Umuntu ubelokhu enesithakazelo kulokho okungaqondakali futhi engaziwa, yingakho isihloko sesichazamazwi sephupho sihlala sidingeka iminyaka engaphezu kwengu-12. Namuhla, ngalokhu, kunenqwaba yezincwadi zephupho. Ukuze uwasebenzise, kufanelekile ukuzama ukukhumbula ngangokunokwenzeka imininingwane yesakhiwo nokulayisha ngokomzwelo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kufanele kukhunjulwe ukuthi izincwadi eziningi zokuphupha zinikeza ukuhumusha okuhlukile kwephupho elifanayo, ngakho-ke kufanelekile ukuqhathanisa ukubhalwa okulandelayo kanye nezenzakalo zokuphila kwangempela.
Kungani bephupha ngokuzalwa komfana?
Abalobi abaningi bephupho bacabanga ukuthi leli phupho liwuphawu oluhle, okusho ukuthi yonke into ebuhlotsheni bomndeni iyoba ngcono. Kulabo abafuna ukukhulelwa, ukuzalwa komfana kuyathembisa ukushesha okusheshayo emndenini. Uma leli phupho libonwa ngummeleli wezocansi olufanele endaweni, lokhu kuyathembisa ukulethwa kwayo okuhle nokusheshisa. Iphupho mayelana nokuzalwa komfana ngaphambi kokuba umshado ubonise ukuthi kufanelekile ukugcina idumela lakho. Kwezinye izimo, iphupho elinjalo liyi-harbinger yokwamukela izindaba ezinhle ezizofaneleka kubangani abasondelene noma izihlobo. Kungase kusho ukuthi imibono nemigomo emisha yekusasa izovela maduzane. Ukuhumusha kwephupho kusho ukuthi kufanele baqaphele, njengoba bazokwenza impumelelo.
Iphupho ngokuzalwa komfana uthembisa ukuthuthukiswa kwebhizinisi nomsebenzi. Ungathembela empumelekweni enkulu ezindabeni zezezimali. Kukhona nolwazi lokuthi iphupho elinjalo liyisincoma ukuthi kufanelekile ukuhlaziya izikhundla zokuphila komuntu futhi uphinde usethe kabusha izikhundla ngendlela entsha. Uma umfana ezalwa enephupho, ngokushesha maduze kuzoba nethuba lokuguqula impilo futhi uqale konke kusuka ebusweni obuhlanzekile. Kodwa lokhu kungasho ukugcwaliseka kwesifiso esiwuthanda kakhulu. Ukuphupha kokuzalwa komfana ngaphandle kwezinkinga kanye nezinkinga kuyisibonakaliso esihle, ukubikezela ukuhamba kwezinkinga. Uma ukuzalwa kunzima, lungiselela ukukhulisa izinkinga kanye nokuqala kwebhande "elimnyama".
Uma wamukela ukulethwa, futhi umfana evela, kusho ukuthi esikhathini esizayo esiseduze kuzodingeka uhlanganyele ebhizinisini elinzima. Konke kuhamba kahle, khona-ke kuyokwazi ukunqoba zonke izilingo nezinkinga. Esinye isakhiwo esinjalo singase sithole izindaba ezingalindelekile kusuka kumuntu okhohliwe. Ukuchazwa kwamaphupho mayelana nokuzalwa komfana kuncike lapho okwenzekile khona. Uma ukuzalwa bekusekhaya, awukwazi ukukhathazeka, ngoba konke kuzoba kuhle nabantu obathandayo, futhi kuzoba khona indebe egcwele endlini. Ukubuka ukuzalwa komfana ephusheni kuyinhlangano yezindaba ezingalindelekile. Iphupho lokuzalwa kwengane engadingeki libikezela into engenalutho. Ukubona ukuzalwa komfana ogulayo kuyisibonakaliso esibi, okukhombisa indlela yokubhekana nezinkinga ezincane nezinkathazo zomndeni.
Uma ukuzalwa kwengane yomfana nentombazane kuyiphupho, lokhu kuyisibonakaliso esihle, okubonisa ukuthi ukhetho oluhle lwenzile empilweni. Noma kunjalo kungasho ukuthi kubekhona umphathi ophazamisayo oyosiza ekuxazululeni izinkinga zezezimali. Umbono ebusuku, lapho abafana ababili bezalwa ngesikhathi esisodwa, uthembisa ingcebo esikhathini esizayo esiseduze. Lokhu kusho futhi ukwandisa igunya. Kwezinye izincwadi zokuphupha ukuzalwa kwamawele kubonisa ukuthi umsebenzi ubaluleke kakhulu kuwe okwamanje. Ngentombazane eqoqa ngaphansi komqhele, isakhiwo esinjalo sibonisa ukuzimisela kokuziphatha ukwakha umndeni. Lokhu kuhumusha kuyasebenza, uma ukuzalwa kuletha injabulo, kepha uma kubangela ukuzwa okungathandeki, kuyakudingeka ukuhlehlisa umqondo womshado okwesikhashana. Umbono ebusuku, lapho umama abeletha khona umfana, ubonisa ukuthi udinga usizo nokusekelwa kwindaba ethile ebalulekile.