Naphezu kwabesifazane abaqhubekayo, iningi labesifazane liphupha ngothando, umndeni, izingane, ngakho abesifazane bazama ukuqonda ukuthi indoda ethandwayo iziphatha kanjani.
Umuntu omdala onothando uziphatha njani ebuhlotsheni?
Abesifazane bavame ukuvela ngezibonakaliso ezingekho khona zokuwa othandweni. Abaningi besifazane bakholelwa ukuthi uma umuntu ethanda, uziphatha njengomfana noma osemncane onamahloni. Noma kunjalo, lokhu kuyiqiniso kuphela ezimweni ezingavamile kakhulu, ngoba ubulili obuqinile buyisici esithile sokuvimbela nokulinganisela ekuboniseni imizwelo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukukhula komuntu ngokweqile kukhuluma ngokungahlanzeki kwakhe, okuholela ekungahambisani - namuhla umuntu onjalo "uyamthanda" owodwa, kusasa - omunye.
Kodwa nokho kukhona izibonakaliso zemicabango ejulile. Okokuqala, lezi zibonakaliso zokunakekela owesifazane. Indoda ethandwayo izama ngamandla akhe wonke ukwenza impilo yothandekayo ibe mnandi, ibe lula, ilula. Akakwazi ukunikeza izimbali hhayi ukushayela owesifazane kumabhayisikobho (nakuba lezi zenzo zithandwa kakhulu ngabesifazane), kodwa ngokuvamile uthola izipho ezidumile kakhulu - uthenga umshini wokudla, umshini wokuhlanza, ukhokhela imoto noma ukulungisa ikhompyutha. Indoda ethandwayo - osebenza naye emsebenzini-uziphatha njengomeluleki nomsizi: kusiza ngokuphatha ubuchwepheshe, ukukhuthaza nokuqondisa.
Yiqiniso, amadoda abathandanayo, abathandekayo abathandekayo abanezintambo, bakhona, kodwa lokhu kuyinto engavamile ukuthi akulutho ukulinda ukuphila kwakho konke, benqaba umnumzane othembekile kodwa othembekile. Futhi, kufanelekile ukukhuluma - umuntu akufanele acabange ngokungathí sina abathandi abasha abasha. Ukuthola kubo ukuthanda ukuqinisekiswa, ama-sms angapheli kanye nezingcingo, kungenzeka, futhi kumnandi, noma kunjalo, le mizwa iyingqayizivele futhi iyashesha.
Umuntu omdala uziphatha ebuhlotsheni njengomuntu onzulu futhi onomdla. Uhlola owesifazane wakhe othandekayo, izidingo zakhe, futhi ngokuvamile uhlela izinhlelo zokuphila ndawonye ndawonye izinyanga eziningi ezizayo. Umuntu onothando uyazithoba ekufuneni nasekufuneni kwenkosikazi yenhliziyo. Ukuze amjabulise, ummemezeli wezimbangi uyakwazi ukuphinde abheke i-melodrama yakhe ethandekayo noma amlethe phakathi nobusuku isitrobheli esivela esitolo esiseduze.
Isibonakaliso esicacile somzwelo womuntu ubuhlobo bobulili. Umuntu onothando akafaki ubulili kuqala futhi akafisi ukufunda ngokushesha othandekayo embhedeni, uyakwazi ukulinda futhi afake izidingo zobulili zomlingani ngaphezu kweyakhe.
Ukuqaphela isifiso socansi kungaba ngezizathu ezilandelayo:
- zonke izenzo zomuntu zihloselwe kuphela ukuthola "isinxephezelo" embhedeni;
- indoda ayinqikazi ukuqhathanisa owesifazane nabanye, yeluleka ukuba alahlekelwe isisindo noma abuyele enhle salon;
- umuntu okhangwa kuphela akahambanga ukuhoxisa izingxoxo ezinde, ikakhulukazi ngemuva kocansi - emva kokuthola okufunayo, ngokuzumayo "uyakhumbula" ngezindaba.
Mayelana nemicabango emibi yalowo muntu ukhuluma ezinye izibonakaliso:
- indoda enothando ibheka ubuhlobo futhi ayivumeli ngisho nokucabangela izinkathazo ezikwazi ukucasula nokuhlukanisa othandekayo;
- umthandi uyathemba unkosikazi wenhliziyo, ngakho-ke uzimisele ukuhlanganyela izindaba naye, ukubonisana;
- indoda ejulile ifuna ukwazi okwengeziwe ngezindaba zabathandekayo;
- ukupha komuntu othandayo kufinyelela kokubili kumkhakha wezinto ezibonakalayo nasezindaweni ezingokomoya-akayekeli izipho, isikhathi noma amandla.
Ngezinye izikhathi abesifazane banombuzo - ingabe indoda ethandweni ingaba nobudlova ? "Ukushaya kusho ukuthandana" - lesi simo sengqondo sithandwa kakhulu iminyaka eminingi, futhi namuhla kukhona amadoda nabesifazane abayibheka ukuthi kuvunyelwe ukushaya nokuhlukunyezwa ebuhlotsheni. Noma kunjalo, ukuhlukunyezwa komuntu onothando kuvunyelwe kuphela uma uvikela othandekayo kusuka ebuntwini obuyingozi.