Ngaphandle kokuthinta ngokuziphatha kombuzo wokubhujiswa komndeni (kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kungaba yini), siyaqhubeka ngokushesha kuze kube seqophelweni elithakazelisayo kakhulu kulabo abazoqeda kuze kube phakade konke okuboshwe othandanayo (noma abangenalo uthando). Into kuphela engaba nesithakazelo ezimweni ezinjalo yimiphumela yama-lapels abafazi. Ake sithi ngaso leso sikhathi: imiphumela iyoba, futhi bayozizwa bobabili abadlali kanye nabahlukumezekile.
Umehluko kuma-lapel
I-lapel evela kumfazi ingenziwa ngezindlela eziningi. Kungaba kubanda - uma ubuhlobo bomuntu oshade naye bukhohliwe, kancane kancane uqala ukubona umkakhe njengomuntu ongaphandle. Kungaba khona ukuhlukumezeka - lokhu kuyithonya elinamandla kubo bobabili abashadile, bavele baxabane, ngokushesha futhi behlaselwa, bebhubhisa zonke izibopho zangaphambili. Noma mhlawumbe i-lapel ngokwayo ingumphumela wemilingo ekuqaphelweni komuntu, kumzimba wakhe we-ethekthi.
Ngokuvamile, i-lapel nebandayo yenza kuphela usizi lwakho-othandekayo nakuwe, nokuhlukumezeka - kokubili oshade naye, nakanjani. Kulokhu, imiphumela ye-lapel yomuntu oyisisulu kanye nomenzi we-rite iyohlala ibe njalo, kanye nemiphumela yomfazi olahliwe - uma kwenzeka umgogodla.
Imiphumela ayiyona into embi ngenxa yomyeni oshiywe, kodwa "izimbobo" ezinkulu e-aura yabantu.
Imiphumela
Ukunquma nge-lapel eqinile kumkayo, cabanga ukuthi uthola bani. Uma amandla nokuzizwa komuntu kunamandla, kuyodingeka ukulwa nobuqili ngamandla ayo. Ehluleka ukunqoba lesi sipele, uzozama, athole induduzo kotshwala, izidakamizwa nezinye izinto ezinhle.
Amadoda athole i-lapel:
- bahlangabezana nezinkinga ezinkulu zezempilo;
- ukwandisa kalula izifo ezingelapheki;
- babe nobudlova, abacasuliwe, be-psypaths - empeleni ukucabanga kwabo kubhujiswe yi-lapel;
- bawela ekucindezelekeni - bazizwa bengenamandla, bengakholelwa ukuthi kusasa kungaba khona okuhle;
- baba namandla;
- bathatha isiqalekiso esijwayelekile - uma ubuhlobo bubumbana ngendlela ephawulekayo futhi amandla omlingo akakuvumeli ukuba uhlale isikhathi eside, konke okubi kuyodluliselwa kusuka esizukulwaneni kuya esizukulwaneni.
Ngokuqondene nabesifazane abazama ukuzithanda ngamapulethi kanye nama-lapel, umphumela ngeke ube "ukunqoba" onjalo "umuntu ophuphayo". Unomthwalo wokubhubhisa uthando (futhi uthando lomlingo luyingcwele), ngakho kufanele ukhokhe. Ukukhokha kuyoba yinto embi ekusebenzelaneni "nabathandekayo" abasha, uzohlupheka ngenxa yokungabi nabantwana, ulahlekelwe impilo kanye namandla, ulwe nezifo. Uma uthola okuthile, futhi ngisho nangaphezulu, thatha umuntu, i-Universe idinga ukulinganisa.