Kukhona izinto abesifazane abakwazi ukuziqonda. Sivame ukwamukela amadoda ukuze abe nobuciko obuqinile nabangesabi, kodwa intombazane endala futhi enolwazi oluningi, kuba khona inkolelo yesigqoko ngehhashi elimhlophe lidonswa.
Ngaphandle kokwesaba ngokugcwele kwengqondo kwengqondo, indoda ejwayelekile ikhathazekile ngokuthi ngokusho komphakathi, ummeli wombuso oqinile kufanele abe ohlakaniphile, avikele futhi abe nesibindi.
Yini indoda eqinile esabayo?
Indoda enezinga eliphakeme lemali engenayo lizimelela kakhulu futhi lizethemba, ngakho-ke kunezici eziningana ezingathinta ubunzima kakhulu.
- Ibhizinisi. Yonke insizwa ecebile izama ukulahlekelwa ibhizinisi lakhe. Kulesi simo, umuntu ucabanga ukuthi izwe lizowela uma ibhizinisi lakhe "limbozwa".
- Idumela. Isithombe - lokhu kuyinto okumelwe idalwe isikhathi eside, kodwa konke kungase kuwele endaweni eyodwa. Yilo mqondo oholela ekuphazameni kwamanzi kwanoma yimuphi umuntu ocebile.
- Bhala ukubuyekeza Ubuthongo obukhulu kunoma yimuphi umuntu ukulahleka kokuheha emehlweni abesifazane.
Kungani amadoda esaba ubudlelwane?
Uma kuziwa ebuhlotsheni obungathí sina, iningi lamadoda liphahlazeka ngokwesaba. Amanye amadoda asaba ngisho nokubuka amehlo. Ngesinye isikhathi ukubukeka kungaba ulwazi olunzulu lokuthi ukubuka kuphela emehlweni othandekayo wakho ungafunda obusondelene kakhulu, ngakho-ke ukubuka kwabo abafana bakhetha ukufihla, ngakho yonke imfihlo ihlala njalo.
Amadoda ayesaba ukuba nezingane nomthwalo wemfanelo ngoba ukuphila komndeni kunomsebenzi omkhulu kanye nezinguquko empilweni. Inkululeko yokulahlekelwa yiyona nto engafanelekanga umfana. Ukuze uhlale nabangani futhi ubuke ibhola noma ukuphule phakathi nobusuku bese uya ebhasini, yilokho ukuphila komqashi kungenakukwenza ngaphandle. Emkhayeni we-conjugal, ukulungiswa okujwayelekile kungenza kube lula ukulungiswa. Izazi zengqondo zithi ezimweni eziningi, ukwesaba ukuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo ebuhlotsheni bomndeni kubangelwa ukuthi umfana wakhuliswa emndenini ongaphelele futhi akazange abone izibonelo zokulingisa.
Emshadweni, amadoda akhetha ukujoyina abameleli abanobuthakathaka nabangenalutho bobulili obuhle, amadoda aqinile ayesaba amadoda futhi azama ukuwagwema. Intombazane ephumelelayo nehle, njengomthetho, idinga indoda ehambelana nayo. Lokhu kuphazamisa ukuncintisana okuqhubekayo ebuhlotsheni futhi ukuze uhlale esitokisini abafana badinga ukuzithuthukisa njalo, ukuthi yiziphi eziningi ezingenakwenzeka.
Kungani amadoda esaba ucansi?
Abameleli abazethemba kakhulu abesilisa abanamandla kakhulu baxhala kakhulu ukungena esondelene kakhulu ngoba banqotshwa ukungavikeleki emandleni abo kanye nokwesaba ukudumala izinga labo abalingani noma isikhathi sokulala ngokocansi. Amadoda ayesaba izintombi, ngoba bakholelwa ukuthi emva kokulala ngokocansi intombazane izophoqeleka ukuba ikhale, ikhale emgodini bese ithi manje uyayimkhokhela kakhulu, ngoba yamnciphisa "udumo nonembeza" futhi wazama ukuya kumaZAG. Yebo, njengoba mina futhi ngiyiqonda leli phuzu lizithoba kakhulu futhi liphethe ingxenye encane yeqiniso. Akungabazeki ukuthi kukhona amantombazane okuthiwa ubulili buyinto engathí sina kakhulu futhi ephoqelekile, kodwa abesifazane abaningi banamuhla babhekisela kulo msebenzi ngokufanelekile futhi bangabhekisela kulokhu okushoyo "yonke indawo".
Kungani amadoda esaba isehlukaniso?
Ngokuphambene nenkolelo evamile ukuthi abesifazane kuphela abesaba ukwahlukana, futhi amadoda abafuni ukuzikhawulela
Ukufingqa lokhu okungenhla kungaba kuphela ukuthi indoda yangempela ayesabi lutho futhi ingakwazi noma yikuphi ukuphazamiseka, uma othandekayo wakho efuna. Uma udinga ukusika izinkuni, futhi uma kungekho sidingo esinjalo, khona-ke ungakwazi ukupheka isidlo sothando lomkakho, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, yenzani konke ngothando futhi ngaphandle kwezizathu noma izizathu.