Ukuhlukanisa empilweni yakhe, mhlawumbe, owaziwa yilowo nalowo wesifazane futhi ngezinye izikhathi ubuhlobo obudlule abukhohliwe isikhathi eside, ukushayela ukucindezeleka. Ukuzisiza ngokulahlekelwa okuncane ukushiya okuhle, udinga ukuthatha iseluleko ukuthi ungakhohlwa kanjani uthando . Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuqaphela okwenzekile nokuqonda ukuthi kusengaphambili nekusasa elihle elizayo. Kubalulekile ukuhlaziya isimo, ukuphetha iziphetho nokuqhubeka phambili.
Ungakhohlwa kanjani uthando oludlule?
Isitha esiyinhloko sabesifazane ezimweni ezinjalo yimicabango engavumeli umlingani wangaphambili akhohlwe. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, kufanele kushiwo ukuthi iningi lezinkumbulo ezinhle kuphela ezivela ekhanda lami futhi, ngokombono wezengqondo, lokhu kuyiphutha. Kunconywa, ngokuphambene nalokho, ukubheka ubudlelwano obuvela ohlangothini olubi, oluzokwenza kucace ukuthi igebe lalizuzisa kuphela. Zibophezele ngokufuna ukushaya ucingo noma ukubhala owawungumthandi.
Ukuthola ukuthi ungakhohlwa kanjani uthando olungathandwayo, kufanelekile ukunikeza izeluleko ezithandwa kakhulu zengqondo - uzitholele umsebenzi ozojabulisa futhi uthathe yonke imicabango. Lokhu kungaba umsebenzi ozithandayo, ukuzilibazisa, izincwadi zokufunda, njll. Ukuphazamisa, kutuswa ukuba ushintshe isimo bese uhambo. Uma uchitha isikhathi wedwa, khona-ke ngeke ukwazi ukukhohlwa uthando oludala, ngoba imicabango ecasulayo iyomboza njenge-snowball. Esinye isinyathelo esibalulekile sokuthola "ukutakula" kunguquko zangaphandle. Ungaziphakamisi futhi uhambe kumcwaningi omuhle, futhi uzothatha isithombe esisha esizokwenza ukuzethemba futhi sikuvumele ukuqhubekela phambili ngempumelelo. Uma ukudabuka kudlula, izazi zengqondo zincoma ukuthi zizithokozise ngokwazo, zenze noma iyiphi iphupho. Lokhu kuzokuvumela ukuba uthole icala lokumzwela elidingekayo ukubuyisela ukulinganisela ngokomzwelo.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuzwakala kanjani, umsizi ongcono kunalesi simo yisikhathi. Kubalulekile ukuyeka isimo futhi uhambisane nomanje ngaphandle kokubuka emuva.