Cabanga ngegama elithi "ukuzethemba okukhuthazayo". Ngokuvamile, asiyisebenzisi kulabo abasiqinisekisa ukuthi singabathemba. Ngokungafani nezinkolelo ezidinga ulwazi oluthe xaxa kanye nezimpikiswano ezinengqondo, isiphakamiso asikwenzeki kumqondo womuntu, kodwa imizwa yakhe, futhi ngezinga elithile, intuition. Akudingeki ukuthi, abesifazane basondelene kakhulu nokusikisela kunamadoda.
Amandla okusikisela asenza sikholelwe ngokuzenzakalelayo umuntu owake wafaka ithemba kithi. Khumbula: labo othisha abasebenzisa igunya, bahambisa kalula imibono yabo kuwe. Abantu abawazi ubuciko bokusikisela nokusikisela kwengqondo, njengomthetho, bangela ukulingisa okungazibandakanyi kithi. Ukusikisela kungashintsha isitimela somcabango noma kuholela ekuziphatheni okuthile.
Izinhlobo zokusikisela
Ukusikisela kungaba:
- ngenhloso nangenhloso. Esimweni sokuqala, umuntu ofuna ukukugqugquzela ngombono othile, uyaziqhenya ngokuya kwenye yezindlela zokusikisela (kufaka phakathi ukukholelwa). Ukusikisela okungahlosile kuyinto esiyithola njalo. Sinikwa injabulo yabanye abantu, futhi inkulumo yomuntu "akukho lutho oluzovela kuyo" likwazi ukufika endleleni. Isibonelo esivamile: isiprofetho "sigula", etshelwe unina kumntwana otholile izinyawo ezimanzi. Ngokuvamile lesi sifo siwumphumela wesiphakamiso;
- ngokuqondile nangokungaqondile. Ukusikisela okuqondile, njengomthetho, kusekelwe emiyalweni noma emiyalweni. Ukungaqondile kungathonya izisusa zokuziphatha;
- okulungile nokubi. Ukusikisela kwengqondo kungaqondiswa kokubili ekuthuthukiseni okuhle (isibindi, ukukhuthaza, ukuzithemba) nokubi (ukuhaha, ukwesaba, ukungaqiniseki) izimfanelo nezenzo.
Njengoba sazi ukuthi, ngandlela-thile, sibhekene neziphakamiso nsuku zonke, kuyasiza ngezikhathi ezithile ukusula imicabango yethu futhi ulalele imizwa yethu ukuze senze isimo sengqondo esifanele.