Bambalwa abantu abazi ukuthi ulwazi olulodwa kuphela oludluliselwa ngamazwi kuphela, kuyilapho ukuzithokozisa nokuzwakala kungadlulisela incazelo eningi. Izibalo ngokuphathelene nokuxhumana akubalulekile, kodwa kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi isenzo sesandla sidlala indima ebalulekile ekukhulumisaneni phakathi kwabantu. Futhi, ngenxa yalokho, udinga ukuqonda ukuthi ungalawula kanjani ukuthinta kwakho ukukuqonda kahle.
Kunombono wokuthi ukugcizelela phakathi kwengxoxo, ikakhulukazi imizuzwana eyishumi yokuqala, unikeza ithuba lokuhlola ngokugcwele i-interlocutor. Futhi ukuzithokozisa ngokungazelelwe akuhambisani namagama omuntu, intuition yakho isheshayo inika, futhi ukugcizelela kwengxoxo kungathinta lokho, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umuntu uyoba mnandi kuwe.
Ngenxa yokugcizelela kwethu sikhuluma ngokubala, ngokomzwelo futhi siqonde ngisho nabantu bezinye izizwe, engazi ulimi. Ukuguqulwa kwengxoxo engxoxweni yebhizinisi, futhi, idlala indima ebalulekile, ngoba ngezinye izikhathi kuxhomeke ekukhulumisaneni okuhle kwabalingani bebhizinisi kanye nesiphetho esiyimpumelelo sesenzo.
Ukuguqulwa ngezandla uma ukhuluma emazweni ahlukene akusho ukuthi kunesinye incazelo. Isibonelo, indandatho eyenziwe ngesithupha kanye nomunwe wesikhombisi waseMelika isho imvume noma kuvunyelwe "ok", kuyilapho amaFulentshi asho zero, kanti amaJapane anemali. EFrance nasemazweni akhuluma isiRussia, umunwe wenkomba ohlangene ethempelini ubonisa ubuwula, kanti eHolland, ngokuphambene nalokho, kusho ukutholakala kobuhlakani. Futhi isenzo somuntu wonke sokuthandayo, qaphela, amaGreki azobona njengesenzo esihlambalazayo!
Kubalulekile ukukhumbula umzuzu owodwa lapho umuntu esesimweni esingokomzwelo ngokweqile, kunzima kakhulu ukuba anikeze imizwelo ngaphandle kwazo zonke izinhlobo zokuthinta-iziphazamiso, futhi le gesticulation esebenzayo ingasho okuningi mayelana nencazelo yomuntu ongaphansi komuntu ongenakuqonda.
Sekuyisikhathi eside, izazi ze-psychology sezifundela i-gesticulation yabantu, ngoba indlela yokubamba ingabonisa abantu, kepha ukuze bafunde "ukufunda" abanye, kunezincwadi eziningi neminye imithombo yazo zonke izinhlobo.
Imithetho yolimi lwezandla
Abaningi banesithakazelo ngomqondo wokubusa kwe-gesticulation, kodwa kubalulekile ukuthola ukuthi zikhona yini. Eqinisweni, kunezinto ezilandelayo:
- Ngaphansi kwezimo, futhi ngaphansi kwezimo azihambisani.
- Lawula izandla zakho nezinyawo zakho.
- Nalapha, qaphela izandla. Qeqesha ukugcina izandla zakho zihlala njalo endaweni eyodwa futhi zilethe ngokuzenzakalelayo.
- Gwema izinto ezimbi.
- Bheka amehlo e-interlocutor. Ukuxhumana nomuntu uyakwazi ukukhipha yonke ingxoxo yengxoxo.
- Ukubamba ngesandla ngokulinganayo. Akufanele kube buthakathaka noma kanzima, kodwa kunamandla futhi kufinyeleleke.
Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, khumbula ukuthi ukuphathwa kahle kwegesticulation kuzokusiza ukuba wenze umbono omuhle kwabanye futhi ufeze imigomo yakho.
Ungakhohlwa ukuthi iziphakamiso ezikhethiwe kahle zokukhulumisana okungenamazwi ziyakwazi ezingeni elingenakuqaphela ukuthi uzibeke wena.