Namuhla ungabona ukuqeqeshwa okuningi kokukhangisa okuzinikele ekuziphatheni komuntu siqu. Futhi, kufanele kuqashelwe, lezi zenzakalo zithandwa. Omunye angasho ukuthi abantu bavele nje ngokuhamba kwesikhathi esingenasikhathi sokuqeqeshwa, kodwa akunjalo neze. Ezimweni eziningi, abantu bazama nje ukwanelisa isidingo sabo sokuzithuthukisa, okuyizinga elihlukile kulowo nalowo kithi. Ngendlela, ukuzwa isifiso sokwenza okusha, akudingekile ukuya kwenye inkulumo, kungenzeka ukuthi uzenzele ekhaya.
Psychology of self-ukuthuthukiswa ubuntu
Kungani kufanele uthuthuke njalo, ikakhulukazi uma kulesi sigaba sokuphila konke kuhambisana? Impendulo ilula - akukho lutho oluqinile, uma ukuthuthuka kungenzeki, inqubo eguqukayo iqala, okungukuthi, ukulimala. I-Psychology iyanciphisa kancane, ithi ukuzithuthuka kuyisidingo esingokwemvelo salowo muntu, okudinga ukwaneliseka kwalo. Okunye okuwukuthi akuwona wonke umuntu othola indlela yokuqaphela izifiso zabo. Abantu abaningi, bekhumbula ukuthi ukuzithuthukisa nokuziqhenya kungabonakali kahle, sebenzisa isikhathi ekufuneni izixazululo ezinhle zebhizinisi nezindlela zokuphumelela emkhakheni wezobuchwepheshe. Indlela enjalo iholela empumelelweni, umsebenzi udala umona phakathi kwabalingani bakho, kodwa kancane kancane umuzwa wokungazi lutho kwazo zonke izenzo zabo uqala ukuza, njengoba ukunqoba akuletha injabulo eyengeziwe, kanti abanye abantu abazi ukuthi bangazijabulisa kanjani.
Kunenye indlela - ukuzinikezela ekuthuthukiseni ngokomoya. Ekuboneni kokuqala, akukho lutho olungalungile ngalokhu, kodwa umhlaba wezinto ezibonakalayo ungashiywa ngokuphelele ngaphandle kwezindela. Futhi ekuphileni okuvamile, intshiseko enjalo ngokweqile ayikwazi ukuholela kunoma yini enhle, njengoba umuntu elahlekelwa ikhono lokuzivumelanisa kuleli zwe futhi ngokuvamile kufanele aphile ngobumpofu, okukwazi ukubhubhisa imicabango ekhanyayo.
Ngakho-ke, indlela enhle kakhulu yindlela yokuzithuthukisa komuntu ngamunye, okufaka kokubili ukukhula ngokomoya nangomsebenzi. Ukwenza lokhu akulula kakhulu, ngoba omunye wamaqembu uzozama njalo "ukudonsa ingubo" ngokwabo. Kodwa ikhono lokungadluli futhi liyisinyathelo sokuqala endleleni eyinkimbinkimbi yokwenza ngcono.
Ukuzihlakulela kokudala
Ukuxhumana nomuntu odala, ungabona ukubuka okukhethekile, okungajwayelekile. Ukuthola ikhono lokubuka umhlaba ngaphansi kwekona elifanayo akulona nzima, kodwa kungani kuphazamiseka? Ukuze ukwazi ukubona okuthile okusha ezintweni ezivamile, umuntu kumele ashintshe ukubukwa komhlaba, futhi lokhu akunakwenzeka ngaphandle kokuzithuthukisa, okuyinto, njengoba sesibonile, kumele ibe yinkimbinkimbi. Futhi ukuze inqubo iphumelele, landela lemithetho elandelayo.
- Okokuqala, thola ubuningi bemisebenzi yakho kanye nobubanzi bezintshisekelo ezingeke zihlobene nemithwalo yemfanelo yakho ngqo. Kuyadingeka ukuthi umsebenzi ohlelekile ngendlela efanele, akunakwenzeka ukuba nawo wonke ulwazi lwezwe, ngakho-ke kufanelekile ukugxila kulokho okudingayo ngempela.
- Ungagxila kuphela ezithakazelweni zobuchwepheshe, shiya indawo yokuzilibazisa, kuzosiza ukugwema isimiso nokudlula.
- Ungazicingo ngokuphelele ulwazi olungasidingi emsebenzini wakho futhi akuyona into yakho yokuzilibazisa , funda ukuthi ungayenza kanjani.
- Zindla. Ungafunda amakhulu ezincwadi ezinhle,
kodwa ungenzi isinyathelo esisodwa phambili. Funda ukucubungula noma yiluphi ulwazi olungenayo bese udweba iziphetho zakho. - Ngisho noma ungumsekeli oqinile wemfundiso yokuziphendukela kwemvelo, thatha isikhathi sokuba wazi kangcono izimfundiso zenkolo. Ungacabangi ukuthi usuvele uziqaphela - ukubonakaliswa kwangaphandle akuhambisani ngaso sonke isikhathi nesisekelo.
Qala ukusebenza ngokwakho akukaze kube sekwephuzile, nje ulungele ukusebenza kanzima, kanye nemikhuba yokujwayela kunzima ukushintsha.