Akumangalisi ukuthi bathi uthando lubi, ngoba akekho owesifazane ongenasifo sokuthi ngelinye ilanga angeke abe nesithakazelo kulabo asebevele benomlingani. Uma usesimweni esifanayo, unezindlela ezimbili kuphela, noma uzama ukukhohlwa into yothando lwakho, noma uthathe iseluleko ukuthi ungathatha kanjani indoda eshadile.
Ungathatha kanjani indoda eshadile emndenini?
- Ukuhlolwa kwesimo. Uma unquma ukwenza okuthile, khona-ke into yokuqala yokuyiqonda ukuthi umfana omthandayo uphatha kanjani. Ungathola ngezibonakaliso ezingaqondile, okokuqala, uqaphele ukuthi umuntu uyakubheka ngeso lesithakazelo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuyamthakazelisa ukuthi akhulume nawe, noma, ngokuphambene nalokho, uyakukugwema. Zama ukuhlola isimo ngempela, uma kungenzeka, cela umngane wakho oseduze ukuba abheke ukusabela kwezinto ezithandekayo kuwe. Le ndlela izokusiza ngokuqonde kahle ukuthi indoda iyakuthinta kanjani. Ngokusekelwe kolwazi olutholiwe, yenza izinguquko ezithile esithombeni sakho, isibonelo, uye kumcwaningi noma uthenge izingubo ezizokwenza kube nesithunzi sakho.
- Sesha ukunganeliseki. Okulandelayo, kuzodingeka ufunde okuncane mayelana nomndeni wesoka lakho, njengoba kwaziwa, akukho mshado ophelele, futhi akukho myeni ongazihlela umyeni kukho konke. Udinga ukuqonda ukuthi yiziphi izici zokuphila komshado umuntu angathandi, lokho angathanda ukukushintsha. Ukwaziswa okunjalo kubaluleke kakhulu, kuzokusiza, ukuheha umthandi, nokususa umyeni oshadile. Kumele ucabange konke ukunganeliseki komuntu futhi ushintshe ukuze ube yinto enhle emehlweni akhe. Umama usebenza ngomsebenzi futhi akafuni ukupheka? Kuhle! Dlala ngokuphambene, uphathe umfana ophethe i-pie ekhaya. Umfazi akayithandi izinja, futhi indoda ingathanda ukuba nenjabulo yemvu? Ngokumangalisayo, mtshele ukuthi ungathanda kangakanani ukuba nenja endlini, uthintane nokuqukethwe kwesilwane, ukhulume ngezici zokuqeqeshwa. Ngokushesha umthandi uzoqala ukuqhathanisa wena nomkakhe, futhi umphumela uzoba mnandi.
- Ukulenga inethiwekhi. Manje into eyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu ihlala, ukuba ngumuntu osondelene kakhulu nomfana, ngaphandle kwalokhu ngeke kube khona indlela yokuhola indoda eshadile, nokugcina ubuhlobo. Lalela futhi usekele umthandi wakho, ungalinganisani inkululeko yakhe futhi ungazibongi ngokuncoma. Uma umuntu ebona ukuthi wabelana ngemibono yakhe, uzoqala ukukuthemba, futhi lokhu kuyisisekelo sobuhlobo .