Inkinga yokwesaba komuntu omdala ayivuki ngokulingana okulingana - izimpande zawo zivela ebuntwaneni. Umama onamahloni akabangeli izinkinga ekukhuliseni, ngakho-ke kubhekwa njengesibonelo sokulingisa futhi kuphela ngeminyaka lo mkhuba wobuciko uqala ukukhathazeka.
Kungani ingane ihlazekile?
Izizathu zokuthi umntwana abe namahloni, abambalwa futhi azibonele akakwazi njalo. Umntanakho uyaqinela bona:
- unesimo esithile sezinto eziphilayo, esizuzwa ngabazali abanamahloni;
- emndenini, inkinga ihleka usulu uma ingane engamahloni ingatholi ukwesekwa futhi isimo siphuthumisiwe;
- ingane yayinzima kuye isimo esicindezelayo (ukuthuthela endaweni entsha yokuhlala, ukushintsha izikole, ukufa kwezihlobo);
- uhlale ecasulwa esikoleni , akhethe isisulu sokuhlekwa usulu.
Izingane ezinamahloni - izincomo kubazali
Umntanakho uyaqinela - lokho okumele ukwenze kuleso simo akusobala ngaso sonke isikhathi, ngoba okuningi kuxhomeke kuneminyaka kanye nemininingwane yenkinga. Kunoma yikuphi, uma ingane ingabaza ukuphendula esifundweni, noma inkinga ivele eminyakeni yobudala, kunezinkambiso eziningi ezizovumela abazali ukuba bathinte kahle isimo. Kubalulekile ukusebenzisa lezi zindlela ngokuhambisana nomunye nomunye hhayi ukuyeka, ukufuna izindlela ezintsha:
- Izingane ezindala zingakhuluma ngamahloni abo, okwenzeka empilweni yabazali. Uma ingane ibona ukuthi akuyena yedwa ekuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe, kuyoba lula ngaye ukunqoba amahloni akhe.
- Uma umntwana engabaza enkulisa, amathuba okumenza ahlalisane aphezulu kakhulu. Mvakashele kaningi ezindaweni zomphakathi: emibonisweni, esekisini, emantanjeni wezingane ukuze abe namathuba amaningi okuxhumana ngangokunokwenzeka. Kuhle, uma ingane ikhula "kancane" nabangani bakhe, okuzoba nayo izithakazelo ezifanayo.
- Kubalulekile ukukhuthaza ingane enamahloni ngomsebenzi wakhe , ukukhombisa isinyathelo ekukhulumisaneni, ngokushintshwa okuncane kakhulu.
- Asikho isimo okufanele ingane enamahloni izwe kubazali namalungu omndeni noma yikuphi ukuhleka usulu ekhelini labo mayelana namahloni, inkulumo engalungile, ukungazi kwamaqiniso awaziwayo.
- Ukulungisa lesi simo, kuyadingeka ukusebenzisa imidlalo yokudlala indima nezingane , lapho izimo ezisesabisa kakhulu zisetshenziswa.
Hlonipha izingane zezingane zasenkulisa
Uma ingane enamahloni enkulisa inamahloni ukutshela inkondlo noma ukudansa kumama, abadala (abazali, othisha) bazama konke ukulungisa isimo. Kodwa esikhundleni sezinyane liba yiziqu ezengeziwe. Lapho ebona abantu abangabazi, umntwana uzizwa esengozini nakakhulu uma ezwa ukuhlukumeza okungenasidingo ekhelini lakhe. Uma uthola indlela efanele (futhi kungcono ukukwenza ngosizo lwe-psychologist yengane), lapho uneminyaka engama-5 kunengqondo ngempela ukunqoba ukuthobeka ngokweqile.
Ngamahloni esikoleni
Uma ingane ingabaza ukuphendula esifundweni, iseluleko somqondo wezokwelapha sihlanganisa ukulungiswa okufanele okufaka:
- vakashela ochwepheshe wezinkulumo nenkulumo efanele;
- amakilasi e-logic ekuthuthukiseni ukucabanga;
- isimo sengqondo esihle kumntwana emndenini;
- isimo sengqondo esifanele sokutadisha;
- ukuvakashela imibuthano ehlukahlukene yesithakazelo, ukuxhumana okuphezulu noontanga.
Indodana enamahloni - indlela yokunqoba ukwesaba kokuxhumana
Izazi ze-psychologists zezingane zifundisa indlela yokufundisa ingane ukuba ingabi namahloni, kodwa abazali bayo bayolandela izincomo zabo, ngoba ingane iba nethemba kakhulu. Into eyigugu kakhulu futhi elula isihlobo esingayinika ingane ukuxhumana. Isikhathi esiningi osibona ngaso sonke isikhathi, lapho amakilasi enza isithakazelo esiqotho kubo bobabili amaqembu, nakakhulu ongayilindela. Ngokuba amancane inganekwane kanye nezimo game kuyoba usizo olukhulu kakhulu ekulwa namanyala.
Imidlalo yezingane zasenkulisa ezinamahloni
Kukhona imidlalo ehlukahlukene yezingane ezinamahloni, okuzosiza ingane ukuba ikhululeke kakhulu. Udinga ukuwasebenzisa izikhathi eziningana ngosuku, ukushintsha njalo futhi ukhethe okusha:
- "Ukuncoma", "Okuhle", "Wishes". Le midlalo ikhulisa ukuzethemba kwezingane, isiza ukwandisa isilulumagama futhi ikwazi ukulalela amazwana amahle ekhelini lawo.
- I-Zoo. Umdlalo onjalo uzomsiza ingane ukuba ishintshe kusuka ebuthakathakeni obuthakathaka ibe yingonyama futhi ikwazi ukukhuluma iphinde ibuyisane nesilwane esinamandla.
- "Phendula, ungaqhubeki!", "Thatha ibhola." Imincintiswano yezemidlalo kufanelekile kulabo abalahlekile lapho beyilalela.
- "Ukudlala Amathoyizi", "Ngibambe". Le midlalo ihlose ukukhululwa komzimba.
- "Amahansi nama-Wolf". Ngosizo lwezemidlalo ezisebenzayo, izingane zifunda ukukhulula ukucindezeleka okungadingekile.
Izindabakwane zezingane ezinamahloni
Lapho abazali bengamazi ukuthi bangakwazi kanjani ukuhlukunyezwa kwengane, izazi zengqondo zeluleka ukuthi sisebenzise ukwelashwa kwe-fairytale . Ukubona izinhlamvu zabo ezizithandayo nokuzikhomba nabo ezimweni ezinzima, ezifana nezingokoqobo, ukuzivocavoca okunjalo kungcono kakhulu kubantwana abaphakathi kweminyaka emithathu kuya kweyisikhombisa. Izinhlobonhlobo zezinganekwane, ukudlala ezungeze izimo ezahlukene zingatholakala kwinethiwekhi yomhlaba wonke noma zakhiwe ngokuzimela. Into eyinhloko ukuthi kufanele babe nokulandisa okulula nesiphetho esinengqondo. Ingane enamahloni