Kubonakala sengathi uthando ngumzwelo ohlanganisa abantu ababili. Kodwa kungani kukhona imiqondo enjalo njengengqondo yabesifazane nabesilisa othandweni? Ngempela, amadoda nabesifazane bahluke kakhulu kusukela ekuqaleni ukuthi leli qiniso linikeza abalobi abaningi isihloko sokuzindla.
Isibonelo, enye yezincwadi, "Amadoda avela ku-Mars, abesifazane - avela kuVenus" aqukethe izimpikiswano ukuthi abameleli bobulili obuhlukile baphambene ngokuqondile nomlingisi, njengabahlali beeplanethi ezahlukene. Ngamanye amazwi, i-psychology yendoda ethandweni ihluke ngokuphelele kumuntu ozwa imizwa efanayo. Futhi ngokuqinisekile kuhlukile kulokho okulindelwe, okuyinto engqondweni ukunika amandla abesifazane besilisa. Khona-ke kungani kukholelwa ukuthi uma lezi zilindeleke zingalungile, ngabe akukho mqondo phakathi kwabantu?
Ngakho-ke, amadoda abonisa kanjani uthando lwabo? Ake sihlole.
Ukubonakaliswa kothando kumadoda
Ngeshwa, kunabameleli abambalwa kakhulu besigamu esiphezulu sabantu emhlabeni abanesibindi sokuveza imizwa yabo ngokukhululekile, futhi ngisho nangaphezulu, ukuhlela ukumangala ngomntombazane abathandayo. Ngokuvamile abesifazane, ngenxa yemfundo yabo nendawo ethile kulokhu okuhlangenwe nakho, baqonde ukuthi indoda ithandane ngenxa yeminye imiboniso.
Ngakho-ke ngukuphi ukucwaninga kwengqondo yendoda enothando? Yebo, qaphela. Ngaphambi kwentombazane evusa imizwelo enothando, amadoda ashintsha ngokuphawulekayo. Bheka eduze - baba namahloni, ngezinye izikhathi besaba ukubheka into yokudumisa kwabo. Futhi konke kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ngokwemvelo kungukuthi, ngokwesibonelo, amabhokisi okuxoxa kanye nabahlaziyi.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, qaphela - ukukhuluma nentombi yakho, indoda ivame ukumbopha isikhathi eside embonweni wakhe, okuyinto engqondweni yesilisa yothando kuyisignali enkulu.
Nokho, ungadideli uthando empilweni yomuntu onothando oluvamile. Ukuzwa isifiso esingaxhaswa yimizwelo yothando, abameleli besigamu esiphezulu sabantu ngokuphambene nalokho baqina kakhulu futhi bahlukumeza. Lokhu kungatshela, isibonelo, indlela umuntu ahlala kuyo. Ehlezi esihlalweni, uyawa, imilenze ibanzi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, lo muntu uhlaselwa njalo endaweni okuthiwa yesikhala somuntu siqu, njengokungathi ucindezela intombazane. Ngesithakazelo akukho lutho olungalungile, kodwa uzidibanise ngokwakho, ubiza ngokuthi uyithando, akulutholi.
Abantu baqonda kanjani uthando?
Mhlawumbe, phakathi kwamantombazane manje akekho omunye ongaboni ifilimu yaseMelika "Umlobokazi Ophuthumayo". Nokho, bambalwa abantu abenze iziphetho ezifanele kuwo. Kodwa kukhona ngokoqobo okwethulwa umyalo wokunqotshwa kwabantu, kanye nokucatshangelwa ngokuphelele kwengqondo yothando yabantu. I-heroine eyinhloko yayihlale icabanga ukuthi umuntu udinga yini, futhi ngokoqobo yaba yindawo yakhe efanele. Futhi akekho noyedwa wezinkampani abahluleka ukumthandana naye.
Kukhona inkulumo ethi indoda ithanda owesifazane hhayi ngoba iseduze, kodwa ukuthi uyayithanda kanjani eceleni kwakhe. Lapho esethole owesifazane, emnqobile ngendlela yakhe, le ndoda iyancipha. Ukuthula, ububele (okuyinto abaziqonda ngendlela yabo), ukwaneliseka kwezocansi - lezi ezinye zezingxenye eziyinhloko zengqondo yesilisa othandweni. Futhi abesifazane abahlakaniphile bayakuqonda lokhu ngokugcwele futhi bayakujabulela, ngaphandle kokuzikhandla ngokweqile noma inkulumo yabo "yobubaba" yobuthakathaka ngothando nokuthi bangayibonisa kanjani.
Ukuphambene nokubonakaliswa kothando kumadoda
Noma kunjalo, lokhu kuziphatha, okuzolile futhi okunene, kuvumelana nabesilisa abazethemba. Ngokuvamile, abesifazane bangabhekana nokubonakaliswa okuvame kakhulu komhawu, kanye neziqu ze-quibbles nezixwayiso ezingapheliyo.
Ukukhathazeka cishe kungenxa yokungavikeleki okukhulu, umuzwa wokungahleleki. Futhi nomhawu
Kodwa ukugxila nokuyalela njalo kungase kube isizathu sokuthi okhethiweyo wakho uhamba nge-pedantic ye-inveterate noma ikubuyisela ebuhlotsheni bakhe bokuqala obuhlulekile. Kulokhu, uma zonke ezinye izici zokuhlala ndawonye zihambisana nawe, kufanele uziphathe ngokuhlakanipha. Kancane kancane uhlakulele ukuthembela kumuntu wakho ukuthi uhluke ngokuphelele "kumuntu" wangaphambili, nokuthi nguwe, owodwa kuphela, futhi owaziyo, mhlawumbe uzoba umbhangqwana ofanelekayo!