Inhlanhla yilelo mfanelo, okuvela kulowo muntu okufanele alahleke, ngoba ayiniki lutho kumuntu, kodwa kuthatha okuningi kuye. Ngenxa yamahloni, ungakwazi ukweqa ukujwayelana okumnandi noma umsebenzi othembisayo. Amahloni akwehlisa amathuba futhi akhiqize ukungavikeleki, ukuthembela emibono yabanye kanye nobuthakathaka bomlingiswa. Abantu abanjalo bangasetshenziswa kalula, njengoba bengasetshenziselwa ukuvikela imibono yabo, ukuvumela abantu abanamandla ukuba bafake intando yabo kubo.
Ungakuyeka kanjani ukuba namahloni nokwesaba abantu?
Kuneminye imithetho esitshela indlela yokuyeka ukuvalwa futhi nehloni. Okokuqala, yiba umlaleli omuhle. Esikhundleni sokucabanga ukuthi ubukeka kanjani nokuthi abanye bacabangani ngawe, thatha ingxenye eqotho ekulaleleni abanye abantu. Ngokuqinisekile bayakwazisa. Okwesibili, zama ukugxila ezintweni ezithile. Uma imicabango yakho ihlala, uzophoqeleka ukuba ukhohlwe ngamahloni akho. Kunenye indlela eqinisekile yokuchaza ukuthi uzizwa ukhululekile kanjani ukukhuluma nabantu. Kubalulekile ukuba umuntu ovulekile. Ungakwazi ukuchaza isimo kudayari yakho, bese kubhulogi, futhi ekugcineni uyibeke kwinethiwekhi yokuxhumana nabantu. Ukuxhumana ngokuphila nabantu ngeke kubangele ukuhlazeka okukhulu.
Ukuze uphendule umbuzo wokuthi ungamisa kanjani amahloni abantu, amanye amacebo azosiza. Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuphakamisa ukuzethemba.
Ngenxa yalokhu ungazitshela ukuthi: "Nginguye ongcono kakhulu, ngithanda mina," njalonjalo.
Ukuzivocavoca okuhle, ukutshela indlela yokungabi namahloni abantu, ukuhlanganisa uhlu lwempumelelo yabo eyikhulu. Lokhu kungafana nezihlanu ezitholiwe esikoleni, futhi ukunqoba kwesinyathelo esilandelayo sezinga lomsebenzi. Uhlu olunjalo lungaqhutshwa nawe nge-elektroniki bese uphinde ufunde ngemizuzu yamanyala.