"Baba Ralph, ngifile, nginomdlavuza!" - Lawa magama awela emlonyeni wezingane ezincane uMaggie Cleary (i-heroine yencwadi ethi "Ukuhlabelela emineni"), owenqume ukwethemba umuntu othandekayo nomcebisi wakhe. Le ntombazane ivule umngane wakhe imfihlakalo embi kakhulu: sekuyizinyanga eziyisithupha kusukela igazi lakhe ligijima njalo ngenyanga nezinhlungu eziswini.
Izimo ezinjalo zivele zenzeke - futhi ezingaphezu kwesisodwa - empilweni yangempela, lapho omama bekhohliwe, futhi, mhlawumbe, namahloni ngesikhathi sokuba nengxoxo ebalulekile nentombazane mayelana nenyanga. Okwamanje, isihloko esibucayi akufanele sifihliwe kuze kube yisikhathi lapho ingane edidekile iza nezincazelo ezingenalutho - uma ekhetha ukuvuma kubazali bakhe ukuthi kukhona "okungalungile kuye." Kungcono ukulungiselela indodakazi kusengaphambili, kuze kube yiminyaka eyishumi, ngoba Amakhosazana amancane anamuhla avame ukukhula ngokushesha kunomkhulu nonina. Ngaphezu kwalokho, phakathi nenkathi yokuguquka kuyoba nzima kuwe ukusetha indodakazi yakho ingxoxo engagwegwesi. Mayelana nokuthi ungatshela kanjani intombazane mayelana nenyanga, sizokhuluma esihlokweni sethu.
Inketho 1. Incwadi
Thumela ingane ngokucophelela lapho itholakalayo futhi ngezithombe zitshela mayelana nokuguqula intombazane intombazane - indlela elula ehambisana nale miindeni lapho kungekho masiko okuxoxisana okuyimfihlo phakathi kwabazali nezingane. Noma ingabe unganqikazi, ungazi ukuthi ungachaza kanjani intombazane mayelana nesikhathi sokuya esikhathini. Kodwa-ke, ngisho nakulolu cala, kubalulekile ukubuza ukuthi ngabe konke kucacile endodeni evela ekufundeni. Uma le ncwadi ingenayo isigaba semithetho yokuhlanzeka ngesikhathi sokuya esikhathini noma izici ezihlobene nezinguquko emlandweni we-hormonal (ukubukeka kwezimbongolo, ukukhula kwezinwele ze-pubic, njll), tshela ngakho.
Okukhethwa kukho 2. Ukukhuluma nge-tete-a-tete
Uma ucabanga ukuthi ungatshela kanjani indodakazi ekhulile yenyanga, omama abaningi abakwazi ukuqala ingxoxo. Yebo, uma ingane inesithakazelo, kungani uthengisa amaphilisi esitolo, noma ngabe intombazane enokukhangisa isho ukuthini, ihlombe lapho kungekho khona izindawo ezingaqondakali. Noma kunjalo, ungakhetha isikhathi esifanele: lapho indodakazi ingabamatasa, ingasheshi, ingaphazanyiswa izingxoxo zocingo noma ithelevishini. Ngakho, ihora X lafika:
- Buza ngobumnene indodakazi yakho uma eyazi ukuthi ukuya esikhathini. Ngalesi sigaba, ungabona ngenjabulo ukuthi ingane isivele ikhanyiswe yizintombi ezithuthukile, kodwa lokhu akusona isizathu sokuphazamisa ingxoxo: akunakwenzeka ukuthi abantu abahlala ngesikhathi bangahlinzeka izimpendulo kuzo zonke imibuzo ezivela ekhanda lakhe. Kubalulekile ukuchaza ngokunembile futhi ngokucacile indlela yokwenziwa kwenqubo, imininingwane engalungile engalungile etholwe eminye imithombo.
- Qala ngokuthi inyanga zonke - lokhu akusiyo isifo, hhayi isifo. Intombazane kumele iqonde ukuthi le nqubo ayinakugwemeka, nokuthi kufanele ibhekwe njengento ejabulisayo, ekhombisa ukuthi uyayintombazane. Ngitshele ukuthi inyangazonke kuyimfuneko evumelekile ukuba abe ngumama esikhathini esizayo.
- Khuluma ngesakhiwo somzimba wesifazane kanye nezitho zangasese. Chaza kafushane indlela yokwenyuka yenyanga (ukuphuma kweqanda elivuthiwe kusuka ku-follicle).
- Ukutshela amantombazane konke mayelana nokuya esikhathini, wena, ngandlela-thile, uzothinta isihloko sokukhulelwa. Gwema akufanele, ngoba sobabili manje usethelwa ingxoxo ebalulekile yabesifazane. Kodwa ezindleleni zokuvimbela ukukhulelwa okungafuneki, kungcono ubuyele kamuva, uma inyangazonke izoqala.
- Mxwayisa intombazane mayelana ne-premenstrual syndrome nokuthi leyo nyangazonke ingase ihambisane nezinye izinzwa ezibuhlungu. Le ngxenye kufanele ibe mfushane, asikho isidingo sokuzithemba ngokuqiniseka ukuthi wena "ufa ngezinsuku ezimbalwa zokuqala" (uma kunjalo). Ingane akumele isabe ukuya esikhathini.
- Yisho ukuthi nakuba "izinsuku ezibomvu zekhalenda" zenzeka ngenyanga, umjikelezo ovamile ungahle uqale ngokushesha.
Ngezinye izikhathi ukuphuka phakathi kokuqala kokuya esikhathini kungaba okubaluleke kakhulu, kuze kube izinyanga ezimbalwa. - Yiya emithethweni yokuhlanzeka. Chaza ukuthi kulezi zinsuku kubalulekile ukugeza ngokucophelela nokuguqula ama-gaskets ngendlela efike ngesikhathi. Ngendlela, ungakwazi ukuqinisekisa ngokushesha indodakazi yakho ukuthi ukukhangisa akuqambi amanga, futhi ingozi yokuthi i-gasket izoyiyeka ingaphansi.
- Qiniseka ukubuza ukuthi ngabe indodakazi yayingenayo imibuzo.
Njengoba unqume ukukhuluma nentombazane mayelana nenyanga yonke njengomuntu omdala, umuntu oqondayo, ubeka isitini esibalulekile ekusungulweni kobudlelwano bakho bokuthembela. Futhi ekupheleni kwenkathi yobusha, uzovuma, lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu.