Ngeshwa, iphesenti labesifazane abangashadile liphakeme ngokwanele. Yikuphi okungahambi kwamantombazane aphelelwe yithemba ukuheha abantu. Abaningi banquma ukuthatha usizo lweMandla aphezulu futhi basebenzise emasikweni emilingo. Ukuthanda imilingo nokuthanda amasosha amashumi ambalwa eminyaka kuthandwa kakhulu. Kunamasiko amaningi ahlukene angasetshenziswa yibo bonke abantu uma befisa.
Izimpawu zesipelingi sothando kumadoda
Abanye abameleli besifazane ababuthakathaka banquma ukuthatha indoda komunye owesifazane, lapho basebenzisa imilingo . Iqiniso lokuthi othile usemule othandekayo lizoboniswa yizibonakaliso ezinjalo:
- isifiso esingenqunyelwe ukuhlala nenkosikazi eyenza isipele;
- ukungabikho kobudlelwane obuseduze ebusini;
- isithakazelo esilahlekile ekuphileni, kungenzeka ukucindezeleka;
- isifiso esiqhubekayo sokuphuza utshwala.
Uthande imilingo kanye nezimfihlakalo zesipelingi
Ukuze umkhuba ube ngempumelelo, kunconywa ukuba nenento ethile ehlotshaniswa nento yokudumisa. Ukuncintisana kungenziwa ngokusebenzisa izinwele. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kubalulekile ukuba ube namakhandlela amabili, okuzofanekisela owesifazane nendoda. Badinga ukugqoka izinwele, zibe yindoda eyodwa nenye insikazi. Ukuze wenze lokhu, amakhandlela angabekwa ebhetri noma abanjwe ezandleni zabo, lokhu kuzokwenza kube lula. Isinyathelo esilandelayo ukwenza isibalo sabantu besilisa namakhanda, bese ubanika amagama afanele. Bese uxhuma amakhandlela amabili ndawonye nomunye usebenzisa intambo ebomvu. Kubalulekile ukuthi i-coil entsha. Ukuze kusebenze isipelingi sothando, kuyadingeka ukuthi, ngesikhathi uxhumano lwezibalo, icebo elinjalo:
"Angikwazi kanjani ukuphila ngaphandle kwakho, ngakho (igama) ngeke ukwazi ukuphila ngaphandle kwami."
Phinda amagama njengoba ubona kufanelekile. Kubalulekile ukuthi ngesikhathi sokuphambuka kwe-spell, ugxeka imizwa emihle kuphela. Gcina izithombe endaweni ukuze kungabikho muntu ongayithola. Nsuku zonke, phinda uhlaka, ubambe amadonsa ngezandla kuze kufike inyanga egcwele.
Uthando Privorot kude
Imibhangqwana eminingi ihlukana ngenxa yokuthi kuthatha isikhathi eside ukuba kube kude. Kulokhu, ungabamba umkhosi olula ukugcina imizwa. Thatha izibuko ezincane ezimbili bese uzibeka eziphambene ukuze wenze i-corridor okuthiwa. Indawo ekahle yokufeza - ifasitela lokugcoba phambi kwefasitela evulekile. Hlala phansi esihlalweni sokhuni, ungenazo izicathulo kanye nezinwele ezivulekile. Thatha ikhandlela elikhanyisiwe uphinde ubheke ilangabi. Kuvinjelwe ukubheka esibukweni. Lapho i-wax iyancibilika kancane, yenzeke ikhandlela ukuze i-wax iwele phezu kwesandla sakho sesobunxele. Phakathi nalokhu, udinga ukucabanga njalo ngomthandekayo wakho. Ngenkathi sonke isundu sinama-wax, sondela kuso esibukweni, uthi la mazwi:
"Ngigeza labo abangalaleli. Insipho ayidingekile, kukhona izinyembezi zami. Angidingi ithawula, kukhona izinwele zami. Uthando lwami aludingi, kukhona enye. Izoshiya enye ngezinhlangothi ezine. Wena wedwa uzohlala efasiteleni. Njengoba isibhakabhaka singenakudliwa, uthando olungenakuqhathaniswa luzobuya. Uma ufika, uzohlala. Uma usuka, uzobuya. Amehlo abafokazi angaboni, abanye abakhulumi ngezindebe. Nguwe kuphela ongilalela, nguwe kuphela ofuna ukuya kimi! (Igama lomuntu) uzwa, (igama) uyazi, (igama) uzokhumbula. Ngikugwema ukuthi uthande, ngithi kimi. Buyela maduze, uzongibiza. Igama lami enhliziyweni yakho liyoba, isithombe sami egazini lakho lifihle! Ukuze kube lokhu (inombolo enjalo nenjalo, isikhathi esinjalo naleso sikhathi). "
Bese uphaqa izibuko ubuso nobuso bese uzifaka endaweni yakho yokulala. Ukuqedela isipelingi esinamandla sothando , kumele ubeke iphakheji phansi, ume phezu kwezinyawo ezingenalutho bese uthi:
"Ngaphandle kwegazi ngiyaxolisa, ngaphandle kwamazwi okukhomba (igama) azobuyela kimi noma enye izohlala."
Ukusebenzisa isihlalo, geza izibuko ngaphandle kokuzikhiphela ngaphandle kwehembe. Shiya konke kwifasiteleni kuze kufike ekuseni. Ngakusasa ekuseni, ngcwabe iziqephu ehlathini ngaphansi kwephayini. Hamba ekhaya ungaphenduki futhi ungakhulumi nanoma ubani.
Indlela elula yokwenza uthando isho
Kukhona amasiko amaningi ahlukene azosiza ukufeza ukubopha kwemilingo. Cabanga ngomkhuba, okudingeka ukuthi ube nezingubo zento yokudumisa. Ukugqoka izingubo zangaphansi kungcono kakhulu. Ukuqhuba umkhuba kuyadingeka ngoLwesine kuya eNyangeni ekhulayo. Geza ilineni, bese ulengisa, uthi:
"Angikukhanyisi ikhandlela, kodwa inhliziyo yami nomphefumulo wami ubhekene nesigqila (igama) kimi, isigqila (igama), kuze kube phakade."
Othandekayo kufanele agqoke izingubo zokugqoka.
Kungenzeka yini ukususa isipele sothando?
Kunemikhuba yokuqeda ithonya elikhona lemilingo. Kubalulekile ukuba abe nesithombe somuntu oye waphazamiseka. Kubalulekile ukuqhuba umkhosi kunoma yimuphi usuku lomadoda: ngoMsombuluko, ngoLwesibili noma ngoLwesine. Thatha ikhandlela elimhlophe bese ulikhanyisa. I-isipuni kasawoti ishisa phezu kwelangabizi futhi kathathu utshele isakhiwo:
"Nkosi Nkulunkulu, usizo futhi ulondoloze.
Usawoti, umhlophe futhi uhlanzekile, thatha inhlamba encekwini kaNkulunkulu (igama).
Yenza iphutha elibi, lusizi,
Imicabango ibonakele, inonya,
Imizwa iyingozi.
Susa konke okwenziwe, ngokuphuza utshwala, udliwe nokudla,
Ngensimbi ebanjwe, igama elibi elithunyelwe.
Thatha lapho uvela khona, buyisele.
Izwi lami liqinile, ngakho-ke yiba njalo. Amen. "
Bese usithulule usawoti etafuleni, ufake indwangu yelineni nesithombe phezulu. Umkhuba kufanele uphindwe izikhathi ezintathu kuphela ezinsukwini zamadoda. Iplate esetshenzisiwe kufanele ilahlwe.