Umbuzo wokuthi ungaba kanjani omuhle futhi okhangayo, ujabule ngaso sonke isikhathi isigamu esihle sabantu. Kuyathakazelisa futhi ukuthi abesifazane, ababhekwa njengento "ubuhle", ekuhlolisweni okungeziwe nabo futhi abanakho amaphutha. Kungani abanye banesihloko esithi "sihle kakhulu futhi sikhangayo", kuyilapho abanye, cishe cishe idatha efanayo, baziwa njengegundane elimpunga?
Indlela yokuhle futhi ekhangayo: ukuzihlonipha
Inkinga yabesifazane abaningi ayikho neze ukungapheleli kwemininingwane yabo, kodwa ngokuzithoba . Kwabaningi kuvela kusukela ebuntwaneni: omama kaningi abaqapheli amaphuzu aqinile ekubukeni kwamantombazane ukuthi labo "abazange baziqhenye". Ngenxa yalokho, intombazane esekhulile iyazibheka ukuthi iyona ejwayelekile kunazo zonke, futhi lokhu kubonakala enkulumweni yakhe engenamlomo - inkulumo ebusweni, isenzo, ukuma. Kuze kube yinto intombazane eyithanda yona kanye nokubonakala kwayo, izinguquko ezingcono azikwazi ukulinda.
Esiklasini ngasinye kukhona "ubuhle" obufana nabafana abafana nabo. Eqinisweni, akuyona into enhle kunazo zonke, kodwa u-100% uyona ozethemba kakhulu. Ufuna ukuba mnandi kakhulu? Khulisa ukuzethemba!
Thatha umthetho ukuze ungagcini ukunaka kwakho, kodwa ukucabanga ngalokho okuhle kuwe. Ngaso sonke isikhathi lapho unquma ukugxilisa engqondweni yakho ukucabanga kwakho okungahambi kahle, ukuhumusha kwisiteshi esakhayo: noma ngabe ususa iphutha, uma kungenzeka, noma ucabange ngezinye izinto, ezijabulisa kakhulu ukubukeka kwakho.
Ungaba kanjani mnandi futhi ukhangele?
Amadoda anakekele imininingwane, kodwa esithombeni sonke. Akekho ozobona ukuthi unekhala eliphambene kancane uma ugqoke kahle futhi udwebe kahle. Kumelwe ukhanyise ngokuphelele, lokhu kuzokwengeza ekuzithembeni kwakho. Ziqagele kahle:
- Hlala esibukweni, zihlole wena kuzo zonke izinhlangothi uphinde upheqa
amandla abo: ngokwesibonelo, ukukhula okuphezulu, ukwehlisa, amehlo amakhulu, imilenze ende, izici zobuso ezivumelanisiwe. Uma ukhetha ngokwengeziwe, kungcono. - Qaphela futhi ukungalungi okwangaphandle, okuzama ukufihla: isibonelo, hhayi amabele amancane okwanele azolungisa izimpande ezincane, izindebe ezincane - ukwakheka okulungile, njll.
- Yakha isithombe lapho isithunzi sakho sigcizelelwe khona, futhi amaphutha ayifihliwe. Khumbula lokhu.
Hlola njalo isimo sesikhumba, izinwele, izipikili. Khetha izingubo hhayi ngesimiso "ngakho-ke uzokwehla", bese udala isithombe esiphelele. Nsuku zonke kufanele ubheke ukuze uzithande - futhi wena ngokwakho ngeke uqaphele ukuthi baba kanjani abakhangayo nabathandekayo.