Ubudlelwane phakathi kwabathandi, njengombuso, bungazinzile futhi buvame ukuqina. Ngemuva kwakho konke, thandana ubudlelwane akukubopheli noma yini futhi kwenzeke ngokuvumelana. Futhi uma lo lover ngokuzumayo eshiya, lo wesifazane uzocabangela indlela yokuyibuyisela.
Ungabuyisa kanjani umthandi?
Okokuqala, owesifazane ozithola esesimweni esinjalo kubaluleke kakhulu ukucabanga ngezizathu ezenza acabange futhi afisa ukubuyisela umthandi oshiyile. Uma owesifazane olahliwe usalokhu ezwa imizwa enamandla, isifiso nesifiso, khona-ke umbuzo wokuthi ungabuyisela kanjani lowo owayengumthandi wangaphambili ufanelekile futhi ufanelekile ngokugcwele.
Kodwa kunezimo lapho indima eyinhloko idlala khona ngokuziqhenya okwenziwe kabi kanye nokuzimela okuyisisekelo, okuyinto engabonakali kuphela kubamele abesilisa abanamandla, kodwa nabesifazane abaningi. Uma kulezi zici, ukubuyela kwe-errant kakade kuyisenzo sokuqinisekisa futhi, ngokwezinga elithile, lokuziphindiselela. Ngezizathu ezinjalo kungcono ukuphendukela kwesazi sengqondo bese ulungisa ubuhlobo, okokuqala, kubathandekayo bakho.
Impendulo yombuzo wokuthi ungabuyisela kanjani umthandi, ingqondo yesimanje, welule:
- Kumelwe sime kancane, silinde isikhathi lapho le ndoda yayinesikhathi sokuzwa ukuthi imkhumbula kahle inkosikazi yakhe eshiyiwe. Uma esenomunye owesifazane, isikhathi sizomnika ithuba lokuzithokozisa nokujwayela ukuvuthwa okusha.
- Isikhathi sokumisa kufanele sisetshenziswe ngokuhlakanipha, ukwenza ushintsho lwakho, ukuthuthukiswa nokuzithuthukisa . Ukubonakala kowesifazane ibhizinesi lakhe lebhizinisi, ungahlola izimfanelo zangaphakathi namakhono emva kwesikhashana, futhi ubone ubuhle, ukulungiswa kanye nenhle yendaba yesibili. Uma lover oshiywekile ebona umthandi wakhe wangaphambili engafanga nokulila, kodwa eguqulwa futhi evuselelwe, kuyomshaya futhi, okungenani, kumenze azibuze ukuthi uzimisele yini ukuphula lolu xhumano.
- Ngaphandle kwalokho kufanele ube yinto engavamile futhi uphazamise othandekayo wakho ngezingcingo nama-sms, lokhu kuziphatha akukhanga, kodwa kunalokho kuyaphenduka. Kubalulekile ukukhombisa ukuzihlonipha, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo ungafihli ukuzisola mayelana nobuhlobo obuphukile. Ngakho umuntu angaqonda ukuthi konke kungenziwa ukuzama ukubuyela.
Uma ubuyela umthandi, kubalulekile ukukhombisa ubuqili besifazane ngisho nokuyinkimbinkimbi, kodwa ungakhohlwa ngokuhlakanipha. Uma engabongi nje ngocansi nje kuphela, kodwa futhi nokukhulumisana, khona-ke uzoqala ukuyilahleka ngokushesha. Kufanelekile ukumnika leli thuba - ukuze ubone futhi ukhulume. Lapho ebuzwa ukuthi ungabuyisela kanjani umthandi oshadile, kunzima kakhulu ukuphendula. Phela, indoda eshadile ingazizwa izisola ngomfazi okhohlisa. Futhi-ke udinga ukuzibuza umbuzo wokuthi ngabe udinga umthandi okhuni, ongabaza futhi ohlukumeza futhi akulungile ukuthola umuntu wamahhala.