Eqinisweni, njengendoda enokukhulumisana okulula kunzima kakhulu kunokuba yinto yangempela. Futhi akulona nje lokho, ngaphandle kokubona i-interlocutor, singaba qotho ngokwengeziwe, kulula ukufihla injabulo yethu, futhi angeke kube ukubonakala okukhangayo kakhulu. Futhi akukhathaleki ukuthi ukuxhumana kwakho kuhamba kuphi, okungenani ngokusebenzisa izincwadi (uma, kunjalo, kusekhona abantu abababhala), ngisho nangesiza seWorld Wide Web. Kunoma yikuphi, izimiso kanye nokulawula indlela yokukhanga nokuvala umfana ngokuxhumana kungaguquki, kuzoxoxwa namhlanje.
Umthetho 1. Sebenzisa zonke izinzuzo zokuxhumana
Ake sichaze ngokuningiliziwe. Ekukhulumeni okungokoqobo, inzuzo enkulu ukuthi ungacabangela ngokucophelela ngamazwi akho futhi uphinde uwabuyisele emuva (uma ungakacindezeli "Faka"). Futhi yingakho ungabhala uphinde usule umlayezo wakho kaningi, kuze kube yilapho usuphelele embonweni wakho. Kodwa-ke, kufanele kukhunjulwe ukuthi uma ukhuluma nge-inthanethi futhi bobabili bangaleso sikhathi ngemuva kwamakhompyutha, ngakho-ke awukwazi ukucabanga isikhathi eside, ubungozi obubonakala sengathi awukho kahle nokucabanga kancane kancane. Futhi kanjani kule ndaba ungayithandana nomfana ngokubhala? Yebo, akukho lutho. Ngakho-ke, hlola incazelo yegolide.
Umthetho 2. Yiba umngane othakazelisayo
Lena enye indlela umfana athanda ngayo ukuxhumana kwi-Intanethi. Unolwazi oluningi olutholayo. Futhi kukho konke lokhu, kuyisimungulu ukukhuluma ngesimo sezulu, akunjalo? Thola isihloko oyithandayo, cabanga ngakho, kodwa ngabe kuyoba mnandi kuye futhi phambili! Nazi ezimbalwa ezingaphumeleli, nezihloko ezimbalwa ezinhle zengxoxo, ezingakusiza ukuba uthande umfana ngokusebenzisa i-Intanethi. Okungathandeki ngaye izihloko: isimo sezulu, inhlebo entsha (nakuba okuzofihla, amantombazane nabo banesithakazelo, kodwa ngeke bahambise engqondweni ukuthi bayayithanda), imfashini kanye nezinye izihloko ze-girlish kuphela. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, abantu bayamangala ngokukhuluma ngemikhiqizo entsha ye-IT (uma unobuthakathaka kulesi sihloko - kungcono ukhethe omunye), izigqoko nemigqa emlandweni, imidlalo entsha yekhompyutha nokunye okunjalo. Ungaqala ingxoxo mayelana nokuzilibazisa kwakhe, kodwa okokuqala udinga ukuzijwayeza okungenani imibono ejwayelekile evela kulolu chungechunge, kungenjalo umfana angase asole ukuthi ubeke amehlo phezu kwakhe futhi umane nje umthobe.
Umthetho 3. Gwema amaphutha ohlelo.
Mhlawumbe, akukho okunye okuphendulayo ekuhambeni kwencwadi njengamaphutha embhalweni wenkulumo ye-interlocutor. Uma wazi "buck" enjalo, ungabi ovilapha kakhulu ukuhlola izinto zakho ngaphambi kokuthumela, manje izinsizakalo ezimbalwa ezinikeza le nsizakalo. Qaphela futhi nelungiselelo elifanele lamamaphuzu okubhala. Ukungabi khona kwabo noma ukulungiswa okungalungile kungashintsha ngokuphelele umyalezo womlayezo wakho. Khumbula i-cartoon mayelana ne-comma: "Awukwazi ukuxolela ukubulawa." Ukubhala okungenakufunda nokungahloniphi wena nomngane wakho. Ungenzi amaphutha anjalo.
Umthetho 4. Ungabi obutrusive, yiba ngumngane nje
Ungase uzibuze ukuthi ungamjabulisa kanjani umfana ngokubhala, uma engumngane nje? Sizokuphendula ngale ndlela. I-intanethi yindawo ethize lapho ungahlali khona kalula, kepha kulula nje ukuthusa umuntu.
Ngaphandle kwalokho, uma umfana engaphenduli emlayezo wakho, awukwazi ukumthanda uma ucela nsuku zonke "Kungani ungaphenduli?" Noma "Uthole umlayezo wami? Kungani uthula? ". Ngakho-ke, isikhundla somngane ngokubhala kuqala okokuqala kunenzuzo kakhulu. Wenze isinyathelo sakho, manje unike umfana ithuba lokunqoba.