Nsuku zonke endleleni ayikho indoda eyodwa, abanye baphonsa ukubukeka okuthakazelisayo futhi badumisa izindinganiso ezingahlanzekile, kodwa lokhu sekuphela. Ngakho ungamthola kanjani umuntu ukuba abe nesithakazelo kuye? Abantu abaningi bacabanga ukuthi kuyoba nengubo evulekile evulekile kanye nezikhonkwane ezide ukuqala ukubona izimpawu zomuntu onomdlandla. Kodwa lena yindlela kuphela yokubheka kuqala, ukuthola isithakazelo esimeme kakhulu kuzomele uzuze izingubo ezinhle kuphela.
Indlela yokunqoba indoda?
Ngaphambi kokwenza uhlelo olulimazayo, kudingeke ukuthi ufunde kabanzi mayelana nento oyithandayo. Ngoba izindlela zokukhohlisa umuntu osebenza naye mahhala emsebenzini futhi indoda eshadile ayikwazi ukusiza kepha ihluke. Yiqiniso, akudingekile ukuba uqoqe imininingwane ephelele, kodwa ukuthola okungenani ulwazi oluthile mayelana nomlingiswa noma izintshisekelo zalo, alulimazi. Ngakho-ke, kufanele nje ubonise isithakazelo sakho, uzama ukuhlala naye esimweni esingavamile kaningi noma ukuxhumana ngezihloko ezingabonakali. Endabeni yomsebenzi osebenza naye, ikhefu lesidlo sasemini noma umhlangano endaweni yokubhema kungenzeka ukuthi kufanelekile. Futhi lezi ziqondiso ezilandelayo zizokusiza ukuba ugweme amaphutha ajwayelekile kakhulu.
- Ukukhulumisana njalo, kuhle, kepha ukuphenduka umshushisi akufanele. Mshiye kanye nawe ngokwesikhala samahhala, ungasilahli imiyalezo, futhi ngezinye izikhathi wenqaba ukuhlangana.
- Uma unquma ukwabelana naye ngemizwa yakho, ungabe ushiseka kakhulu. Ngisho nomuntu osondelene naye angakwazi ukukhathala ngokugcoba njalo.
- Ungazami ukulandela iseluleko sabamagazini bezemfashini, ukudala intombazane ephupho: ngamakhono engqondo alinganiselayo, kodwa ukulungiswa kahle kahle nokuzithoba ngokuphelele. Ufuna ukuba athande nawe, hhayi esithombeni esicacile.
- Mphathe ngenhlonipho, ungangabazi amakhono okhethiweyo wakho, kodwa ungacabangi kakhulu. Akekho ophelele, ngakho-ke bobabili kufanele namukele omunye ngazo zonke izinkinga.
- Uma ucabanga ukuthi ungathwala kanjani indoda eshadile, kuzodingeka uqonde ukuthi kungani uyidinga. Ingabe ufuna ukuthatha indawo yomkakhe noma ulinde into engeyona ebophayo? Esikhathini sokuqala, kuzodingeka uqaphele ngokukhethekile, ngoba akekho ozonikeza isiqinisekiso kumuntu ukuthi ngokushada ngeke athole ikhophi yomlingani osevele ekhona. Ukhetho lwesibili
ukulula okulula ukubulawa, kodwa lokhu kuyadingeka okungenani kanye ukubuka umkakhe ukuqonda ukuthi yini emkhayeni womndeni akwanele, thola amaphuzu abuthakathaka.
Ukuthi yonke imizamo yakho ayilona ize izitshela izimpawu zendoda enomdlandla. Isibonelo, ukushintsha isiteji sezwi kuya esithambile ne-velvet ngenkathi kukhulumisana nawe, isifiso sokuheha, ukuthola ama-pretexts emihlanganweni emisha nawe. Ngezinye izikhathi lapho ukhuluma nentombazane ethakazelisayo indoda ibonisa izimpawu zokwesaba, ilahlekelwa yizinga lokukhuluma noma libukeka lihlazekile.