Umqondo ovamile kungumqondo ongekho emthethweni, okuyilokho okumele kube okufanayo, kodwa, njengoba kuvela kaningi, kuhluka ezinhlobonhlobo eziningi. Ngezinye izikhathi kunomqondo wokuthi ukuqonda okunomqondo uhlobo oluthile lwesigaba esingenganekwane, lapho abaningi abathandekayo bethu bathanda ukukhala:
- "Wenza okuphambene nomqondo ovamile!"
- "Lokhu kuphikisana nomqondo ovamile!"
- "Akukho lutho kulokho! Kuhle-ngakho isiqiniseko! "
Ngaki izikhathi esizizwile lezi zinkulumo kusuka kumama namadodakazi ethu, kubathandekayo bethu ngisho nabaphathi emsebenzini. Bavame ukusitshela lokhu ngoba ezinye zezenzo zethu "azifanelanga" emfanekisweni wazo wezwe. Lokho, ngokujwayelekile, kuyaqondakala, ngoba abantu banokuhlangenwe nakho okuhlukile kwaminyaka ehlukene, izizukulwane nokukhuliswa.
Ngokwemfundiso, ukuqonda okuvamile kuyinhlanganisela yemibono nokuphendula ezweni elizungezile. Nguye lowo, ngokusemthethweni, ongaphansi kokuziphatha komuntu. Lena yindlela ejwayelekile yokuziphatha kwalokho okwenzeka emhlabeni, amakhono namaphuzu athile ezizukulwaneni zonke zabantu, izikhathi kanye nokubukeka lapho bebumbene khona futhi ngaleyo ndlela - bawamukela lo mfanekiso wokucabanga - ilungelo nokulungile. Umqondo ovamile ubophezela kakhulu umphakathi kumasiko.
Umqondo ovamile ezweni lanamuhla
Izazi zefilosofi ziye zachaza igama elithi "ukuqonda", njengento umuntu engokwemvelo, ayamukela ngokungaqondi iqiniso. Idluliselwa kusuka esizukulwaneni kuya esizukulwaneni, kusukela kumzali kuya kwengane. Lokhu kungukuhlakanipha kwabantu nokuqonda okuvamile.
Kodwa-ke, kufanelekile ukuvuma ukuthi esikhathini sethu umphakathi usebenzisa le nkulumo kunalokho ukugcizelela ukungabi nalutho kwezenzo zale muntu noma lowo muntu. Ukuziqhenya kuhlangothini lwabo. Umqondo ovamile uwuhlobo 'lomfowethu omkhulu', i-antipode yokuzwela, ukucindezela, ukuziphatha komzwelo, futhi ngezinye izikhathi, ngisho nokuzidela. Ukwenza ngokuphambene nomqondo ovamile kusho ukungenzi uncharacteristic, kubantu abaningi, izenzo.
Ngokuvamile leli gama lizwakala kubantu "abangewona leli zwe," okungukuthi, abantu abadala, noma ekhelini lentsha. Ngokuvamile abasebenzi ngendlela ejwayelekile futhi ulwazi oluvamile luthi. "Ukunciphisa" okunjalo ezindinganisweni ezamukelekayo kanye nemigomo kwenza kube lula ukucabanga, ukusetha izinto ezintsha, ukuthuthukisa nokudala.
Mhlawumbe, okokuqala - ukuthembela ekuhlakanipheni - ngempela isibambiso sokuthuthukiswa okulinganiselwe nokwazi kahle komuntu emphakathini. Ngokuphelele ukulahlekelwa kwakhe - amathuba okuthi 'ungabambelela' esimweni esithile esingathandeki: ukubuyela ekhaya intombazane eyodwa esikhathini esizayo nasendaweni emnyama - engenakho ukuqonda; sebenzisa ibhizinisi (umsebenzi, ukutadisha), ungenzi lokho okumele ukwenze - futhi akukona okunengqondo. Zombili lezi zizokwenza kube nemiphumela ethile. Umbuzo owodwa kuphela: ingabe yilo miphumela oyifunayo?
Kodwa ungakholelwa ukuthi ngokungazelelwe uyakuyeka ukwenza lokho okulangazelayo nokufunayo. Isimo sokuzivikela singaphakathi kwethu futhi ngeke sivumele ukuba sizibulale. Uma umuntu eqonda ingqondo ejwayelekile yikhono lokwenza isinqumo esifanele esekelwe esimweni esinikezwe kumuntu, ukwenza ukucabanga okulungile, okuzobe kusekelwe ekucabangeni okunengqondo nangolwazi olutholwe eminyakeni eminingi. Ekhuluma ngokuthi omunye umuntu unalo ikhwalithi yokucabanga, sisho ukuthi umuntu uyakwazi ukumelana nokubandlulula, ukwesaba nokukhohliswa. Ukuthi okuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe kukwanele ukuhlaziya ngokufanele yonke idatha bese wenza isinqumo esihle kunazo zonke. Futhi lokhu kukhetho kuyoba ukungahambisani phakathi kwabantu nomhlaba.