Ngeshwa, ukukhishwa komuntu othandekayo akuyona into ejwayelekile engavamile, eyenzeka eminyakeni eminingi emva komshado, futhi ngemva nje komshado . Abesifazane basabela ngokuhlukile ekukhonzeni okunjalo, omunye umuntu, ngaphandle kokuchaza igama, uhambisa isahlukaniso, omunye uwela ekucindezelekeni okuqine kakhulu, okungase kube yimbangela yokuzibulala, kanti omunye uzama ukuthethelela oshade naye, tk. ayifuni ukuphila ngaphandle kwayo. Sizolinga ukuthola ukuthi singathethelela kanjani ukungathembeki komyeni futhi siphile ngaphandle kokubuka emuva esikhathini esidlule futhi singakhumbuli ubuhlungu nokudumazeka.
Indlela yokuziphatha emva kokukhashelwa komyeni wakhe?
Ngaphambi kokuthethelela othandekayo wakho ngokukhaphela, nakanjani udinga ukuzikhethela ukuthi usulungele yini ukuqhubeka uhlala naye. Ngempela, kunzima kakhulu futhi akuwona wonke owesifazane owazi ukuziphatha ngemuva kokungathembeki komyeni wakhe, nokuthi ngabe angakhohlwa ukuthi indoda yakhe, naphezu kwezibopho zomshado, iya kwenye. Yiqiniso, ungazama ukubuyisela ubudlelwane, isibonelo, ngenxa yezingane noma uma wena nomyeni wakho nithandana ngempela, futhi ukuphinga kwakuyindoda yokwakheka okwesikhashana nje.
Abesifazane abaningi bakhohlisiwe abaqondi ukuthi umuntu angaphila kanjani ukuthengiswa komuntu othandekayo futhi abuyisele ubuhlobo obuseduze nomyeni wakhe; ngakho-ke, ukuze ngandlela-thile udale impilo ngemva kokwedluliswa komlingani, lalela amathiphu alandelayo:
- Ungatshele izintombi zakho, futhi ngisho nakakhulu ngezihlobo mayelana nokukhashelwa komyeni wakhe . Ngisho noma uthethelela othandekayo wakho, intombazane yakho izokhumbula ngelinye ilanga ukuthi ukukhohlisa oshade naye, futhi emehlweni ezihlotsheni, yena uyohlala engumlandeli kuze kube phakade futhi ubuhlobo phakathi kwabo, neze, ngeke kube okufanayo.
- Ungabuzi umyeni wakho ngemininingwane yentando yakhe, angeke akwenze okuhle kuwe noma yena.
- Ungazami ukumlandela, ukuhlola njalo ifoni yakhe, njll, zama ukuthembela oshade naye, nakuba ngemuva
lokhu cishe akunakwenzeka, kodwa okungenani uzenze sengathi awukhathazeki nhlobo. - Khuluma nomyeni wakho, ngaphandle kwamahloni kanye nezinyembezi, ulalele izincazelo zakhe, mhlawumbe uzoqonda ukuthi kungani enza lokhu.
- Zama ukuchitha isikhathi esengeziwe ekubukeni kwakho, wenze izinwele, ukhohlwe ngengubo endala yokugqoka ekhaya futhi uhlangabezane nendoda kuyo yonke inkazimulo yayo.
- Ingxenye eyinkimbinkimbi kunazo zonke ukulala ocansini, ngoba uzocabanga ukuthi umyeni wakho umele inkosikazi yakhe yangaphambili. Kulesi simo, ungasiza ekuphumuleni kothando, isibonelo, sebenzisa amasonto ambalwa ndawonye olwandle.