Kuze kube manje, kukhona amathuba okwanda ukuthi ungabhekana nesimo lapho intombazane enhle futhi egcinwe ihlala ijikelezwe yedwa, naphezu kokuba usuku ngalunye luzwa ukuhlonishwa kwabantu. Futhi umngane wakhe onokubonakala okujwayelekile unomyeni onothando nezingane futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo ujabule kakhulu.
Ake sizame ukucabangela ukuthi kungani amadoda esaba abesifazane abalungile nokuthi angamisa kanjani isigamu esiphezulu sabantu ekuziphatheni ngale ndlela.
- Amadoda amaningi, lapho ehlangana nomfazi omuhle, lo mqondo uvela ukuthi akafanelanga ukunethezeka okunjalo futhi ngaphandle kwalokho ucabanga ukuthi kukhona ozobhapathizwa ngesandla sakhe, futhi ngokuqinisekile akekho owodwa. Futhi ezimweni eziningi, ukholelwa ukuthi uzochitha isikhathi ngeze uma ezama ukuxoxa naye.
- Ngaphezu kwalesi simo, amadoda ayesaba abesifazane abalungile, uma bekholelwa into eyodwa, ukuthi intombazane enjalo iyinhlanzi. Lokhu kungukuthi, uma ebonisa ubuhle ubuhle bakhe, ephonsa inselele yesibindi kuphela, ngakho-ke izicelo zakhe kufanele zibe yi-airy.
- Futhi umuntu oyimfihlo eyimfihlo yobuhle obungenakufinyeleleka, wahlala engxenyeni ebuhlungu obuhlangenwe nakho. Futhi waziqaphela ukuthi abesifazane abathandekayo bayizidalwa ezonakalisiwe.
- Uma owesilisa esaba ukulahlekelwa owesifazane, uyamhawukela esikhathini esidlule nangesikhathi esizayo, emele ibutho lemincintiswano. Lesi simo asikhululekile kubo bobabili abalingani. Ngenxa yalokho, ubuhlobo obunjalo bunomlando omfushane. Ekupheleni kwawo, amadoda amaningi aqinisekisayo ukuthi abesifazane abathandekayo bangabongwa kuphela.
Ezinye izizathu ezimbalwa
Mayelana nokuthi kungani owesilisa esaba owesifazane, bazama ukuthola kanye nososayensi bezokwelapha ngocwaningo lwabo. Kwakukhona ukuthi izimpendulo ezingu-70% ziyesaba ukuxhumana nomfazi omuhle, ngoba emaminithini ambalwa okukhulumisana abesaba futhi bazizwa besengozini kakhulu kunokujwayelekile, okubahola ngokushesha.
Ukuze siyeke ukwesaba isigamu esihle sabantu, kuyadingeka ukuba umuntu, okokuqala, avume yena ukuthi ujabule. Udinga ukuziqonda ukuthi yini okudingeka uyenze ukuze uzizwe ukhululekile. Lokhu kungcono ukuthi umuntu avuke futhi ahambe ngendlela eya kumuntu othakazelisayo noma evele ekhuluma ngokuqondile etafuleni. Hlela kuphela indoda, ngoba isisekelo sayo yonke into iyiduduzo.
Indoda iyesaba owesifazane omuhle, okokuqala, ngoba evumela ukuthi ama-stereotypes aqondise isimo sakhe sengqondo ngokubhekene nocansi obuthakathaka. Akufanele sikhohlwe ngokuzethemba kwethu, ukwenqaba ukuqagela okuhlukahlukene, futhi ngesibindi uyazi kangcono nentombazane enhle futhi engaqondakali.