Njengoba wazi, kuphela 20% kolwazi esiluthola ngamazwi (ngamazwi), asele 80% - kusukela emithonjeni engekho emlomo, ebangeni ekuxoxweni, ekuziphatheni kanye nakwezingubo nokuhlobisa. Konke lokhu okungenhla kusinika isithombe esithembekile seqiniso. Okusho ukuthi, siyaqonda ukuthi uma umuntu esibonisa uthando, kodwa ngezandla zakhe zawela, empeleni - uyahamba nathi futhi athi: "Angikhululekile, hhayi ukukhululeka." Yazi, ukubonakala komzimba nokuzibonakalisa kusinikeza izibonakaliso ezingeni elingenakuqonda, liyiqiniso kakhulu kunamazwi ahloswe ngobuchopho-ngamagama, ahleliwe.
I-Psychology - kusho ukuthini ukuthinta izinto?
"Ngacabanga ngakho"
Ukucacisa lesi senzo kulula. Umuntu onokucabanga kwakhe, ngokuvamile engekho empilweni yangempela. Ngakho-ke, angabamba isandla sakhe eduze kwethempeli lakhe, uthinte ikhanda lakhe, ahlaze ikhanda lakhe, encike esandleni sakhe. Ngalesi sikhathi, usebenza ikhanda lakhe, futhi uzama ukukunikeza isibonakaliso ngakho.
"Nginentshisekelo"
Umuntu onentshisekelo kuyo uzama ukwenza okuncane ngangokunokwenzeka ngenkathi ingxoxo. Isibonelo, njengesifundo esithakazelisayo, lapho izingane ezifundisa abanomdla zilalele ezithameli. I-interlocutor yakho ithambekele kuwe, uzama ukungaphuthelwa ngisho neyodwa yamazwi akho, ayikuphazamisi futhi ilalela ngokucophelela, ukuxhumana kwamehlo kuhlale kukhona. Umlaleli akalandeli ubuso bakhe, ngakho amehlo akhe noma umlomo wakhe ungavulwa.
"Ngiyakuhlonipha"
I-Psychology yezenzo zamadoda. Umuntu ohloniphayo, uyakunikisa ngesandla ngokuqinile, uma kungenzeka, isikhathi eside, ngesandla sakho siqondile futhi sinwetshiwe. Ngakho-ke ukudala kuwe izimo ezikhululekile kakhulu zokusebenzisana naye. Indoda inikeza owesifazane isandla uma eshiya izithuthi zomphakathi. Lesi senzo sihamba ngokwawo hhayi kuphela umlingiswa ohlelekile, lapho umuntu ebuka wena futhi ezama ukumbamba ipeni lakho.
"Ngiyinto engathandana naye ekuthembekeni"
I-Psychology yesenzo nesimo somuntu sesibonakaliso sibonisa ukuthi isibonakaliso sokuqala sobudlelwane obuseduze, obuthembayo buyingcosana, ebaluleke kakhulu phakathi kwakho nomxhumanisi wakho. Ngokusekelwe ebangeni, ungahlulela ukuthi uthembela kangakanani, futhi ikuvumela ukuba uhambe esikhaleni sakho siqu bese ufaka indawo yenduduzo . Kulezi zimfanelo zilokhu zikhathazeka: hhayi izingalo eziwela noma isandla nemilenze noma izimpande; Izindwangu ezivulekile ziqondiswa esibhakabhakeni; ukuvuleka komuntu, ukwethembeka, ukumomotheka, ukuhleka okukhulu nokungahambisani; isibindi sokukuthinta emhlanganweni wokuqala, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu - umuntu omzwelana naye, ukukopisha ngokuzibandakanya wena, ukuziphatha kwakho nemikhuba.
"Ngizivikela"
Kunezinhlobo eziningi zokuthinta nokuhamba kwesikhathi, i-psychology ehloselwe ukuvikelwa, emadodeni, ekugubungeni indawo engakapheli isikhathi ngesikhathi sokuma, ukuwela izikhali nokwakha udonga phakathi kwakho (ngokusungulwa ngamabomu komuntu wesithathu). Izindlela zingaba zonke izinhlobo zokusebenzisa: usebenzisa ishidi, ukwenza ukuxhaphazwa ngekhala nezindlebe, ukufihla izindlebe ngaphansi kwesigqoko noma izinwele, izandla ezikhungweni, uqaphele ukuthi ungathinti i-interlocutor, ukuvala amehlo ngesandla sakho, njalo ugqoke
I-psychology yezenzo zabesifazane kuyinto emangalisayo! Njengoba uyenze kahle, le ntombazane izoba lula kakhulu ukuvumela lo muntu ukuthi ayenze ukuxhumana okuseduze.
Ukuthinta abesifazane kanye nokubaluleka kwabo kwengqondo
- ukudlala izinzwane ezingasetshenziswanga, le ndoda iyoqonda ukuthi ufuna ukuyifinyelela;
- shaking izinwele - udinga ukunakekelwa;
- ukudubula ngamehlo akho - ukusikisela ekujwayeleni;
- uphonsa amehlo avela ngaphansi kwehlombe eliphakanyisiwe - ufuna ukusondelana nokuzwelana;
- umlenze owodwa uphonswa phezu kwesinye noma ushintsho oluthile - owesifazane ufisa ukuxhumana kocansi nokucasula kumuntu;
- isenzo esinobudlova kakhulu futhi esilakisayo - umlomo ovuliwe kancane, odwetshwe isiponji ngomcibisholo omuhle noma lipstick enomsoco (mhlawumbe isithelo iphunga elimnandi).