Abantu abahlakaniphile abazama ukuthuthukiswa, bazibekela imigomo ethile, bathuthukise izinhlelo zokufeza kwabo. Abaningi banomkhuba onjalo-ukutshela konke ngokuphila kwabo kwabanye abantu. Ake sizame ukuqonda ukuthi kungani ungakwazi ukutshela mayelana nezinhlelo zakho kwabanye, futhi yini engaba umphumela wokwephulwa kwalokhu kuvinjelwa. Kunesizathu sokuvinjelwa okunjalo, ngoba ngokusho kwezibalo ngamacala angu-95%, amapulani ayitshele angabi yiqiniso.
Kungani kungekho muntu ongatshela mayelana nezinhlelo zabo?
Abantu abaningi bathanda ukuphupha, belele embhedeni, futhi balindele ukuphelelwa yisikhathi ukuzoletha konke epulatifeni ngomngcele ohlaza okwesibhakabhaka. Abanye basebenza kanzima ukuthola lokho abakufunayo, kodwa akukho lutho oluphumela njengomphumela. Izazi zengqondo zikholelwa ukuthi lokhu kubangelwa ukuthi abantu bathanda ukwabelana nabanye ngezinhloso zabo, okuyinto eyinhloko enkulu yokuphupha.
Izizathu eziyinhloko zokuthi kungani ungafanele ukhulume ngamasu akho:
- Abantu abaningi baqala ukubangela ukungabaza futhi bathi akukho lutho olungaphuma, ngakho-ke kukhona ukungcola kwamandla ukuchaza futhi ukufakazela ukuthi imigomo ebekwe yona izogcwaliseka. Ngenxa yalokho, esikhundleni sokuqala ukusebenzisa uhlelo, lo muntu ubonisa umbono wakhe.
- Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi akukhona abangane kuphela abazungezile kodwa futhi nezitha, kanye nemilayezo yabo emibi
bangakwazi ukumane nje "jinx it". - Awukwazi ukukhuluma ngezinhlelo zakho nemigomo yakho, ngoba imibono yangempela, isibonelo, mayelana nokuqala ibhizinisi, ingahle ibambe futhi ithengiswe omunye umuntu. Ngenxa yalokho, uzohlala "emgodini ophukile."
Ungakhohlwa ukuthi izinhlelo zingashintsha bese zichaza ukuthi kungani lokho okushiwo ukuthi kungasetshenzisiwe, ngeke kube kuhle futhi kube namahloni.
Ngokuvamile, zama ukuvala umlomo wakho futhi kungcono ukusebenzisa lokho okuhleliwe kuqala, bese wabelana ngomphumela nabanye.