Ukuzikhukhumeza kuyinto, ngokungangabazeki okudingekile, kuphela okuzoqala? Ngezinyathelo zokuqala, izindlela zokuzithuthukisa ezifana nokuboniswa kanye nokuqinisekiswa akufanelekile isizathu esilula - asisazazi ukuthi yini ngempela esiyidingayo ukuze sibone ngeso lengqondo, asinayo uhlelo olucacile lokuzithuthukisa, ngakho-ke zonke lezi zindlela azisenalutho.
Indlela yokuzithuthukisa?
Kungani uqala inqubo yokuzithuthukisa? Kungokwemvelo ngokwakha uhlelo ngokwakho, ngokubeka imigomo. Zisebenze ngokwakho, ungazi ukuthi kufanele kwenzekani njengomphumela, akunakwenzeka. Ngakho-ke, okokuqala uhlelo lwakho lokuthuthuka luzobukeka okufana nalokhu.
- Isifiso sokuzithuthukisa sihle kakhulu, kepha umuntu akakwazi ukuhamba ngokwanele kuso, udinga ukuhlola izimpumelelo zakho, ukufaneleka kwakho kanye nokushiyeka kwakho. Amathuba alahlekile cishe awumphumela we "umsebenzi" weziphambeko zethu: ubuvila, ngokweqile (ukunganele) ukuzethemba, njll. Kuyafana nokuphila kwakho siqu - wenza into engalungile (cabanga ukuthi uma imizwa idlula, awudingi ukuyilalela, zama ukubala konke), ngakho akafuni ukuhlala phansi. Okokuqala, kudingeka sikhulume ngecala elingokomoya le nkinga. Yebo, ngaphandle kwemali noma kuphi, futhi sonke sifuna ukuba yinkampani ephumelelayo yebhizinisi. Kodwa cabanga, uma uya emgomweni wakho "ngekhanda", ukuzishaya abangane nokukhohlwa ngabathandekayo bakho futhi, ekugcineni, ukufeza lokho okufunayo, ingabe lokho kuzokujabulisa? Uma u-yebo, futhi phezulu kochungechunge lokudla umkhawulo wamaphupho, futhi awunandaba nemizwa nemizwelo, khona-ke akudingeki ucabange nganoma yikuphi ukuthuthukiswa ngokomoya. Yiya ekuqeqeshweni kwebhizinisi, funda ngokuphumelelayo ukuthi unqobe isithiyo futhi ukhawule kalula. Kuzo zonke ezinye izimo, udinga uhlelo lokuzithuthukisa, oluzofaka izindlela zokufeza impumelelo emkhakheni wezobuchwepheshe, nezindlela zokufinyelela ukulinganisela ngokomzwelo
- Ungaqala kanjani ukuzithuthukisa? Ngokunakekelwa othandekayo. Usuvele unesikhathi sokubheka uhlu lwezimfanelo zakho ezinhle nokubi, ungaqonda izizathu zokuhluleka kwakho. Manje sekuyisikhathi sokusebenza ngesici ngasinye esingalungile, ungabambeli konke ngesikhathi esisodwa, vumela indlela eya phezulu ibe kancane kancane, ukutakula okusheshayo kuyoba nokuphefumula okunempilo. Kuyini ukunakekelwa? Uzozenzela konke. Futhi ngaphandle kwalokho, ngitshele, awuboni yini ukukhathala nokubukeka okungabonakali ngezimbangela zokuhluleka kwakho, naphakathi kokushiyeka - ukunganaki impilo yakho nomzimba wakho? Kwakukhona lokho? Khona-ke kuwe njengoba kunoma ubani ofuna ukuzinakekela wena, lokhu kuyoba ukuqala kokuzithuthukisa kwakho. Uhlangothi olungokomoya luyadingeka, kodwa uma ungathathi kahle umzimba wakho, ungayinaki izidingo zayo, ngakho-ke nganoma iyiphi inkulumo yokuzikhuphula ayikwazi ukuhamba, awunayo amandla okwanele.
- Ngokuvamile asikwazi ukugxila kunoma iyiphi inqubo, ikhanda lezinkinga zemicabango, ukuhlelwa kwimodi engeyona ukusebenza, ukwesaba okungenangqondo kuphazamisa umbono womgomo wesimo. Kuzo zonke lokhu udinga ukuqeda, funda ukugxila enkingeni, ukubeka phambili phambili, uhlanze imicabango yakho. Ekugcineni, ukuzindla kuyoba umsizi omuhle - kuzosindisa insimu yakho yolwazi kusuka "kumathanga" futhi kuzokunika amandla adingekayo ukuze uqhubeke phambili. Emikhuba yaseMpumalanga, ukuzindla kuyadingeka ekamelweni elithule, ekuseni. Kodwa izimo zanamuhla azivumeli ngaso sonke isikhathi, ngakho-ke khetha isikhathi esilungele kuwe.
- Ukudla kwengqondo kufanele futhi kuthathe isinyathelo njalo, ungavumeli ubuchopho bulambile, ngaphandle kwalokho buzophenduka ibe yindoda enesifo esiphundu, esiphelelwa yisikhathi esincane kakhulu. Khetha isiqondiso esithakazelisayo kuwe (ngaphandle komsebenzi wakho siqu) futhi uyifunde. Funda amabhuku, hhayi ama-status kumanethiwekhi omphakathi,
bheka amafilimu amahle, hhayi ama-soap opas, bheka ama-interlocutors anolwazi. - Ukuzikhukhumeza kowesifazane kufanele kufaka phakathi umsebenzi womzimba. Ungadabuki kakhulu-kancane, kodwa kuzodingeka ubhekane nakho. Okokuqala, kuyisiyalo, futhi okwesibili, umphefumulo omuhle udinga igobolondo eliphilile nelinhle.
- Funda ukuthanda (wena, abangane, indoda, eduze kwakho, abantu ngokujwayelekile), uqonde ukuthi ngaphandle kothando, injabulo nokuthula kwengqondo akunakwenzeka. Uthando (ngomqondo ophakeme wegama) elilinganisa ukuqala nomthombo wamandla okuphumelela okusha.