Uthando lokuqala kuze kube phakade luhlala enkumbulweni, kokubili kwabesifazane namadoda. Abantu abaningi bakhumbula le nkathi njengokuthile okukhazimulayo nokuthakazelisayo, kanti abanye isikhathi eside bahlushwa futhi bakhathazekile ngokuthi kungenzeka yini ukushintsha okuthile futhi ugcine imizwa noma cha. Inani elikhulu labantu banesithakazelo kulokho okufanele ngikwenze uma ngingakwazi ukukhohlwa uthando lokuqala. Isimo esinjalo siyingozi kakhulu, ngoba esidlule akukuvumeli ukuba uqhubeke futhi wakhe ubuhlobo nabanye abantu.
Kungenzeka yini ukukhohlwa uthando lokuqala?
Umqondo wokuthi isikhathi sokuphulukisa empeleni awuyiphutha, ngoba okubaluleke kakhulu isimo sengqondo esikuvumela ukuthi uphathe umuntu ngokuhlukile. Izazi zengqondo zeluleka ukuba zizibophe ngokwabo, zicabange, kungani ubudlelwane bokuqala benganikezi ukuphumula, mhlawumbe, awuzange unqume okuthile ngothandi wakho futhi awuzange ubeke iphuzu lokugcina. Cabanga ngezizathu zokuhlukanisa, ngoba into ayihambisani nomuntu uma uhlukanisa. Ngesikhathi sokudabuka, khumbula izimo ezingathandeki ezilethe ubuhlungu. Ukwelapha okunjalo kuzokwenza kube lula ukukhohlwa ubudlelwane obudlule.
Amathiphu wokuthi ungakhohlwa uthando lokuqala lomfana:
- Kwezinye izimo, ukuhlangana nomuntu owayengumthandi uyakusiza, ngisho nokuxhumana okufutshane kuzokwenza kucace ukuthi umuntu ushintshile futhi imizwa yangaphambili awunayo ngempela. Imemori kanye neqiniso kuyizinto ezimbili ezingavumelani.
- Ukukhohlwa uthando lokuqala olusha luzosiza, njengoba imizwa nemisindo emisha zicacile futhi zinamandla. Ngelo msebenzi kuzokusiza ukubhekana nezindawo ezihlukene, isibonelo, ungazitholela ukuzijabulisa okuthakazelisayo noma uhambo.
- Ungahlali ekhaya, futhi ungangeni emicabangweni yakho edabukisayo, ngoba lokhu kuzokwenyusa isimo. Sebenzisa isikhathi kubantu, uxhumane nabangane abadala futhi wenze abantu abajwayele ukuxhumana nabo. Mhlawumbe phakathi kobuso obusha uzothola indawo engcono kakhulu yokumelana nemizwa yakudala.