Kungani umntwana ephenduka okwesibhakabhaka ngesikhathi ekhala?
Ngezinye izikhathi omama abasha abazi ukuthi kungani ingane yabo ihamba ngesikhathi sokukhala isikhathi eside futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo iphenduka blue. Into yukuthi kulo mzuzu ukuthi emaphashini omntwana omncane okhalayo cishe wonke umoya uphuma, futhi ngenxa yalokho ukhululeka ngomlomo ovuliwe kancane, awukwazi ukukhuluma umsindo owodwa. Indlela yokwenza lokhu kuhlaselwa yizizwelo ezinobudlova, okungabangelwa kokubili ukukhungatheka nenjabulo enganeni.
Indlela yokunquma ukuhlaselwa kwe-affective-ukuphefumula ngendlela efanele?
Isizathu sokuthi ingane ihamba futhi iphendukele okwesibhakabhaka, kungase kube nezinhlobo ezimbili zokuhlasela okuphefumulayo-ukuphefumula.
Ngakho okokuqala, "ukuhlaselwa okuphaphathekile" - kungenxa yesifo sobuhlungu esivela ngenxa yokuwa, ukushaya isisu ngisho nokuphazamiseka. Izimpawu zayo eziyinhloko yizikhumba eziphaphathekile, kunzima ukubhebhethekisa umoya, ukulibaziseka isikhathi esifushane enhliziyweni nokuphelelwa amandla.
Kodwa-ke, "ukuhlaselwa okwesibhakabhaka" kuvame kakhulu, okumele kubonakale kungavumelani nokungazinaki kwengane. Umgomo oyinhloko wengane ezimweni ezinjalo ukuthola, ngandlela-thile, oyifunayo.
Indlela yokuziphatha ekuhlaseleni okuphefumulayo-ukuphefumula?
Ngezinye izikhathi amama alahlekelwe, angazi ukuthi benzeni lapho umntwana eqala futhi ephenduka okwesibhakabhaka. Ezimweni ezinjalo, awukwazi ukungabaza. Ngakho, indlela elandelayo isebenza ngempumelelo, okusiza kakhulu, lapho ingane ingagcini nje kuphela, kodwa futhi ilahlekelwe ukwazi. Ukuqala, ngqo ngqo ebusweni bakhe umfudlana womoya noma ufafaze ngamanzi. Uma lokhu kungakusizi, zama ukuyibeka ekuzizwa ngezihlathi ezishayiwe.