Indlela yokuphila yomuntu ngamunye iqukethe uchungechunge lokulahlekelwa kanye nokunqoba, ukuwa nokuphakama. Ngesinye isikhathi ngemva komdwebo omnyama, kubonakala sengathi akunakwenzeka ukuqala impilo kusukela ekuqaleni, shintsha. Kukhona njalo indlela yokuphuma. Akufanele sikhohlwe ngalokhu futhi kungenzeka ukuthi siqale ukuphila ngokulula, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwakunzima kangakanani ekuqaleni.
Ungaqala kanjani ukuhlala okusha: iseluleko sabanokusebenza kwengqondo
Isisekelo kwanoma yikuphi ukuqala kufanele sibe nesifiso nesisusa . Ngaphandle kokugcina ngeke kube khona ukunyakaza phambili. Okokuqala, udinga ukugxila emicabangweni yakho, ukuqonda. Qonda ukuthi yini oyifunayo, yiziphi izinguquko. Okulandelayo, kufanele uthathe iphepha bese uchaza yonke imizwa yakho, izifiso, kuyilapho kungeke kwenzeke ukuthi ungaphuthelwa imininingwane encane. Le ncwajana kufanele ibe njalo phambi kwamehlo akho (izikhathi eziningana ngosuku kufanele ifunde kabusha, ikhumbuze ukuthi yini oyifunayo ngempela).
Qala ukuhlala, ngokulawula ngokuzimela imicabango yakho ngendlela oyifunayo, ungakwazi. Ukuze wenze lokhu, akudingeki ukuthi ulungiselele ngokwengqondo lokhu kuphela, kodwa futhi uthathe izinyathelo ezincane nsuku zonke endleleni eya emgomweni oyithandayo. Akunjalo ukuthi kuyadingeka ukuthi uthi kuwe: "Nginesikhathi esiningi. Ngisenesikhathi. " Ukuphila kuthanda kuphela abawinile, labo abazama ukuzibona bona, ukudalula amandla abo okudala, baphile ngendlela abayifunayo.
Indlela yokuqala ukuhlala futhi: ukwesaba ushintsho
Omdala umuntu uba, kunzima kakhulu kuye "ukuzitshela yena." Abaningi bahlushwa indoda engathandeki kuphela ngenxa yokuthi "ngizizwa ngikhululekile naye, ngizizwa ngiphephile" noma yonke intukuthelo iphelelwe amandla ngokuthi "kusasa ukusebenza" futhi asinaso isifiso esincane sokuyishintsha.
Noma yiziphi izinguquko ezimweni eziningi zisho ukuthi kusasa kuyoba kubi nakakhulu. Ukuqala ukuhlala kusukela ekuqaleni kungenzeka kuphela lapho kudlule isikhathi esedlule, lapho kubonakala kungekhona ubuhlungu besikhathi samanje, kodwa njengesipiliyoni. Futhi into ebaluleke kakhulu: nsuku zonke udinga ukusetha imigomo emisha futhi wenze zonke izinhlobo zezinto ozifezekisa.