Uma ucabanga ukuthi ungashintsha kanjani impilo yakho ibe ngcono, kodwa ungazi ukuthi ungayifinyelela kanjani nokuthi uzoqala kuphi, amathiphu angezansi azokusiza.
Ungashintsha kanjani kangcono?
Akumangazi bathi, uma ufuna ukushintsha umhlaba - qala ngokwakho. Siphakamisa ukuqhubeka ngendlela elandelayo: bhala ephepheni izimpawu zakho: kukholomu yokuqala - izimfanelo zakho ezinhle, futhi okwesibili - lezo zici zobuntu ongazithandi futhi ongathanda ukuzishintsha. Manje faka "ikholomu enhle" endaweni evelele futhi ufunde njalo ngezikhathi ezithile. Shiya ikholomu yesibili ukuze "wazi isitha somuntu siqu."
Ukuze uthuthukise kangcono, udinga isifiso somuntu sokushintsha uhlamvu lwakhe. Ngeshwa, ayikho imithetho eqondile neyaguquguqukayo yokuthi ungashintsha kanjani amaphutha akho abe yizintandokazi, ngoba bonke abantu bodwa. Kodwa sithathe amanye amathiphu angakusiza.
- Uma ubhala phansi uhlu lwakho lweziphambeko, buyekeze. Ukhohliwe noma yiziphi ezinye izikhathi? Yazi izinhlangothi zakho ezingalungile futhi uzihlanganise ukuze uziqede. Ngokungalungi kulula ukulwa uma ulungele ukuguqula ngokwakho.
- Manje, ngokuphambene nenye yalezi ziphutha, bhala ukuthi kungani liphazamisa, kungani ufuna ukuyilahla. Umthetho obaluleke kakhulu - uzicabange, ungazethembi amagama abanye. Kumele uqaphele ukuthi unqume ukushintsha, ngoba ufuna lokhu, hhayi ngoba, isibonelo, isisindo esiningi singaphazamisa othandekayo wakho. Khumbula njalo ukuthi akufanele uxhomeke kwimibono yabanye abantu abazama ukuyala amagama abo kuwe. Udala ikusasa lakho siqu,
ngakho akekho omunye owazi ukuthi ungakuguqula kanjani. - Manje ubhekene nomsebenzi wokuthola izixazululo nezindlela zokulungisa ukungabi nalutho. Qinisekisa ukubhala phansi.
- Uma ucabanga ngemibono emisha, zama ukurekhoda ukuqaliswa kwazo ohlwini lwakho lokukwenza. Ngokuqinisekile, akukho msebenzi owodwa oyoyodingeka ukuze ulungise ukushiyeka kwawo. Qinisekisa ukuthi ulandela uhlelo losuku. Zama ukurekhoda amaphutha akho nezindawo eziyinkinga, futhi, okubaluleke kakhulu, impumelelo. Zama ukuhlala uhle ngisho nalapho kwenzeka ezinye izithiyo - isimo sengqondo esihle yingxenye yempumelelo. Ukugcina iseluleko sethu kuzosiza ukushintsha kube ngcono, kokubili wena nabanye.