Akekho okwazi ukujabula ngakho ngesikhathi sokuhlwa njengabazali bezingane ezincane. Ngempela, njengoba bethi ngenye inhlekisa - izingane zokulala azigcini nje kuphela, kodwa futhi ekugcineni! Kodwa kusihlwa komzali ngamunye ukuthi umsebenzi obunzima kakhulu ulindele - ukubeka umntwana ukuba alale. Futhi ngaphambi kokuba "ekugcineni" kufike, izinqubo eziyinkulungwane kuzodingeka zenziwe. Letha amanzi amanzi, uvale amakhethini, uvule ukukhanya ebusuku, ulethe ebhodweni, uvule amakhethini, uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphume amanzi. Akumangalisi ukuthi emva kokuphathwa okunjalo, omama abampofu nabababa abambelele ekhanda nombuzo wokuthi bangamfundisa kanjani umntwana ukuthi balele bodwa. Akulula ukwenza lokhu, kodwa uma unesineke, konke kungenzeka.
Indlela yokufundisa ingane ukuba ilele?
Ukubuka ukuthi izingane ezinqenqemeni zilala kanjani, umuntu omdala akakwazi ukuqonda izizathu zangempela zokungalali. Futhi zingaphezu kokweqile ekuqondeni izingane. Izingane zibona ubuthongo hhayi njengokuphumula okulinde isikhathi eside, kodwa ngokuyinhloko njengokuhlukanisa nabathandekayo nokungenzi lutho. Kwenzeka kanjani, vala amehlo akho, vumela konke okuthakazelisayo futhi uhlale ungenzi lutho okwesikhashana? Enhloko encane yengane, izinto ezinjalo zibonakala ziphazamisayo. Lokhu kuphendukela ekubhedeni embukisweni wangempela ngemiphumela ekhethekile.
Kodwa-ke, naphezu kokuthi le nkinga ibhekane nhlobo yonke imindeni, ingaxazululwa kalula. Into esemqoka ukubekezela futhi ufunde ukuzilawula. Kodwa mayelana nakho konke okuhlelekile.
Inkinga yokuqala ebhekene nabomama abasha ukuthi ingane ilele kuphela ngesifuba. Futhi-ke kukhona umbuzo ophikisanayo - futhi kungani esiteji sokuqala sokuthuthukiswa kwengane kanye nokuthuthukiswa kwengqondo yakhe kuyamxosha kulokho engenakho? Yiqiniso, emva kokudla, uzama ukubeka umntwana esihlakalweni futhi ujabulele ukukhala kwakhe phakathi nobusuku, lapho ethola ukuthi umama akahambanga. Khumbula ukuthi kuyinto engathandeki kuwe uma ingane ilele eduze futhi izwa ukushisa kwakho. Futhi ngenxa yemvuthuluka yakho kuyigcinanti yentuthuko ehambisanayo. Ukuxosha ingane kuwe, usengozini yokuthola ubuntu obushukuthele futhi obuthakathaka. Ngakho-ke, ukucabanga ngendlela yokufundisa ingane ukuba ilale ngokuzimela, kungcono ukucabanga lapho iyoba nezinyanga ezingu-7-8 ubudala.
Inkinga yesibili neyomhlaba wonke yabomama abaningi yisikhathi lapho umntwana elele kuphela ezandleni zakhe. Lesi sigaba sithola cishe yonke imindeni. Kodwa ungakwazi ukusinda ngokushesha kakhulu. Kanjani ncamashi - sizokutshela kamuva.
Inkinga yesithathu yizikhwama zendabuko ezihlala zikhona, ezihlanganiswe ngumntwana oneminyaka engu-2-3 ubudala, olala kuphela nonina noma engafuni ukuhlala kuze kube yilapho bonke abakhe bendlu belele.
Sombulula zonke izinkinga ezintathu ngokusebenzisa indlela efanayo. Igama lakhe lingu-Estvil.
Indlela yokufundisa ingane ukuba ilele esibhedlela?
Inqubo eyingqayizivele, eyenziwe eminyakeni embalwa edlule, ihlolwe ngabazali abaningi. Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba unqume ngakho, qiniseka ukuthi ngesikhathi sokuqeqesha ingane ukuba ilele, azikho ugogo onobubele eduzane noma ezinye izizathu ezingakhungathekisa lokhu.
Ngakho-ke, ingane yakho yenzani uma ufuna ukumbeka? Yiqiniso, uthola ukunaka kwakho ngazo zonke izindlela. Uzenza sengathi ugula kakhulu, uyamemeza, ufunge futhi angabangela ukuhlanza. Ungesabi. Ngisho noma kukhona ukucasuka ngaphakathi kwakho, ungabonisi futhi uhlale uphelile ngaphandle. Phinda ugqoke ingane bese uyibuyisela esikhaleni. Abanye abazali bashiya izingane zikhala futhi zingabe zisasondela kubo - kufanele zikhathele futhi zilale. Ungenzi lokhu kunoma ikuphi! Buyela emntwaneni oyidingayo! Kodwa hhayi ukuthi umlethele, ungamlili noma aphinde awuthathe ezandleni zakhe futhi amenzele esimweni sokungcola. Weza isizathu esisodwa kuphela - ukukhombisa ingane ukuthi awuzange umshiye futhi usamthanda. Yiziphi izikhathi okufanelekile ukuvakashela ama-nursery? Impendulo yalo mbuzo yindlela ye-Estvil, ibalwa ngesonto, lapho kuphuma khona umntanakho ngamunye umdwebo ngamaminithi:
Usuku olungu-1. Ukubeka umntwana ukuba alale, shiya ekamelweni futhi okokuqala ngabuyele emuva ngomzuzu, kwesibili nesikwesithathu emaminithini amathathu, bese ufika njalo ngemizuzu emihlanu aze ingane ilele.
Usuku 2 - ubuya emva kwemizuzu emithathu (1 isikhathi), imizuzu emihlanu (izikhathi ezimbili), imizuzu engu-7 zonke ezinye izikhathi.
Usuku lwesithathu - imizuzu emihlanu (1 isikhathi), imizuzu engu-7 (izikhathi ezimbili), imizuzu engu-9 zonke ezinye izikhathi.
Izinsuku ezingu-4 - imizuzu engu-7 (1 isikhathi), imizuzu engu-9 (izikhathi ezimbili), imizuzu engu-11 zonke izikhathi.
Usuku 5 - amaminithi angu-9 (1 isikhathi), imizuzu engu-11 (izikhathi ezimbili), imizuzu engu-13 zonke ezinye izikhathi.
Usuku 6 - 11 imizuzu (1 isikhathi), imizuzu engu-13 (izikhathi ezimbili), imizuzu engu-15 zonke ezinye izikhathi.
Usuku 7 - imizuzu engu-13 (1 isikhathi), imizuzu engu-15 (izikhathi ezimbili), imizuzu engu-17 zonke ezinye izikhathi.
Sebenzisa lolu hlelo nganoma yisiphi isikhathi sosuku.
Ngabe ingane iqala nini ukulala nale ndlela? Njengomthetho, abazali abaningi abazama lolu hlelo, ukujwayela ingane embhedeni kwakungenzeka ngosuku lwesishiyagalombili nanhlanu. Into enzima kunazo zonke kule ndlela akusiyo ukuphumula nokugijima kumntwana okhalayo. Udinga ukuthola ukubekezela okuncane futhi uqaphele ukuthi zonke izenzo zakho zenzelwe okuhle kuphela. Ukubuyela kumntwana, ungavuli ukukhanya, ungayithathi ezandleni zakho futhi ungazami ukuyihlanganisa. Masizwe kuphela izwi lakho. Mtshele ukuthi ungamlahli, ukuthi nawe ulale futhi zonke izingane kufanele zilale zodwa. Qinisekisa ukungitshela ukuthi uyamthanda kangakanani ingane yakho. Uma uphatha ukuqoqa intando yakho ibe yingqimba bese ulandela indlela ngokucacile, kungakapheli izinsuku ezimbalwa imiphumela izodlula izilindelo zakho. Futhi-ke inkinga yokufundisa ingane ukuthi ilale ngokuzimela ngeke ikuthinte futhi.