Kusukela ngosuku lokuqala lokubonakala kwemvuthu, uqala ukuhlola izwe elizungezile futhi kancane kancane afunde amakhono ahlukahlukene kokubili ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo-kwengqondo. Abazali abaningi babonisa isithakazelo ezintweni zokuthuthukiswa kwengane, kanti abanye baze balondoloze idayari ekhethekile namarekhodi. Isenzo sokuqala esiqakathekile sokusebenza komzimba ukuvela kwenkimbinkimbi yezithombe kanye nekhono lokubamba ikhanda. Khona-ke kufika isikhathi lapho ingane iqala ukuvula khona. Isidingo sokubambisana kuvela emntwaneni ngenxa yomsebenzi owandile: akasengumntwana olele ngokungenakulinganiswa wayekwenyanga eyodwa, unesithakazelo ekuhloleni izwe elikuzungezile. Futhi ungakwenza lokhu kuphela ngokuhamba endaweni.
Amakhono emoto yilokho okuyinhloko yezinga lokuthuthukiswa kwengane engaphansi konyaka owodwa. Okokuqala uphethe ikhanda, khona-ke kufika isikhathi lapho umntwana eqala ukuphenduka, ehlezi phansi, emi, ehamba. Futhi lesi sifundo sokufunda esinzima sokufunda, senziwa ngonyaka wokuqala wokuthuthukiswa kwayo.
Ekuqaleni, ingane ibheka izinto ezizungezile, amathoyizi, bese iqala ukufinyelela kubo ngesandla, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi ayifinyeleli into oyifunayo. Kulokhu, umzuzwana ufika lapho ingane iphendukela eceleni ukuze ithole ithoyizi eliyithandayo. Uqala ukufunda ngesithakazelo izici ezikhethekile zokuthola umzimba wakhe emkhathini. Futhi uma engaqambi nje elele etafuleni, kodwa eqala ukukhombisa amakhono okuqala okuzimela, ukuqonda kwakhe kanye nendawo yokufunda izwe elizungezile liyanda.
Izingane ziphenduka nini? Ingabe udinga ukufundisa lo mntwana?
Akukho ukuvumelana mayelana nokuthi ingane iqala ukuguqula kanjani, ngoba ingane ngayinye iyodwa ekuthuthukiseni kwayo. Kukhona uhlaka oluthile lokuthuthukiswa kweminyaka, lapho ukukhishwa kubhekwa njengokungcono kakhulu. Lokhu kwenzeka ezinyangeni ezintathu kuya kweziyisithupha. Umntwana omncane uzoba lula futhi ngokushesha ukuqala ukuguqula ngaphezu kwengane enesisindo somzimba omkhulu. Kodwa-ke, ukukhishwa ezinyangeni ezimbili nezinyanga eziyisithupha kubhekwa njengendlela evamile yentuthuko.
Ngokuvamile kwenzeka ukuthi ingane iphendukele ngaphesheya komunye owodwa kunomunye. Kulesi simo, abazali kudingeka bathuthukise ukukhishwa kwengane kanye nenye indlela yokuthuthukiswa komzimba.
Uma ingane isuvele ineminyaka engu-6 ubudala, futhi ingeke iphenduke, ungaqala ukubhekana nayo, usebenzise amakhono okukhishwa.
Indlela yokufundisa ingane ukuba iqhubekele phambili?
Into yokuqala okufanele uyenze yizivivinyo ezikhethekile, ukuze ingane ifunde ukuvula. Umuntu omdala usebenza njengomqondisi wengane futhi angasiza ekuqaliseni ukukhishwa. Ukwenza lokhu, umama kufanele abeke ithoyizi kumntwana ohlangothini, ukuze lithele kuye. Ungamsiza ngesikhathi esifanayo, uqhube umlenze wakhe noma udonsa isibambo ngendlela efanele. Ngesikhathi segeyimu, udinga ukushintsha ngezikhathi zendawo ithoyizi kusuka ngakolunye uhlangothi, elinye lisuka kumntwana. Kubalulekile ukuthi ingane ngesikhathi esifanayo ithola imizwelo emihle, ezoqinisa ukuphumelela kwakhe ekuhlakanipheni amakhono emoto. Kubalulekile ukukhuthaza nokudumisa umntwana, ukuze azizwe ephumelele futhi azi ukuthi konke kusebenza kuye. Ukusekelwa okunjalo okuvela kumama kuyadingeka kakhulu.
Yini enye ongayenza ukuze ingane iphenduke? Ukuze ufundise ingane ikhono le-coup, ungenza lokhu okulandelayo:
- izivivinyo zekusasa ezikhethekile (ukuxuba-ukukhipha izingodo, ukuguquguquka-ukunwetshwa kwemilenze);
- Ukuncelisa umzimba (ukushaya, ukubopha izimbambo, imilenze, emuva kanye nesisu).
- Izinqubo zamanzi nazo zenza ukuqinisa imisipha yezandla nomgogodla wesibeletho.
Amaphuzu abalulekile
Ungayifundisi ingane ikamba uma ingenayo imizwa, ikhathele noma ilambile, njengoba lokhu kungamenza abe nemizwelo emibi.
Abazali kudingeka bahlale beqaphile futhi beqaphele ukuphepha kokuthola umntwana endaweni, okungenakulinganiswa nendawo ukuze kugweme ukuwa nokulimala.
Kumele kukhunjulwe ukuthi ingane yakho ikhula ngabanye. Futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uphenduka kangakanani, lokhu kuyisigaba sakhe sokuthuthukiswa, okumele adlule kuso. Futhi ungakhathazeki kakhulu uma umntwana enqaba ukuvula izinyanga ezingu-5-6. Kuzofika umzuzwana futhi uzokwesaba ukukhumbula isikhathi lapho ingane ingasebenzi khona futhi kulula ukugqoka noma ukumbeka embhedeni.