Umshado ungumbumbano wezinhliziyo ezimbili, okuyisisekelo esisekelwe othandweni, ukuqonda okuhambisanayo nokuhloniphana. Kodwa-ke, ukuphila kuhlanganiswa futhi kuvame ukuveza izinkathazo. Ayikho imishado ekahle, bonke abantu bayaphikisana, baphikisana, futhi ngezinye izikhathi sizwa inkulumo edabukisayo: "Asiqondisisani nomyeni wakhe." Indoda nowesifazane abanobudlelwane bangaba namaphupho ahlukene, izithakazelo nokubukwa empilweni. Izingxabano nokungaqondi kahle kuyinkinga emibhangqwaneni eminingi, ikakhulukazi emindenini emisha, engakafundile ekunciphiseni izinkinga zokuphila ngokwanele futhi athole ukuyekethisa. Ngokuvamile imibhangqwana ayingazi ukuthi benzeni uma kungekho ukuqonda okufanayo emndenini.
Inkinga yokuthula
Ngokuvamile, engafuni ukuxabana, abesifazane bayazinaki izinkinga, bavala amehlo abo, bacabanga ukuthi bazoziqhayisa ngokwabo, bakhethe ukuphepha - ukuthula. Abesifazane baqala ukucabanga ukuthi bangahlala kanjani nabayeni babo, uma kungekho ukuqonda okufanayo. Lezi zinkinga, izikhalazo nokungaqondi kahle ziyaqhubeka futhi ziqale ukuziveza ngokucasuka nokunganeliseki. Indoda izwa izinguquko ebuhlotsheni futhi iqala nokwethuka, kodwa akazi futhi azi ukuthi yini eyamcasula umkakhe nokuthi yisiphi isizathu sezinguquko.
Ngokushesha izinsuku ezinjalo ezinokuthula ziphela ngxabano. Futhi akuwona njalo umbhangqwana ongakwazi ngisho nokuqonda ukuthi kungani konke kuqale, ngoba yonke imoto yezimangalo zomphakathi kanye nezikhalazo zanele. Isizathu esiyinhloko salesi simo siwukuntuleka kokuxhumana emshadweni. Abesilisa kaningi abaqapheli ingxoxo yabesifazane futhi abaqondi ngaso sonke isikhathi amacebo, bathanda ukuqonda futhi ngokuvamile abazi ngisho nezikhalazo ezikhona. Umfazi uzihlupha ngemicabango: "Kungani umyeni wami engaqondi?". Ngenxa yokuhlangenwe nakho okuhlangene nezikhalazo, owesifazane ngokuvamile uhluleka ukwakha izimangalo zakhe ngaphandle kwamacala futhi ngezinye izikhathi ukuthukwa. Ngakho-ke, isisekelo sobuhlobo obuhle yikhono lokukhulumisana.
Kuthiwani uma umyeni wami engenalo ubudlelwano?
Ukukhulumisana phakathi kwabashadile kufanele kube ngokusekelwe ekuqondeni kokubili nokuhloniphana, ukuze kugweme ukungezwani okungadingekile nezingxabano. Abantu bakuthola kunzima ukuveza kahle isimo sabo sengqondo, ukuvimbela imizwelo exubile. Ngenxa yalokho, kunezingxabano ezingokomzwelo, ngokuvamile zikhula zibe izingxabano. Izwi ngegama - futhi ingxabano ayinakuvalwa, ingxoxo evamile ikhula ibe ngumsakazo wezinsolo, futhi ngezinye izikhathi ihlambalaza. Emva kwalezi zingxabano, abesifazane abazi ukuthi bangathola kanjani ukuqonda okufanayo nomyeni wakhe.
Ukuze unciphise izimo ezinjalo, kubalulekile ukuthi ufunde ukulawula imizwelo yakho, futhi kuyadingeka ukuqala ingxoxo ngokusekelwe ezimisweni ezilandelayo:
- zama ukugwema ukukholelwa nokugxeka okubukhali;
- ingxoxo kufanele ibe nokuthula, ngaphandle kokuhlambalaza nokuhlekwa usulu;
- musa ukubusa - siyavuma,
- Asikhubeki futhi singacasuli, sibheka okwakhayo.
Indlela yokufinyelela ukuqonda nomyeni wakhe?
Kuyinto efiselekayo ukukhuluma ngezidingo zomuntu ngaphandle kokugxeka oshade naye ngokuqinile. Uma kuyinkinga yesikhathi esichithwa nabangani, ngakho-ke kufanelekile ukucacisa kusengaphambili ezinye izinto futhi uvumelane. Isibonelo, uma umyeni noma umfazi ephikisana nemihlangano njalo nabangani, ungavuma ukuthi uzohlangana nabo, ngokwesibonelo, ku-cafe noma ubuhle be-salon ngoMgqibelo. Futhi kungcono ukuhlela amaqembu omndeni ohlangene, ukuze oshade naye noma umyeni angaqiniseka ukuthi akukho lutho olungalungile nabangani.
Ukuxazulula izinkinga
Uma sikhuluma ngezixazululo ezikhona ezinkingeni ezivela phakathi kwalabo abashadile, kufanele kuqala sivulele umlingani. Kodwa ungayeki ngokushesha. Izingxabano eziningi ziphela, ngoba ohlangothini olulodwa luza ukushiya izimangalo zalo. Lokhu kungaholela ekuxabaneni esikhathini esizayo, ngoba inkinga
Ukuze ugweme isimo esinjalo, kubalulekile ukuchaza ngokucacile iziphi izici zokuphila komndeni eziyisisekelo, futhi kuyoba nzima ukuwenqaba. Yiqiniso, ukuchaza ububanzi balezi zimiso ezibalulekile, kuyinto efiselekayo yokusebenzisa ukuvimbela futhi ukhethe okubaluleke kakhulu, okudingekayo ngenjabulo yakho. Kukhona umuntu okungaba: ukungabi namalungelo okukhwabanisa, ukushaya, amaqembu avamile nabangane, utshwala, njll. Into ebaluleke kakhulu futhi ebaluleke kakhulu! Futhi kulokho okunye, umshado uyisivumelwano.
Yiqiniso, akuzona zonke izinkinga ezilula ukuxazulula, kule nqubo kuyadingeka ukuba ube nokubekezela nokubekezela.