Ukulingana ngenye yezindlela zokuqala zokwakha ubuhlobo nobulili obuhlukile. Kusuka emandleni okudlala ngothando kuncike kakhulu - ngabe ubuhlobo buzoqhubeka noma buye ngokushesha ku "cha." Ngokuqinisekile abaningi baqaphela ukuthi ezinye zobulili obuhle zizungezwe isixuku sabalandeli, kanti abanye - abathandeki futhi abathandekayo, ubulili obuhlukile abuqapheli. Izazi zengqondo zithi inkinga enkulu yalezi zinsuku ukuhluleka ukudlala ngothando. Ukudlala ngomlingani kuvumela owesifazane ukuba agcizelele isithunzi sakhe ekukhulumisaneni nomxhumanisi futhi anqume ukuthi ubhekana kanjani "namasu ethu wesifazane". Imithetho yokudlala ngothando ayinayo imingcele eqinile, yilezi ziphakamiso ezisiza owesifazane ukuthi adalule ubufazi bakhe futhi abonise uthando lwakhe. Ngakho, imithetho yokudlala ngothando:
- Thatha isinyathelo sokuqala. Kakade sekuyizikhathi lapho ukubonisa isithakazelo kumuntu wokuqala kubhekwa njengombonakaliso wokunambitheka okubi. Amadoda wanamuhla akhangwa abesifazane abangesabi ukuqala ingxoxo kuqala.
- Thatha izingozi. Phakathi kwamadoda, abantu abahlukumezayo bavame ukuhlangana. Mhlawumbe, le nsizwa oyithandayo, naye, unesithakazelo, kodwa unganqikazi ukusondela. Isibindi nokukhululeka okulinganisela kowesifazane kumnika ukukhanga okukhethekile.
- Qaphela ukubonakala. Uma uthatha isinyathelo sokuqala noma uqhubeka nosuku, kufanele uqiniseke ukuthi ubukeka bukhulu. Kubalulekile ukucabangela zonke izinto ezincane - izinwele, umuthi womzimba, izingubo, izesekeli nakho konke okunye. Kuyaziwa ukuthi ukuqala kokuqala kwenziwa emaminithini ambalwa nje, ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukuthi ungalimazi kusukela ekuqaleni.
- Sebenzisa amafutha. Umona wesifazane udlala indima ebalulekile endleleni umuntu azoyibona ngayo. Nokho, akukhona nje ngamafutha. Kubalulekile ukuthi abe "wakho" -kufanele, uhlanganise ukubukeka nesitayela sokuxhumana.
- Kulula ukuxhumana. Akudingekile ngosuku lokuqala ukuxoxa ngezivumelwano zefilosofi, ezombangazwe nezinye izihloko ezinzima ukuqonda. Ukumangalisa umuntu othakazelisayo, uhlaya, uqobo futhi uxhase izihloko ezihlukahlukene ezingabonakali.
- Yasebenza. Uma ubona ukuthi i-interlocutor yakho igxilile, zama ukukhuluma futhi uyithakazelise. Engxoxweni, akufanele kube khona isikhathi eside futhi esibuhlungu. Uma indoda inento ethize, yilalele - kulokhu uzokwenza umqondo wesifazane ohlakaniphile.
- Bheka emehlweni akho. Ukuxhumana kwamehlo kunikeza i-interlocutor yakho ithuba lokubona ubuqotho bakho. Kodwa lapha kubalulekile ukuthi ungadli amehlo omuntu - kuyadala. Yiba yimfihlakalo.
- Yisho ukuncoma. Amadoda athande ukuncoma angaphansi kwabesifazane. Kodwa ukuze ube nombono omuhle kumlingani, kufanele ube ngowokuqala. Imishwana ye-banal izosabisa i-interlocutor yakho. Ukuhambisa ukuncoma, yibaqotho futhi ukhulume ngomzwelo.
- Thinta umlingani wakho. Ukuthinta okulula nokulula kunomthelela ekubunjweni kwesimo esiyimfihlo futhi esithandana kakhulu phakathi kwabakwa-interlocutors. Thinta isandla noma ihlombe lomuntu ngengozi, isibonelo, uvumelana naye.
- Bonisa i-coquetry yakho. I-Coquetry ingenye yezisekelo zokudlala ngothando ngabesifazane. Ukubukeka okumangalisayo, ingubo enhle, kugcizelela isithunzi salo-wonke lawo maqhinga abesifazane ahloniphekile amadoda. Kodwa kulokhu kubalulekile ukuthi ungayinqobe - owesifazane owedlala ngokweqile kunokubangela ubundlululo phakathi kwamalungu obulili obuqinile kunesihawu.
- Smile. Ukumomotheka kubangela indawo ye-interlocutor kunoma yikuphi.