuthi umuntu uyakuthanda, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ungumyeni wakho, umthandi, noma umthandi wangaphambili. Kunezikhathi ezithile ezinikezela noma yiliphi ummeleli wesigamu esiphezulu, "osuleleke" ngomswakama wothando. Ungangabazi imizwa yakhe uma:
- indoda ibonisa isithakazelo esikhethekile kuwe. Uhlala ezwa ukuthi ibhizinisi lakho liyini, kwenzekani okusha emsebenzini, ekhaya, emndenini, njll;
- uyakunika izibonakaliso ezimnandi zokunakwa, uzama ukuqagela imizwa yakho nezifiso;
- Uyesaba kakhulu phambi kwakho, ngezinye izikhathi amahlaya angaphumeleli, kodwa njalo ulalelisisa lokho okushoyo;
- indoda ithatha ingxenye empilweni yakho, ukunakekelwa. Linikeza usizo lwaso ekuxazululeni izinkinga, kuhlanganise nezimali;
- uhlonipha umbono wakho;
- indoda ilalela iseluleko sakho;
- Ungakugxeka ngaphandle kwesizathu esikhethekile;
- njalo ukhuluma nabantu ababajwayele, izihlobo nabantu bomdabu;
- Ungakhohlwa ukubiza okungenani kanye ngosuku bese ubuza ukuthi izimpumelelo zakho ziphi;
- uthanda izingane zakho ngokufanayo naye;
- uyayithanda ingane yakho, ngubani ongumama wayo;
- ukwakha izinhlelo zekusasa, lapho kunendawo khona;
- kaningi hhayi "Mina", kepha "thina";
- embhedeni, unendaba ngesifiso sokuletha injabulo enkulu kuwe;
- umuntu othanda wena ngeke aphakamise isandla sakhe ngokumelene nawe.
Ekuphethweni
Uyini uthando lomuntu? Ukunakekela, ukubekezela, ukupha nokunye okuningi, njengoba sesichazile kakade. Noma kunjalo, kufanelekile ukucabangela isici esisodwa.
Ngokuqondene namadoda, izinto zihlukile kancane lapha. Kuye, uthando lomfazi kuyinjabulo, injabulo ehambisana nayo. Lokhu akuyona nje ingxenye ebuseduze yobudlelwane, kodwa futhi nokuvumelana okungokomoya, ukusondelana, umphakathi wokuzijabulisa. Ngokushesha nje lapho lo mlingani eyeka ukuthola lokhu kuwe, ulahlekelwe yinto yakhe, ngakho-ke amathuba okuthi uzohamba aphezulu.
Khumbula lokhu futhi ungenzi amaphutha obuwula.