Ingabe umhawu uyisibonakaliso sothando noma ukungathembi, cishe kunzima ukusho. Eqinisweni, kulo mzwelo konke kuhlanganiswe: kokubili uthando , nokungathembi, kanye nempahla ephezulu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, isethi yonke isuke isekelwe ekuziphatheni okungenakuqhathaniswa nokubuncipha okuncane.
Umhawu, ke uyathanda?
Abantu abanokwethenjelwa nabaziqaphelayo, umhawu uvame ukungena ngaphansi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngezinye izikhathi bayabona ukuthi kukhona ophikisayo (noma ophikisana nabo) njengenselele futhi lokhu kubangelwa ukuvuselela kwangaphakathi nangaphakathi.
Kubantu kukhona umbono wokuthi umhawu uyisibonakaliso sothando. Lokhu kuyiqiniso, kodwa ngezinga elithile. Sinekhwele kuphela kulabo abathi, ezingeni elingacabangi, sibheka njengempahla yethu, futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi unamandla omzwelo wothando, eqinisweni, sizizwa ngalaba bantu, nakuba kungokwemvelo, uthando luba namandla kakhulu, luyoba nobuhlungu obukhulu ngokwengeziwe umona.
Ukulawula okuphelele
Umhawu, ngencazelo, uthathwa njengokulimaza. Ngokuyinhloko, lesi sici sibonakala kubantu ababhekene nokuzihlonipha okuphansi, abazama konke okusemandleni abo ukuqinisekisa ukuthi into yokunamathiselwe yabo ihlale ibonakala noma ingafinyeleleka njalo eminithini yokuxhumana kwamaselula. Ukulawula okuphelele phezu kwezenzo zomthandi kuyadingeka kubo, njengomoya, ngoba abajulile bengazi ukuthi banakho ukuncintisana ngokwanele ngokuqondene nemininingwane yabo ehlukahlukene, kungaba ukubukeka noma izinga lokuthuthukiswa ngokomoya nangokwengqondo futhi bakholelwa ngephutha ukuthi insimbi
Ngakho, cabanga ngokuphelele ngomhawu njengesibonakaliso sothando, mhlawumbe hhayi kahle. Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi yiziphi izici zomuntu ezimbi ezenza kube yilowo nalowo icala lakhe. Okuyingozi kakhulu ukubonakaliswa komhawu womzimba, okusekelwe ekuphambeni okungokwengqondo okuvela esimweni esijwayelekile futhi kufanele kuthathwe ngqo ngumuntu wezifo zengqondo.