Wonke umuntu kufanele azi ukuthi angabeka kanjani umuntu onesizotha sokuzihlonipha. Phela, akubona bonke abantu abanobungane, futhi phakathi kwabo kukhona abantu abavame ukungathandeki. Futhi akukho ukuziqhenya okungazikhombisi kahle, okuhambisana nesimo sengqondo esichazayo kwabanye, kuyisici esasakazeke kabanzi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngokuvamile abantu abanjalo abaqondi ngisho nokuthi ukuziphatha kwabo akuvamile, noma, ngokuphambene nalokho, bayaziqhenya kakhulu ngokuthi bangazibeka ngaphezu kwamanye. Ngakho-ke kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ukwazi ukubeka umuntu ozikhukhumezayo ukuze kungaholeli ekuhlakalweni futhi akulimazi idumela lakho.
Indlela yokubeka umuntu ohloniphekile?
Kunezindlela eziningana ukuthi ungabeka kanjani umuntu ohlakaniphile futhi uzibheka kangcono kunabo bonke abanye. Futhi okokuqala, lapha akufanelekile ukudla okumnandi. Izindleko zokukhuliswa kahle okungavumeli abantu ukuba bahlaziswe yiyona into engathandeki lapha. Ngokuhlaselwa "kwesifo sezinkanyezi" kumphikisi kufanele silwe ngokushesha, ngokushesha nje lapho kwenzeka. Ukubeka umuntu onesizotha sokuzihlonipha ngokusemthethweni kunokwenzeka ngokubamba iqhaza elilodwa noma ukuphawula okuhlakaniphile. Ukuhleka, ukuhleka usulu kwabanye - yisikhali esihle kunazo zonke, okukwazi ukubeka indlela ephumelelayo kunoma yimuphi umuntu ohlakaniphile. Uma ithoni edlalayo ingasebenzi, ungaya "ezinkundleni ezinamandla" - ukuthukuthela okukhululekile nokwehluleka. Kodwa kungenjalo kufanele uveze imizwelo emibi, njengentukuthelo noma intukuthelo. Kungcono ukwengeza izwi ngokudelela okukhulu ngangokunokwenzeka. Noma, ngokuphambene nalokho, uzwela, ngoba ukuzwela ngezinye izikhathi kuhoxisa izinyoka ezizikhukhumeza ngaphezu kokuhleka. Futhi kunoma yikuphi okusemandleni awukwazi ukusebenzisa umlingani noma amanye amagama angenangqondo. Yehla ezingeni lebhola elizidlayo - bese uhhafu ulahlekelwe kuye.