Izimbali kwideskithophu noma emnyango wendlu, amaphostakhadi anezinkondlo ezinomusa nezinye izibonakaliso zokunakwa kumuntu ongaziwazisi. Indlela yokuthola ukuthi ngubani owakuthandayo nokuthi ungayibona kanjani ukuthi umuzwa weqiniso uzokwaziswa kanjani kuleli sihloko.
Indlela yokubala isoka?
Empeleni, ngeke akwazi ukuhlala incognito isikhathi eside, ngoba indoda ethandwayo ifuna ukusondelana nesifiso sakhe. Uma umuntu osebenza naye, umfundi wezikole noma indodana yomngane kamama njalo ehlala futhi ikakhulukazi esimeni esinzima, khona-ke kungase kuqinisekiswe ngokuqiniseka ukuthi zonke lezo zinto ezincane ezimnandi nezipho ezitholwa kamuva nje.
Uyazi kanjani ukuthi umuntu uyakuthanda?
Ngokuxhumana okukhulu kakhulu, sekuvele kungenzeka ukudweba ezinye iziphetho eziqondile. Izipho ezibizayo, ukuvakashelwa kwamathilomu, amashayetha kanye nemibukiso asisho lutho: mhlawumbe indoda ilandela ezinye zezinhloso zayo zobugovu. Kubalulekile ukubheka ukuthi ulalela kangakanani izinto ezifisayo: uyazi izindaba zamanje, izintshisekelo, izintandokazi. Ingabe ulalela konke intombazane emtshela yona? Uma ebona ukuthi ngesikhathi engxoxweni uphazamiseka, ehamba emafwini, noma ephazamise, ungathola iziphetho ezidumazayo.
Labo abanesithakazelo sokuthi ungasithola kanjani ukuthi umuntu uyakuthanda kufanele ubheke amehlo akhe kaningi. Bathi lesi yisibuko somphefumulo futhi ungaqonda okuningi ngabo. Labo abathandana ngempela, bangaphezu kweyodwa babambelela ekubukeni komlingani, egcwele ukukhuleka. Uma umuntu ezwa imizwa, akabheki nje kuphela owesifazane ngendlela ethile, kodwa futhi uzama ukusondelana naye ngangokunokwenzeka. Le nkampani ihlala eduze komnyango, futhi yodwa isebenzisa wonke amathuba ukuthatha isandla, igqoke okhalweni, njll.
Ngabe yiziphi izimpawu ongazithola ukuthi uyangithanda?
Izenzo zitshela wonke umuntu ngomuntu. Ukugula nomfazi othandekayo, uzoletha ama-oranges esibhedlela, futhi ngesikhathi sokungabikho kwakhe, uzothatha umsebenzi wokudla nokuhamba inja yakhe. Ama-punctures esiteshini sethrekhi, ungaqiniseka ukuthi indoda enothando ishesha ngokushesha, futhi ayiveli ngezizathu zokungahambi. Thola okuthandwa ngumlingani nokuthi kungani eziphatha enkampanini yakhe ethandekayo. Iningi lidalula ngokwabo, lihlanganyela imizwelo yabo kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho, liphinde libuyele, ngoba lizwa likhululekile futhi likhululekile enkampanini. Abanye "behla phansi uphahla" futhi bayakhohlisa nxazonke, behleka futhi bejabula, nakuba kukhona labo abazizwa bexakeke ngokuxhumana okujulile nento yezifiso zabo.
Thola ukuthi ukuthanda ngempela ukuthi umuntu wenza kanjani amapulani empilweni. Uma ethi "thina" kunokuthi "Mina" futhi kusho ukuthi unomfazi oseduzane ozohlala ekhaya, emndenini nasezingane, kodwa ungaqiniseka ngemizwa yakhe eqotho. Kodwa ukwakha izinhlelo zesikhathi esizayo, futhi nje ukuhlela izinto okwamanje, indoda ihlale ikhumbula imibono yomlingani wayo. Uma ebuza naye nganoma yisiphi isizathu futhi ahloniphe umbono wakhe,
Ufuna ukuba ngamahora angama-24 ngosuku futhi enze konke ndawonye, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo ihlonipha ilungelo lomuntu esikhala somuntu siqu. Ngeke amelane nenhlangano yeqembu lezinkukhu, kodwa uzothatha noma yiliphi owesifazane e-cafe bese ehlangana naye lapho. Abathandi abaningi bayaqaphela ukuthi imicabango yabo iguqule futhi ivame lapho umuntu eqala inkulumo, enye iphetha. Kunoma yikuphi, inhliziyo ngeke ikhohlise futhi izokutshela ukuthi imizwa yilabo abathi bayakuthanda futhi bayabuyela kanjani.