Ngokuvamile izinkinga zentuthuko yobudala zenzeka ekuhlanganiseni kwezigaba ezithile zokukhula komuntu futhi zihlobene kokubili nezinguquko eziphilayo zendalo, ikakhulukazi ekuhlelweni kabusha kwe-hormonal system, nasezimpikweni ezingokwengqondo ezenzelwe imvelo kanye nokuma komuntu emphakathini. Futhi akunandaba ukuthi kungumbuzo wengane yengane yengane yomuntu, noma mayelana neminyaka ekhulile kakhulu.
Izici eziyinhloko zenkinga yokuthuthukiswa kweminyaka ziyizindinganiso ezibucayi kanye nokuhlolwa kabusha kwemikhombandlela yokuphila, okungahle kuhileleke ukwehla kokusebenza kahle, ukuwohloka ekusebenzeni kwezemfundo nokuphulwa kwesiyalo (uma kungumntwana oneminyaka esikoleni), futhi, uma kwenzeka izinto ezingezansi ezingekho emphakathini, okuyinto ekuqaleni izohlanganiswa nesifiso sokubuyisela izwe elizungezile, futhi ngemva kokuqaphela ukuthi akunakwenzeka ukwenza lokhu, kuvame ukuguqulwa kwamazwe ase-affective ekucindezelekeni, okungenzeka kube namazinga ahlukene obude.
Nginguye inkosi noma akekho inkosi?
Cishe ngaso sonke isikhathi izinkinga zeminyaka yokuthuthukiswa kwengqondo zenzeka kulezo zikhathi zokuphila lapho sizama ukuthola indawo yethu ngaphansi kwelanga, ukuhlola izinga lethu lokuba omunye noma "omunye umuntu" wezenhlalakahle, ofisa ukufakazela kubo bonke abantu ukuthi singakwazi ukubiza "isihlalo sobukhosi" , kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yini, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi iyisihloko sobuhle bokuqala besikole noma isihloko sokuhlonipha isisebenzi esihle kakhulu senyanga. Into yukuthi phakathi nesikhathi sonke sokubunjwa kobuntu, kunezinkathi ezithile zesikhathi, lapho, ngenye indlela noma enye, kufanele sibhekane nenselele thina kanye nezwe elisizungezile. Lokhu kuhlobene ngqo nokuziphendukela kwabantu. Emvelweni, onamandla kunabo bonke futhi wonke amabhonasi anikezwe impilo aqoqwe naye.
Esikhathini sethu sengqondo, kukhona "isihlangu" esithile sokucindezeleka, kodwa uma izikhali ziphukile, inkinga ehlobene nobudala iqala ubuntu noma, uma uthanda, umzuzwana wokuqala. Kungashiwo ukuthi phakathi nalesi sikhathi, imvelo ibonisa ukuthi kufanelekile ukugqugquzela i-gene pool yangomuntu othile esikhaleni sokuziphendukela kwemvelo, futhi uma kunjalo, ungamsiza kanjani aqonde amandla akhe nobubuthakathaka ukuze athole indlela yakhe yokuthuthukiswa.
Zikhona izinzuzo?
Ngokudabukisayo, izinkinga ezihlobene nobudala ekuthuthukisweni komuntu nazo zinezici zazo ezinhle. Basifundisa umgomo wokuzibonela, okusivumela ukuba sigweme ubugovu ngokweqile kanye ne-megalomania esikhathini esizayo, ngaleyo ndlela esenza sikwazi ukuhlalisana kahle emphakathini, ukuhlonipha nokubeka
Futhi ngale ndlela, ngokusho kwezibalo, yibo abakwazi ukunikeza ukuhlolwa okulungile kwento yonke eyenzeka phakathi nenkathi yenkinga yobudala, okwenza ngesikhathi esifanayo iziphetho eziwusizo bese beba ngamalungu omphakathi aphumelele kunabo bonke, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yiyiphi insizakalo ebambe iqhaza lapho bahileleke khona noma ukuthi yiyiphi inqubo yomphakathi kukhona. Bayohlale bekhanda phezulu phakathi kokulingana ngokwezimo.