Akuyona imfihlo kunoma ubani ukuthi umhlaba wangaphakathi womuntu uyinto eguqukayo njalo ekuphileni. Umzuzwana nje ungasenza sihluke ngokuphelele kunokuba sasingomzuzu owodwa edlule. Futhi-ke, okuphakathi kwethu kubonakala ekuziphatheni kwethu. Ikakhulukazi, liphathelene nomlingisi. Yonke imicimbi esibhekana nayo ithinta indlela yethu yokuziphatha ngayinye. Futhi kungaba okungalungile ukungazinaki izimo nezinqubo zokubunjwa komlingiswa. Okungenani ukuze siqonde ukuthi kanjani futhi sithole kanjani lezi noma ezinye izici zobuntu ezivela kithi.
Ukuthuthukiswa nokubunjwa kohlamvu
Isici singabizwa ngokuqiniseka ngokuthi isisekelo sobuntu. Lona uhlobo oluyisisekelo, oluvumela indlela ethile yokuphendula ezibonakalweni ezihlukahlukene zokuphila. Inkinga yokubunjwa kwamakhemikhali iye yacatshangelwa yisayensi amashumi eminyaka ambalwa. Ngokuvamile bakholelwa ukuthi le mbono yezimfanelo zomuntu ngamunye yatholwa okokuqala nguJulius Bansen, owayebheka umlingiswa njengesethi sezimfanelo ezithile zobuntu. Emva kwakhe, izazi zengqondo ezinamazwe omhlaba (Freud, Jung, Adler) zibheke ukubunjwa kobuciko bomuntu njengenqubo engaphezu kokuqaphela futhi ebangelwa ucansi noma ezinye izisusa. Namuhla, umbuzo ukuthi yiziphi izinhlobo zobunjwa, ama-anthropologists nawo ahlanganyela. Into abakuqaphela ngayo ukubaluleka komlingiswa womuntu ngamunye.
Izinto ezithonya ukwakheka kohlamvu
Ukwakheka nokuguqulwa kohlamvu kuyinkqubo ethatha ingxenye enkulu yokuphila. Ukuba nezimfanelo zobuntu ezifakiwe zithatha izakhi zofuzo zabazali, umuntu unyaka nonyaka, njenge-anyanisi eqala ukukhuphuka ngezigaba ezahlukene zezimfanelo nezimfanelo ezakhiwe ngokuyinhloko ngaphansi kwethonya lemvelo yomphakathi lapho ikhula khona futhi ikhule. Yingakho izindlela zokwakheka komlingiswa zibe nesithakazelo esikhethekile kwabangokwengqondo. Futhi, naphezu kokuthi le nqubo inomlingiswa ngamunye, umqondo wendabuko awukhanseliwe. Futhi izigaba eziyinhloko zokwakheka komlingiswa zimi kanje:
- Isikhathi esithile lapho umthelela kumuntu ozayo ozoqala ukubizwa kuyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu. Kwezinye izazi zengqondo le nqubo ichazwa cishe kusukela ekuzalweni, kwezinye - mhlawumbe kusukela eminyakeni emibili. Kunoma yikuphi, kufanelekile ukukhumbula ukuthi isikhathi esivela eminyakeni emibili kuya kweyishumi yisikhathi sokwamukelwa okhethekile kwengane kulokho esitsheliwe nokuthi abantu abadala baziphatha kanjani eceleni kwakhe. Futhi, ungakhohlwa ngezindlela zokuphila ezibeka isici kumlingisi ozayo. Lokhu kubandakanya ukufutheka.
- Into elandelayo eyathonya ukwakhiwa komlingiswa osevele usekhona esikoleni semfundo yasenkulisa, yiqiniso, izinga lokubamba iqhaza kwengane kwimisebenzi yeqembu nemidlalo. Okuhlangenwe nakho okunjalo ukusebenzisana okunomntwana kunomntwana, kungcono ukuthi kuhlakulele izici ezinjengokuzibandakanya, ukunemba, ukuzethemba, njll. Kodwa kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi ezinye izindlela zokuhlanganyela zingakwazi ukubhubhisa ukuthambekela kwezinye izici.
- Esikhathini sesikole, cishe eminyakeni engu-7-15, isakhi somzwelo somuntu senziwa. Ukuthuthukiswa kwezici ezithile kuxhomeke ezingeni lokuzihlonipha kwentsha, isimo sengqondo sabafundisi nontanga kuye, kanye nomthelela wezindaba (i-intanethi, ithelevishini, njll). Iminyaka engaba ngu-15-17 umuntu kakade unesethi yezimfanelo ezithile zangaphakathi ezizohlala zingashintshi kulo lonke impilo yakhe. Ukuzilungisa kuzokwazi kuphela umuntu ngokwakhe ngenxa yokuthuthukiswa okuqhubekayo futhi asebenze ngokwabo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kokubili kokuhle (umsebenzi, ukuzifunda), kanye nokubi (ukubhema, ukusebenzisa kabi utshwala).
- Ngesikhathi sama-25-30, ukwakheka komlingiswa kuhlanganisa ukuhamba "kokunganeka" (maximalism, ukuqonda, njll) kanye nokuvela kwesixhumanisi esinengqondo (umthwalo wemisebenzi yomuntu, ukuqonda, njll).
- Ngemuva kweminyaka engu-30 yokushintshwa komlingiswa,
njengomthetho, asisekho. Okuhlukile kungase kube ukugula kwengqondo noma ukucindezeleka. Ngeminyaka engama-50, abantu, njengombuso, sebevele bahlanganyela nezinhlobonhlobo zamafantasti namaphupho bese baqala ukuphila ngokuvumelana "lapha nalapha." Omdala umuntu uba, isikhala esiningi ekuphileni kwakhe okuqala ukuqala ukuhlala. Ikakhulukazi isici ngokuqala kokuguga.
Ngakho-ke, ekuqaleni kokuphila, isisekelo sithonya lomndeni kanye nemvelo yomphakathi ekubunjweni komlingiswa. Kodwa omdala lowo muntu uba, ikusasa lincike ekusebenziseni wena kanye nezwe lakho langaphakathi.