Isihloko sokukhula komuntu siqu namuhla sisezindebe zomuntu wonke. Wanikeza izincwadi eziningi, zonke izinhlobo zokuqeqesha, njll. Kukhona abantu abaqonda leli gama njengokufunda kusuka ekuhlangenwe nakho nolwazi, ukukhulisa izinga lobuhlakani, kodwa abantu abanjalo bangase babe nezinkinga zokuxhumana nokuzihlonipha. Ngakho-ke, ukukhula komuntu siqu nokuzithuthukisa kuyimicabango ejulile ehlanganisa zonke izici zokuphila komuntu.
Ungaqala kanjani ukuzithuthukisa?
Kumele kuthiwa le nqubo iqhubeka futhi ingabandakanyeka komuntu, ngoba ekhula, "ama-stuffs cones," idonsela iziphetho futhi kanjalo iguqule izimfanelo zayo zangaphakathi. Kodwa ukukhula komuntu siqu okusebenzayo kumsebenzi ohlukile, okuphakamisa ukuthi umuntu ngokuzimela uzibeka umgomo empilweni futhi uya kuye, wenza umzamo wokuwufeza futhi ashintshe izinkolelo zakhe. Le ndlela ayinakwenzeka ngaphandle kokuzikhandla, ukunqoba nsuku zonke ngokwakho nokwesaba kwakho. Esikhathini se-psychology sokuzithuthukisa, ukukhula komuntu siqu kubizwa ngokuthi indlela eya enjabulweni nasempumelelo .
Yini okudingayo ukuze uwafinyelele? Nazi ezinye zezinyathelo:
- Ukuzithanda ngothando olungenasisekelo. Ungamangaleli amaphutha, ungadeleli. Esikhundleni salokho, zinike ithuba lokuthi esikhathini esizayo uzama ukwenza kangcono, shintsha into, ezokusiza ukuba ubukeke ngokwakho ngamehlo ahlukene.
- Thatha umthwalo wempilo yakho kuwe. Abaningi basola ukuhluleka kwabo kunoma ubani, ngaphandle kokuqaphela ukuthi lesi yisimo somntwana, hhayi somuntu omdala. Kubalulekile ukuqala ukwenza okuthile ngaphandle kokufaka abantu abaseduze. Isibonelo, ukuthola omunye umsebenzi ngokuzimela, ufunde noma yiziphi izifundo zokuqeqesha noma ukhuphukela phezulu kwe-Everest. Yebo, kuzosabeka, kodwa kungemva kwalokhu okusha futhi kungafundiwe ukuthi kukhona okuzovuleka okuzokhuthaza ukukhula komuntu siqu.
- Ukuzikhukhumeza komuntu kunikezela ukulahlwa konke okungalungile, okuvimbela ukwenza impilo ibe ngcono. Kumuntu kungumkhuba omubi, kodwa kumuntu umbuthano wokuxhumana. Kudingekile ukukholelwa kuwe nokuthi impilo ingaba mnandi, udinga nje ukwenza isinyathelo sokuqala kuso.
- Ukuzikhukhumeza kwabesifazane ukuyeka noma yikuphi ukugxekwa komuntu, kuhlanganise nami. Ayikho abantu abaphelele, futhi uma isifiso sokulungisa umuntu evuka, udinga ukubuza, futhi lokhu kuzokwenza kanjani ukuphila kwakho kujabulise futhi kujabulise?
Kunezici eziningi ezinjalo, kodwa into esemqoka akusiyo ukuhlehlisa impilo yakho ngomuso. Kuyifushane kakhulu futhi kubalulekile ukuyihlala lapha futhi manje, ngakho-ke kwakungeyona into ebuhlungu kakhulu ngenxa yokuphela kweminyaka engapheli.