Wonke umuntu uyazi ukuthi ngokuvamile kuvunyelwe ukuthi abesifazane bayisimo sokuthandana komuntu siqu nokuthi ngokuvamile bahlale bekulungele ukusikisela okungaqondakali komusa wabo kanye nezenzo ezinhle egameni lothando lwabathandekayo babo. Kodwa i-psychology yesikhathi sethu iye yakwazi ukubhubhisa leli gama. Kodwa "Kanjani?" - siyothola khona manje.
Psychology of worlds ezimbili
Amakhansela ekhulwini lama-21, ngaphandle kokuziqaphela ngokwabo, akhohlwe ngezinto ezinjalo, okwenzelwe ukubaluleka kwabo. Eminye imizuzwana yokugcina igijima isipho futhi sikhumbule umkhosi wokuhlangana kwabo noma ukuqala kokuqala. Kodwa, njengoba izifundo zibonisile, naphezu kwezinyathelo ezinjalo, amadoda aphinde abe nomusa kakhulu.
Abacwaningi uPepper Schwartz noJames Witte baqhube ukuhlolwa kwe-intanethi. Abantu abangaba ngu-80 000 bahlanganyela kuzo. Ngakho-ke, abaphendulile bafika ekubumbeni ukuthi ingxenye yesibili yesintu ivame ukuba yinhle kakhulu kunowesifazane. Abaphenduli baphendule ngobuqotho obukhulu emibuthanweni ephathelene nokuziphatha kwabo ebuhlotsheni. Ukuqhubekela phambili kulokhu, kwaziwa ukuthi ama-49% wabamele abesilisa ocansini obunamandla bathandana nabesifazane bawo bamanje lapho bebona kuqala. Kusukela endaweni yabesifazane, le nqubo yaba yincane - kuphela 30%.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, izwe lezokwelapha liye lafunda ukuthi abangaphezu kwesigamu samadoda ahloliswe bathola amandla okuvuma ukuthi bazizwa bejabule ngemuva kosuku lokuqala .
Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi enye i-poll yanikeze imiphumela emnandi. Kwakukhona ukuthi ama-75% wezinceku ahamba phambili ekuthandweni ngemuva kokuvakashelwa kathathu kuphela. Kanti, abesifazane, okokuqala, bakhetha ukuphakamisa kwengqondo, ingqondo, kodwa hhayi inhliziyo. Futhi kuphela abesifazane abangu-11% abaphendulayo abazwa imizwa eqinile ngemva kwemizuzu embalwa emva kokumazi futhi ngemuva komhla wesithupha intombazane ilungele ukuvula inhliziyo yakhe othandweni olusha.Izincazelo zothando lomuntu
Izazi zengqondo zichaza imiphumela yezifundo ezinjalo ngokuthi abantu abasha bengazi kahle imizwa yabo yokuqala ekubukeni kwentombazane. Ngakho-ke, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuyinto engavamile, kodwa lapho uqala ukucabanga ngakho, baqaphele ukuthi bakha umqondo olandelayo: uma kuhle, kufanelekile ngothando lwami. Imizwa yezwe besifazane iyinkimbinkimbi. Phela, abesifazane basetshenziselwa ukulinganisa ngokucophelela zonke izinzuzo nezindleko ngaphambi kokuphetha ngokuthi le ndoda ivumelekile ukubona amakhasi afihliwe encwadini yakhe yokuphila.
Uhlobo LwaseRoma
Ukuziphatha komuntu kumuntu kubangela i-hormone testosterone. Yebo, nguyena obhekene nokushayela ucansi. Konke kuvumelanisiwe. Yenzelwe ukuthi le nsizwa iqale ukufuna intombazane, ngakho-ke, iziphatha ngendlela efanele. Kanjani "ngendlela efanele"? Impendulo ilula: njengoba kuchazwe kumamagazini, iboniswa ku-movie. Kodwa, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kudabukisayo kanjani isigamu samantombazane, akuzange kuzwakale, kodwa ngemva kokuthola ubuhle, uthando lwangempela lwaluhlakazeka ngokushesha. Emva kwakho konke, kuba yinto engadingekile kuze kuvele umfakisicelo olandelayo.
Kule minyaka, ukwabiwa kwe-testosterone kunciphisa futhi indoda ayikwazi ukuziqhenya ngokuthanda kwakhe kwangaphambili ezenzweni zakhe kubathandekayo bakhe.
Ngokuqondene nabesifazane kanye nesimo sokuthandana kwabo, umsuka wazo konke lokhu kuse-estrogen. I-hormone edala umuzwa wokwaneliseka, ubuhlobo nabanye, impilo ngokujwayelekile.
Khumbula ukuthi umuntu ngamunye uyingqayizivele futhi ngisho nakubonwa nomdlali wezemidlalo ongenalutho, umakhi womzimba akufanele anganaki izinga lothando lwakhe. Abekho abantu ababeka umqondo wokuthi "u-romance" ngenye nencazelo efanayo. Ngakho-ke, abesifazane besabela esicelweni sokuchaza uthando lokukhuluma ngohambo lokuya enkundleni yaseshashalazini, isidlo esitolo sokudlela, isipho esihle, njll. Futhi amadoda - ababalekela empucuko, impilo yomndeni etendeni elincane.