Manje kungakaze kube khona umbuzo ophuthumayo: indlela yokukhulisa indodana yindoda yangempela. Emphakathini wanamuhla, abafana bakhuliswa ikakhulukazi ngabesifazane, ngakho kunzima ukuba bathole izimfanelo zesilisa. Enkulisa, othisha kanye namannies bahlanganyela emfundweni, iningi labathisha esikoleni ngabesifazane. Kodwa konke okufanayo, izici eziyinhloko zomlingiswa zibekiwe emndenini. Ngakho-ke, abazali kufanele bazi indlela yokukhulisa indodana evela endodaneni.
Yini oyidingayo lokhu?
- Kusukela esemncane kubaluleke kakhulu ukujwayela ingane ukuzimela. Mtshele ukuba enze yonke imisebenzi yasekhaya engenzeka, uzifundise ukugqoka, uhlalise umbhede wakho, uhlanze itafula.
- Awukwazi ukumisa isinyathelo senkosi, umvimbele ukuba enze okuthile okuwusizo, kodwa kubonakala sengathi awukwazi ukubekezelela ingane. Masiqede ngendebe ephukile noma amanzi aphelile, kodwa kumizamo yokuzama njalo kanye nochungechunge lwehluleka ukuthi imfihlakalo yokukhulisa indodana indoda ifihliwe.
- Kubaluleke kakhulu ukudumisa indodana / umfana kaningi. Wonke amadoda adinga ukuzizwa edingekayo futhi ewusizo. Ukudumisa njalo kuvusa ukuzethemba komfana futhi kukhuthaza ukuzethemba.
- Labo abangakwazi ukukhulisa indoda endodaneni yabo, bakholelwa ukuthi kudingeka bafundise umfana ukuthi angalili futhi aziphathe kahle kakhulu. Kodwa lokhu akulungile. Ingane encane ayikwazi ukuveza imizwelo ngaphandle kwezinyembezi, ngakho-ke akudingeki ukuba umtshele lokho, kodwa ikufundise indlela yokubhekana necala. Ukuqina kunesidingo, kodwa ngokulinganisela, ngaphandle kwalokho ingane ingakhula intukuthelo, inxushunxushu noma isatshiswa.
- Ungalokothi umemeza ngendodana yakho, ungambizi, futhi ungamhlaziyi nganoma iyiphi indlela. Ukulalela lokhu ngeke kufezeke, ngokuphambene nalokho, kuyoba yinto engenakugwenywa.
- Fundisa ingane yakho ukuba inakekele labo ababuthakathaka kunaye. Ungamthengela isilwane, sizosiza ukuletha umqondo wemfanelo. Futhi ekuthuthukiseni izimfanelo zesilisa zobuntu kubalulekile ukufundisa ukunikeza indawo abesifazane, ukubasiza.
- Indodana yakho yakhula indoda yangempela, kubaluleke kakhulu ukumfundisa ukuthi adlale imidlalo. Yenza nsuku zonke ukushaja, ukukhuthaza imidlalo yangaphandle, ubhale phansi esigabeni sezemidlalo. Kuyinto efiselekayo ukuthi kakade ngaphambi kwesikole umfana angakwazi ukubhukuda, agibele ibhayisikili futhi adlale imidlalo ethile yemidlalo.
- Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, ukuthi yini abazali okufanele bayenze ngendodana yabo ukuthi bayamthanda. Umfana, ikakhulukazi esemncane, kumele athole i-caress nokukhathalela. Ungesabi ukumbumbana nokumanga umntwana, uma ekhula, uyakwenqaba, khona-ke akufanele umphoqe. Futhi uma ingane encane ikhula ngaphandle kokuthanda, khona-ke ngeke neze ifunde ukuthanda nokukhathalela abanye abantu.
Kuphela emndenini ogcwele onobungane obuvamile phakathi kwabashadile bayazi ukuthi bangakhula kanjani indodana. Kuye kwaziwa isikhathi eside ukuthi ukuqaphela nokuziphatha akuyona indlela yemfundo. Isibonelo kuphela umuntu angafundisa ingane okuthile. Ngakho-ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi azikho izingxabano emndenini. Ungalokothi uxabane nendodana yakho futhi ungacasuli, kungenjalo uzoziphatha ezimweni ezifanayo. Kusemndenini ukuthi isisekelo somlingiswa womfana, isimo sakhe sengqondo empilweni nangombono wakhe senziwa. Futhi indima enkulu kulokhu idlalwe upapa.
Indima kababa ekukhuliseni indodana yakhe
Yiqiniso, eminyakeni engamatshumi amathathu ingane ikhuliswa ngumama oyinhloko, kepha uma ifuna indodana ukuba ikhule ibe yindoda yangempela,
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umfana afunde ukulungisa amathoyizi nobaba wakhe, ukukhonkwane ngezipikili noma ukusiza ukuthwala izikhwama. Emva kweminyaka engu-5-6, qiniseka ukuthi ushiya uyihlo nendodana okwesikhashana ngaphandle kwakho. Kumele babe nezamfihlo zabo zesilisa nezindaba zabantu. Khuthaza ukuzijabulisa okuhlangene, isibonelo, ukudoba, ukudweba noma ukulungisa imoto. Bonke abazali kufanele bazi indlela yokukhulisa umfana indoda yangempela. Futhi lapho esegugile eduze kwabo kuyohlale engumsizi onokwethenjelwa.