Abamele abaningi besilisa ocansini bayaqiniseka ukuthi uma "ungafuni" - kusho ukuthi kukhona okungalungile kuwe. Yiqiniso, lesi sitatimende sithinteka kakhulu, futhi kusukela lapha kuza ukuchazwa ngokweqile kokusuka kobulili besifazane. Phela, lokhu akuyona nje ukwakheka okwenyusa futhi okujulile kwe-decollete, kodwa ikhono lokuzithoba kulokho okudingekayo - ohlangothini lwezinsizwa. Futhi imfihlo eyinhloko yobunqunu besifazane ikwazi ukwazi ukukwenza.
Ziyini izimfihlo zobungqingili besifazane?
Ngokusho kochwepheshe, umqondo wokuthi "ubulili besifazane" uhlanganisa izingxenye eziningana:
- Ubuntombi buyisilisa, "i-asexual", owesifazane ngeke akhiphe isifiso, ngakho-ke, angeke acatshangelwe ngokocansi.
- Ukuzithemba - isakhiwo esiyinkimbinkimbi, sigxile emaphutheni abo kuphela, owesifazane akasoze abe ocansini.
- Imfihlakalo yangaphakathi yinto ethile yokungaqiniseki; mhlawumbe ukunganaki, noma, ngokuphambene, ukungenafinyeleleki; inhlanganisela engalindelekile yezimfanelo ezithile zomlingiswa noma okuthandayo, yilokho konke okukhishwa emibonweni, imibono yendabuko, into engalindelekile.
Izimfihlo zobungqingili besifazane nazo zingathinta izakhi ezingokomoya ezijulile. Lokhu kubonisiwe, isibonelo, emfundisweni yasendulo yamaShayina eyaziwayo njengeTaoism.
Izimfihlo zeTaoist zobungqingili besifazane
Ngokwalo mqondo wefilosofi, owesifazane ungumlondolozi wamandla angcwele, abese ehlanganyela nomyeni wakhe. Futhi ukuze angalahlekelwa amandla akhe, kodwa ukuze akhulise, kufanele aqonde ngokukhethekile izimfihlo zobungqingili besifazane. Okokuqala, unakekele impilo yakho; okwesibili, ungakhohlwa ngokuzithandela; okwesithathu, ukujabula nsuku zonke; okwesine, ukuthola ubuhle kukho konke. Kubuye kubalulekile ukutadisha umzimba wakho kanye nemingcele yecala layo ukuze ukwazi ukuyisebenzisa ngendlela efanele.
Imfihlakalo Yezobulili Ze-Geisha
Isibonelo sokukhanga kwesifazane emhlabeni jikelele yiziJapane "abapristikazi bothando" be-geisha. Futhi banemfihlo yabo yezocansi. Okokuqala, ukuqeqeshwa - owesifazane wangempela, owazi umqondo wothando lwenyama, ungaba yindlela yokuqeqeshwa eside. Okwesibili, ingqondo ecebile iyingxenye ebalulekile yokuheha abesifazane. Yingakho i-geisha iyadingeka ukwazi izilimi eziningana, ubuciko be-classical, njll. Okwesithathu, ungesabi ukuba ngumzimba, ungafihleli ubulili bakho, kodwa uwenze kahle futhi ngesithunzi.