Umuntu akakwazi ukulawula uthando futhi kunezikhathi lapho imizwa ivela kumuntu oshadile. Ngokuvamile ungase uzwe isaga ukuthi awukwazi ukwakha injabulo kwenye inhlekelele yomunye umuntu nakwezinye izimo ukuthi kunjalo ngempela, kodwa kuthiwani uma ungenalo amandla okuvumela umuntu ukuba ahambe?
Indlela yokugcina umthandi oshadile?
Ezimweni ezinjalo, into esemqoka akuyona ukwenza iphutha, njengoba abantu abaningi bangase bahlupheke. Uma imizwa engeyona into eyodwa futhi into kuphela exhuma nomuntu, lokhu kungukuya ocansini, ngakho-ke ungabambeli izinkolelo futhi uthembele kokunye okunye.
Iseluleko sengqondo sokugcina indoda eshadile:
- Yiba umphenyi. Umsebenzi ukulalela ngokucophelela okhethiwe, ukunaka imininingwane ephathelene nomfazi, ikakhulukazi ukwehluleka kwakhe. Uma ufuna ukuthatha indoda emndenini, khona-ke udinga izikhathi eziningi kangcono kunalokhu okwamanje.
- Ziqaphele wena. Umuntu angase anqume ukushiya umndeni, kodwa kuphela uma owesifazane omusha efaneleka ngempela. Yingakho udinga ukunakekela ukubukeka kwakho nokugcwaliswa kwangaphakathi. Hamba ubuhle be-salon, ugqoke ngendlela enhle futhi ube yinduna. Cabanga ukuthi lesi sithombe kufanele sishiye ngokwazo isifiso esithile. Ukuze uhlale ushadile, udinga ukuthakazelisa, ngoba i-monotony nokusondela komuntu, cishe, kuzokwenza ngokukhukhumeza. Funda amabhuku, uzitholele ukuzilibazisa okuthakazelisayo, ube nemisebenzi eminingi, ngokujwayelekile, indoda kufanele isondele kuwe.
- Uma umuntu ezwa imizwa, ungenza umhawu . Kule nkinga, into esemqoka akufanele ukuyiqeda. Kumele aqaphele ukuthi amanye amadoda afisa ukukhethwa kulowo okhethiweyo futhi ngaluphi iphuzu angalulahlekelwa lona.
- Abaningi banesithakazelo ukuthi kungenzeka yini ukugcina amadoda ocansini noma cha. Ubulili obuphambene nokuhlukana, lokhu kulungile ngempela, kodwa
Ubuhlobo obugcwele kanye nobude besikhathi eside kubalulekile nezinye izici. Dala othandekayo wakho umkhathi otholile futhi ofudumele. - Kulula ukuphakama, ungafuni noma yini futhi ungayilawuli. "Amaketanga" anjalo ayenele ebuhlotsheni bakhe nomkakhe. Indoda ngokwayo kumele iqonde ukuthi kulula kangakanani ukuthi abe khona nokuthi ujabula kuphi. Kuphela kulesi simo kuzokwazi ukuthembela ukuthi isimo sizoxazululwa kuwe.
Amantombazane amaningi, ecabanga ukuthi angagcina kanjani indoda eshadile, eya ezinyathelweni zekhadini bese ekhulelwa ngokukhwabanisa. Ngifuna nje ukusho ukuthi ngale ndlela akunakwenzeka ukubopha ozikhethele wona, futhi kwezinye izimo, izindaba ezingalindelekile zingamane zihlukanise umlingani.