Kungani abesifazane beshintsha?

Ukuhlambalaza empilweni yendoda nowesifazane kwenzeka lapho bengenelisekile nobuhlobo nengxenye yabo yesibili. Futhi ukunganeliseki akukona nje kuphela ngokocansi.

Ngokusho kocwaningo lwezenhlalo olwenziwa eYurophu nakwamanye amazwe angaphambili e-CIS, abacwaningi bathola ukuthi abesifazane bashintsha kaningi kunamadoda. Lokhu kusikisela ukuthi abesifazane abajabuli kakhulu ngempilo yabo. Ochwepheshe bezenkolo, nabo, bakwazi ukukhomba izizathu eziyinhloko zokukhashelwa kwabesifazane abashadile:

1. Ezimweni eziningi, owesifazane oshadile udinga umthandi ngokuzivuma. Omdala owesifazane uba, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ahlale ekhangayo futhi efiselekayo. Uma ubuhlobo nomyeni buphela, empilweni yabesifazane abathile abashadile umthandi uvela.
2. Ubuhlobo bobulili nomyeni wakhe buyeke ukuletha ukwaneliseka kowesifazane.
3. Inkinga ebuhlotsheni phakathi kwabashade.
4. Isidingo sokwakhiwa okusha, okwedlulele, ukuzamazama.
5. Umhlangano ongalindelekile nomuntu owangaphambili. Abanye besifazane, ngisho nokungalindelekile, baqala ukushintsha abayeni babo nabangaphambili.
6. Ukungabi nomyeni kumkakhe, imizwa yakhe, ukubukeka.
7. Indoda inikezwa umsebenzi wakhe noma ukuzijabulisa, futhi owesifazane uzizwa enesizungu emshadweni naye.
8. Ukufutheka komyeni wakhe.

Umkakhe washintsha umyeni wakhe nowesifazane

Uma umqondo onjengokuthi "Owesifazane nomthandi" ujwayele abantu banamuhla, ukukhwabanisa owesifazane onomfazi kwabaningi kusengesihloko se-tab. Kubantu abaningi, kuyinto engavamile ukuthi kungani owesifazane ethatha isinqumo sokulala nomuntu wesifazane. Izazi zengqondo zakwazi ukuthola ukuthi kungani abafazi bashintsha amadoda nabesifazane:

• ukungabi nokuqonda kwamadoda. Abesifazane, okwesikhathi eside behlupheka ngenxa yokuntula ukuqonda namadoda, bavame ukuzishaya indiva. Ngokuvamile amadoda akakholelwa ngisho nokuthi umfazi ukopela nomfazi;
• ilukuluku. Isizathu sokufuna ukwazi, futhi, isizathu esivamile sokukhashelwa kowesifazane. Kuze kube manje, sithola ulwazi oluthe xaxa mayelana nezixhumanisi zobulili obufanayo kusukela kwabezindaba, izincwadi, ama-movie. Abaningi bezocansi ezithandanayo baxhumana nowesifazane ukuze banelise ukwazi kwakhe;
• ukoma izinzwa ezintsha. Iphesenti elithile labesifazane abashadile (ngokusho kwezazi zezenhlalakahle ezivela ku-7 ukuya kwezingu-10%) bacabanga ukuthi ukuphila kwabo kulinganiswa. Badinga imicimbi evuselela igazi, abajwayele ukuxhumana nabo kanye nokuxhumana. Abesifazane abanjalo bahamba kalula ezindabeni ezihlukahlukene zokungabandlululo. Ukufaka, nokulala nobulili nomfazi.

Bangaki amaphesenti abesifazane abashintshayo?

Ezweni ngalinye lesi sibalo sihluke - kuye ngokuthi ngabe umphakathi nomthetho uqondisa kanjani ukuhlukumeza abesifazane.

Emazweni aseYurophu, eU.SA, futhi, eRussia, eBelarus nase-Ukraine, cishe Abesifazane abashadile abangu-42% bakhohlisa amadoda abo. Kulezi, ngaphezu kwengxenye unomthandi unomphela. Izazi zezenkolo zikholelwa ukuthi lesi sibalo sikhulu kakhulu ngenxa yokuthi kulezi zizwe akukho mithetho ejezisa abesifazane abashadile ngokuhlubuka. Futhi, indima ebalulekile idlalwe ukuhlonishwa komphakathi wonke ekubhekaneni neqiniso lokuphinga.

Emazweni aseSulumane, iphesenti labesifazane abaphinga alinaki. Ubuqili kulawa mazwe bujeziswe kakhulu, kuze kube sekufeni. Ehlobo lika-2010, lo mshini wezindaba wathola indaba ekhwabanisayo mayelana nokuthi iziphathimandla zendawo zaseSomalia zabulala kanjani owesifazane ubuhlobo nomuntu oshadile. Owesifazane waseSomalia watshelwa ngamatshe. Ukufa okufanayo kwafika kumuntu obenokuxhumana naye.