Okwamanje, kwezinye izimo, ukusinda emngcwabeni womama ozayo kungaba nzima nakakhulu. Njengomthetho, lesi senzo sinzima kakhulu futhi sinzima, yingakho abantu abaningi banesithakazelo ukuthi kungenzeka yini ukuthi abesifazane abakhulelwe baya emathuneni nasemngcwabeni, futhi yiziphi izimpawu ezishiwo ngalokhu. Kulesi sihloko sizozama ukuqonda lokhu.
Kungenzeka yini ukuthi abesifazane abakhulelwe baya emngcwabeni?
Nakuba abanye abantu beqiniseka ukuthi noma yimaphi amamama aphikisana kakhulu kunoma yikuphi oxhumana nabo "namanye amazwe", empeleni, lokhu akude neze. Lezi zinkolelo-ze zafika kithi kusukela esikhathini esidala, lapho kwakukhona ukukholelwa okuphikisayo ukuthi umntwana osesibelethweni sikamama akanayo ingelosi yomlondolozi futhi akavikelekanga nakancane "emabutshweni amnyama", okusho ukuthi ngesikhathi sokuvakashela emathuneni noma emngcwabeni, kungenzeka into esabekayo.
Namuhla, iningi labapristi liqinisekile ukuthi ukubuka umuntu oshonile ngendlela yokugcina akuthinti lutho olubi kuye, ngakho-ke umbuzo wokuthi abesifazane abakhulelwe bangaba emngcwabeni wezihlobo noma abangane baphenduliwe.
Ngakho-ke, ngokuvakashela umcimbi onjalo, ukulindela ingane ngokujabulisayo, akukho lutho olwesabekayo. Kungenye indaba ukuthi lokhu kungathinta kanjani isimo sengqondo sengqondo somama esizayo. Lapha, wonke owesifazane uzodinga ukuzikhethela ukuthi uzokwazi yini ukubamba iqhaza kuleso senzo esibuhlungu nesibuhlungu, noma ngabe kufanele ahlale ekhaya.
Uma ungabaza ukuthi kungenzeka yini ukuthi abesifazane abakhulelwe baya emngcwabeni wesihlobo noma umngane omuhle, zama ukulalela inhliziyo yakho kuphela. Yiqiniso, uma lo muntu esondelene kakhulu nawe, futhi uyaqonda ukuthi awukwazi ukuthethelela, uma ungayisebenzisi endleleni yokugcina, nje ungazinaki zonke izinkolelo-ze nokubandlulula futhi ube nesibindi ukuya emcimbini.
Uma wesaba noma nje ungafuni ukuya emngcwabeni, hlala ekhaya futhi uqiniseke ukuthi akekho oyokulahla, ngoba ngesikhathi sokulindela impilo entsha, umama olindelekile kufanele abe nemimoya emihle kakhulu.