Abesifazane abaningi abahlala emshadweni ojabulayo, besaba ukuthi othandekayo uyashintsha futhi omunye wesifazane uzomtshela. Ukwesaba okunjalo kulungile, ngoba labo okuthiwa "abazingeli" balungele ukwenza okuningi ukuze bathole indoda abayithandayo. Abanye abantu baze baphendukela kumlingo ukuze basize, beqhuba amasiko angavunyelwe. Kulesi simo kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi ungasusa kanjani ukulimala nomyeni wakhe.
Okokuqala, kufanele unqume ukuthi noma kukhona yini okungalungile kumyeni wakho. Thatha indandatho yomshado bese uyibeke kuchungechunge, lapho ugqoka khona isiphambano. Uma kungenjalo, khona-ke isonto ngaphambi kwesiko, lithenge esontweni bese uyigqoka ngaphandle kokulikhiphela. Lapho umyeni elele ngokushesha emhlane wakhe, khanyisa ikhandlela elivamile lesonto ngaphezulu kwekhanda lakhe bese ubamba intambo ngendandatho efana ne-pendulum esandleni sakhe eseluliwe. Emva kwalokhu, tshela isenzo esinjalo:
"Umkhwenyana-umama, inceku kaNkulunkulu (igama lomyeni),
Ngabe kukhona owamvumela noma ubani enhliziyweni yakhe
Ngaphandle kwami, izigqila zikaNkulunkulu (igama lakho)? "
Uma le ring ijikeleza, khona-ke enhliziyweni yomlingani ungowesifazane owodwa. Emva kwalokho, tshela lawa mazwi:
"Umkhwenyana-umama, inceku kaNkulunkulu (igama lomyeni),
Ukhona yini owavula imicabango yakhe,
Ngaphandle kwami, izigqila zikaNkulunkulu (igama lakho)? "
Uma futhi i-pendulum ibuyele ezinhlangothini, kusho ukuthi emicabangweni yomenzi wesifazane, enye insikazi. Nciphisa indandatho kuya ezithombeni zobulili bese uthi:
"Umkhwenyana-umama, inceku kaNkulunkulu (igama lomyeni),
Ukhona umuntu othanda isithandwa sakho.
Ngaphandle kwami, izigqila zikaNkulunkulu (igama lakho)? "
Uma indandatho iguqa ukusuka kolunye uhlangothi, khona-ke kukhona umphumela wemilingo.
Ungasusa kanjani isipele sothando kumyeni wakhe?
Kunamasiko amaningi ahlukene, cabanga ngomunye wabo. Kuye, kufanele ulungise usawoti kanye nesithombe esisha salowo okhethiwe. Qinisekisa ukuthi umyeni ubambe iphakheji likasawoti. Thatha i-pan yokuhlanza ehlanzekile bese uyibeka ku-2 tbsp. wezipuni kasawoti. Yishise futhi ulindele ukuba usawoti ube mnyama futhi uphazamise, njengoba kubonisa ukuba khona kwesipelingi. Uma kwenzeka ukuthi uphahla oluqinile kumyeni lwenziwa, kanjani ukususa lona kuphela ochwepheshe be-psychic owaziyo futhi udinga ukubuyela kuye. Uma usawoti nje ubumnyama, khona-ke ungabhekana nalesi simo ngokwakho. Ngaphezulu kwalowo usawoti kufanele athethe umthandazo onjalo ukuze asuse isipeliso sothando kumyeni, njengoba ivuselela isenzo somkhuba:
"Usawoti mhlophe futhi uhlanzekile, uhlanze inceku kaNkulunkulu (igama). Susa yonke into ewonakalisiwe, konke okwenziwe, konke kukhishwa, kudliwe ngokudla, kudakwe isiphuzo, kuthathwe ngetheni. Iso elibi, izwi elibi lithunyelwe. Ngisho intombazane, okungenani owesifazane osekhulile, nakuba engumuntu omdala, okungenani ohlala ezweni, ngisho nodade, okungenani umzalwane, ngisho nomkhwenyana
Ngemuva kwalokho, usawoti ngobumnandi bese uwubeka esithombeni. Ngaphambi kokushona kwelanga, thatha isithombe esandleni sakho sokunene uphinde ufunde umthandazo obhalwe ngenhla. Beka isithombe ku-saucer ngendlela yokuthi usawoti ungaphansi nangaphezulu kwawo. Uhlaka luphinda ngaphambi kokushona kwelanga izikhathi ezingamanye izikhathi ngosuku lwesibili nolwesithathu. Ngehora lesishiyagalolunye ngosuku lwesine, thatha isoso ngomgwaqo bese uliphonsa emfuleni, utshele ugobe lokususa kumyeni wakhe ukupenda okuthandwayo, ngoba ngaphandle kwalokhu lo mkhosi ngeke usebenze:
"Amanzi anika bonke abantu impilo futhi anginike othandekayo (igama)!"