Ubuhlobo obufudumele nokubandakanyeka, ubungane nothando yizo zonke izingxenye zento enjalo njengokubambisana. Umuntu uza kuleli zwe ngemisebenzi yakhe, futhi ngenxa yokuthi izihlobo zakhe zizokwamukelwa ngokugcwele, ukuthi uzokwazi kanjani ukuthuthukisa ubuhlobo nabangani nabanye kuxhomeke enhlalakahleni yakhe kanye nempilo yakhe.
Kuyini ukuhlanganyela?
Emithonjeni yasendulo (ngesiLatini - isikhangiso ne- fillis ), ukubambisana kuyamukelwa , kuyi-European version, leli gama lisho ukujoyina. Abantu ngokwezifiso zabo zintando yabantu, futhi ngaphandle kokusekelwa abanye abajabuli kakhulu, kunzima ukuvula lowo muntu futhi aqaphele amandla akhe kuphela. Umqondo wokubambisana uhlanganisa nezidingo ezifana nalezi:
- ukuxhumana;
- ukubandakanyeka;
- oxhumana nabo ngokomzwelo;
- ubungane;
- ithemba;
- ukwamukela;
- uthando;
- ukuhlanganisa;
- ukuphepha;
- qaphela.
Ukuhlanganyela ku-Psychology
Ukubambisana nokunamathiselwe kunemibono efanayo ebonisa uxhumano olunamandla ngokomzwelo ingane enakho emndenini, okuwumthombo wobudlelwane bokuqala obunenjongo ngaye. Isitayela semfundo sibeka isisekelo sokubheka abanye. Umbhali oqinile - kusho ukujeziswa, futhi ingane ekhuliswa emndenini onjalo iyogwema ubungane obuseduze. Ukwamukela ingane, ukukhuthaza kuye isithunzi , nokuthuthukiswa kwezimfanelo ezifana nesifiso sokuba nesihawu nokuzwela, kudala isidingo esikhulu sokwakha ubudlelwane obuvumelana nabantu.
Ukusebenzisana kwengqondo kwengqondo kuyisisusa sokuthi amazwi esazi sokusebenza kwengqondo waseMelika uHenry Murray asho:
- Jabulani nabanye;
- ukuzwa uthando;
- yenza ubungane;
- sebenzisana nabantu;
- ujoyine amaqembu ahlukene.
Ukuxhumana komphakathi
Ukubambisana njengesidingo sokuxhumana nomphakathi kunemvelaphi, lapho abantu behlangene nezimo ezinzima zokuphila, kungaba yimpi, indlala noma ukufa. Injabulo nempumelelo yomphakathi: ukuhamba komuntu emkhathini, ekupheleni kwempi - kwakuyisikhathi sokubumbana. Kungani umuntu edinga ukubandakanyeka komphakathi noma ukuhlanganyela? Kunezizathu eziningana zalokhu:
- Ukuhlola - ukufaneleka noma ukungalungi kwemisebenzi eyenziwa emphakathini. Umuntu udinga uthisha unesithakazelo kuye ukuze asize ukuthuthukisa impumelelo kuloluhlobo olukhethiwe lomsebenzi.
- Ukusekelwa kwe-Instrumental - ukuthola usizo oluhlukahlukene, ukusekelwa emphakathini.
- Ukwesekwa kolwazi - ulwazi lomphakathi, oluthathwa yizizukulwane, luphethwe ngolwazi ukuthi luhambisana kanjani nesinye isimo.
Ukubambisana - Izizathu
Esikhathini se-movie ethi "Masidlale!" U-Heroine Susan Sarandon ukhuluma ngokuthi kungani abantu bevame ukuba ndawonye. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi wonke umuntu udinga ubufakazi bokuphila kwakhe obona konke okwenzekayo futhi unikeza incazelo ekukhona, ufakazi othi: "Ngiyakubona!" Isifiso sokubambisana sibangelwa izizathu:
- isidingo semizwa emihle ngokusebenzisa ukuxhumana okufudumele kokuphila;
- ukuthola ukunakwa nokuhlola imiphumela yabo;
- ukuqeda ukungabaza uma uziqhathanisa nabanye;
- isimo sokukhathazeka ngokomzwelo - umuntu uzama ukuba nalabo abangathokozi kakhulu futhi anganikeza usizo;
- Isizungu njengesihlukaniso somphakathi kunzima ukubona, singabangela izifo ezimbi kuze kube sekufeni kwengqondo nangaphambi kwesikhathi.
Isizathu sokufeza nokuhlanganiswa
Isifiso sokuphumelela emphakathini siyadingeka ukuba abantu bazibonele. Ukugqugquzela ukusebenzisana nempumelelo kufanelana futhi kuxhomeke ekudingeni komuntu ngamunye ukuba uphumelele ngokusungula oxhumana nabo nezibopho. Izazi zengqondo zanikeze ama-degree amathathu noma isisusa sokubambisana:
- Ukubambisana okuphakeme kuyisisusa sokwamukelwa okuphezulu, futhi ukwesaba ukukhishwa kuncane. Iphumelela kubantu abanomqondo okhishiwe, abanomlingiswa wokubonisa noma we-hysterical, ubumnene babantu abadla igazi. Abantu abanjalo badinga ukunakekelwa okuningi kwabanye, isizungu kubo asamukeleki, zonke izimpumelelo zenzeka ngokubambisana nabantu kuphela.
- Ukubambisana okuphakathi (okuphakathi) kubonakala ngamazinga aphansi okufisa ukwamukelwa nokwesaba ukulahlwa. Laba bantu bazizwa bekhululekile enkampanini enkulu futhi yedwa.
- Ukubambisana okuphansi kuyesaba okukhulu ukwenqatshwa. Isizathu sokubambisana sincane. Lapho eseyingane, lo muntu wabhekana nakho okubuhlungu bokulahlwa abazali noma izihlobo, ukuhlukunyezwa. Ukuhlangana okuphansi ngaso sonke isikhathi kuyisibonakaliso esesabekayo, kukhona abantu abangenwe yilanga abanelungelo lokuzizwa benesizungu - banele futhi bakhiqize ubuciko: abalobi, ososayensi, abaculi.
Ukubambisana nokuzidela
Isidingo sokubambisana singazibonakalisa enkonzweni engathandekayo nokukhathalela abanye. Ukuphazamiseka - ukusiza ukuziphatha, kuyisisusa esingenasici somuntu futhi singalandelwa kakade enganeni eneminyaka engu-3 ubudala, kodwa uthando oluqinile kubantu luyasiza ekuthuthukiseni njengemfanelo yobuntu obuqinile. Ukuziqhenya kuyisici somuntu onomqondo ophakeme wokuzwelana nokuzibandakanya.