Abazali abanothando bafuna ukunikeza izingane zabo okuhle: ukudla, izingubo, amathoyizi. Bazungezile ngolwandle nothando nomzwelo. Kodwa kwenzeka ukuthi umama nobaba bathokozele ingane, bangalokothi banqabe noma yikuphi ukushaywa kwakhe. Khona-ke umhlukumezi omncane ukhula engaboni, efuna ngokujulile lokho akufunayo. Abazali bayamangala lapho futhi ingane yabo isiba kanjani futhi. Futhi umbuzo oyinhloko, uma ingane ewonakele isemndenini, yikuphi okumele ukwenze?
Yini echithwe?
Ukuhlwithwa ekufundiseni kubheka ingane ekhubazekile. Ukuhlukumeza kwenzeka lapho abazali bephikisa umqondo wokuthi "bafundise" nomqondo wokuthi "ukuphakamisa", okuwukuthi, ukugqoka nokudla. Amama namadodakazi amaningi asinaso isikhathi samahhala sokunikeza isizukulwane esincane, ukusebenza amahora angu-10 noma ngaphezulu ngosuku. Ukwehliswa kubonakala nangendlela ehlukile yabazali nogogo nomkhulu ekufundeni. Lapho izingane zibhujiswa, zihlukaniswa ngokuziqhenya, ubugovu, ukuzimela kubazali nentando yabo. Izimpiputheko zizinzile ngokomzwelo futhi azi ukuthi zingakha kanjani ubuhlobo nabangane. Izingane ezinjalo zisetshenziselwa ukuthola lokho abazifunayo ekufuneni futhi abazi igama elithi "cha" noma "cha." Lapho bezama ukwenqaba ukuthenga omunye umshini, amadodakazi agxuma ngezinyembezi, eshaya izandla phansi, njll.
Indlela yokulungisa ingane encane?
Ukufeza le njongo, abazali kudingeka babe nesineke futhi baqine. Phela, umntwana uzofanele afundiswe ukuyeka izifiso zakhe. Okokuqala, khuluma nengane bese uchaza isizathu sokwenqaba. Chaza ukuthi awuyikufeza isifiso sakhe, hhayi ngenxa yokuthi awuthandi, kodwa ngenxa yokuthi kunesizathu esinqunyiwe. Kungenzeka ukuthi ingane izoqonda futhi iqhume ama-hysteric engekho. Uma kusetshenziselwa izinyembezi nokukhala, ungashintshi ukukhanya kwakho. Kungcono uye ekamelweni elilodwa noma uvule ukuphakama kwe-TV. Ngokuqinisekile lo mfana uzokhathala ngokumemeza, futhi ngemva kwemizuzu engu-20 uzoyeka. Ingane kumele ifunde ukwabelana ngemibono "engenakwenzeka" futhi "ingakwazi." Sebenzisa imisho enjengokuthi "akunakwenzeka", "ungavumeli", ukuwabiza ngezwi eliqinile.
Yeka ukuthi ungalimaza kanjani ingane?
Uma abazali bengathandi ukulimaza izingane zabo, kufanelekile ukunamathela kwezinye izincomo:
- Ungenzelani lo mntwana lokho angakwenza khona.
- Ukunamathela embusweni "Cha - kusho ukuthi cha!" Njalo ngaphandle kokuvunyelwa.
- Khuthaza ukwamukela ukuziphatha okuhle okufisayo, ukugcwaliseka kwemisebenzi.
- Ukubheka isithembiso samanye amalungu omndeni ukuze angene ekubhujisweni kwezingane.