Awu, lo mdala oneminyaka engu-16 ubudala, lapho ekhanda usugcwele uthando lomusha futhi kungaba nesifiso sokuzama konke, okungasinika impilo, hhayi ukulalela abafundisi abadala. Ukuphela kwesikhathi sokukhula kuyisifiso sokubamba ngandlela-thile ikakhulukazi, ukuze imizwelo emangalisayo nezimanga zingashiyi isikhathi sokudabuka. Ngakho-ke, umbuzo wokuthi ungcono kanjani ukugubha usuku lokuzalwa lweshumi nambili lwentombazane, ukukhathazeka njalo, kokubili amantombazane okuzalwa nabathandekayo babo.
Ukulungiselela ukugubha iminyaka engu-16
Kuyinto efiselekayo ukuba abazali banakekele ukugubha leli holide nendodakazi yabo. Yisho igama lomuntu omdala futhi ufanelwe ilungelo lokuxoxa uhlu lwabavakashi, kanye nokukhethwa kwendawo lapho lo mcimbi ozobe usubanjwe khona. Uma kwenzeka ukuthi ukungavumelani kukhulu kakhulu, kungenzeka, ngendlela yokwehlisa, ukuhlukanisa umhlangano wesigubhu se-16 zibe izingxenye ezimbili - umndeni kanye nentsha. Ekuqaleni, intombazane enezihlobo ingazigubha igama ngosuku etafuleni lekhaya, bese uya e-cafe noma eqenjini leqembu elinabangane abakhulu.
Ukugubha iminyaka eyi-16 yentombazane?
Indlela yomndeni kunazo zonke ukugubha noma yiliphi usuku-igama ukuhlela kubo efulethini lakho noma ezweni. Uma unendlu enkulu yezwe, yiba ne-brazier yakho futhi ube nendawo ethokomele yepikinikini, ngakho akudingeki ukuthi ukhokhe izibalo eziningi zokudlela. Inkinga yokugubha usuku lokuzalwa lwe-16 yentombazane ehlobo noma ekwindla zakuqala ixazululwa ngokushesha futhi ngokumangalisayo ehlala ehlobo. Udinga nje ukubeka ingqondo encane ngokubhala umbhalo wokugubha umkhosi, yakha imenyu futhi ucabange ngokucophelela ngendlela engcono yokuhlobisa indawo yomkhosi kanye nomdanso wokudansa. Isimemo endlini yomethuli ochwepheshe, abaculi kanye nomthwebuli wezithombe njalo ubiza inani elizungezile, kodwa nalaba bantu noma yiliphi iholide lidlula kakade ezingeni eliphakeme, liphenduka umkhosi ongasoze ulibaleka.
Uphi ukuzalwa kwezinsuku ezingu-16 zentombazane eyayikugubha ekuqaleni futhi ingakhohlwa?
Uma imikhosi evamile emndenini intombazane yakho yokuzalwa ayikhohlisi futhi ingumthandi wezinto ezihlukahlukene, ngakho-ke kufanelekile ukubamba imikhosi ezayo ezifundeni ezinhle ngezibuyekezo ezinhle, ezenzelwe ngokuzilibazisa nokuzijabulisa. Manje kulula ukuhlela umncintiswano wepayipi, uhambo lwebhaluni, vakashela iklabhu ye-Bowling noma ipaki yamanzi enhle. Ngaphezu kwalokho, namuhla kunezinketho eziningi, ukugubha iminyaka engu-16 yentombazane ngendlela yokuthakazelisa komdlalo. Ezinye izinkampani zenza inhlangano yezinbuzo zamazinga ahlukene ezinkimbinkimbi ezindaweni ezingavamile, ezikwazi ukuletha imizwelo eminingi kumfana wesuku lokubeletha kanye nezivakashi zayo kuzo zonke izintandokazi.